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living your best life

  1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, SMILE. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
  2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
  3. When you wake up in the morning, Pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.
  4. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
  5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli and almonds.
  6. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
  7. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
  8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper.
  9. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!
  11. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  12. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  13. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
  14. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
  17. Help the needy, Be generous! Be a ‘Giver’, not a ‘Taker’.
  18. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  19. Time heals everything.
  20. However good or bad a situation, it will change.
  21. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family will. Stay in touch.
  22. Envy is a waster of time. You already have all you need.
  23. Each night before you go to bed, Pray to God and be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today!
  24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
  25. Make every day count!

WORDS TO PONDER

  • Once upon a time I met a man who told me that: telling the truth and making someone cry, is better than telling a lie and making someone smile and happy.
  • He said to me your true friends are those who will never avoid you just because they have met new friends.
  • As he kept on speaking to me, he said if some people do not appreciate and value my presence, I should work hard to make them value and appreciate my absence.
  • He said I must not be angry with anyone who is quiet on me because there must be a reason why they are quiet, and that I will get to know the reason later.
  • He told me it is always better to be a blessing to others at all times than to be a burden at any time.
  • He said I must learn to forgive others not because they deserve it but because I deserve the peace that comes with forgiveness.
  • I must know that everyone deserves a second chance and many more chances if they ask for forgiveness, but I must not lose my guard over their intentions.
  • I must not only talk to people in my free time, but I must free my time to talk to people.
  • I must know that the truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie will hurt for a long time.
  • I must learn to value and respect people who tell me the Truth no matter how painful the truth is.
  • I must make my decisions when I am in the right mood, not when I am angry, likewise I must not make promises when I am excited with high emotions.
  • I must know that some people are like candles that burn themselves to give light to others. I should not have regrets if I happen to be one of such candles.
  • I must learn to be a caring friend because it is a thousand times better than a careless lover.
  • I should value and protect my relationships of many years of investments, because they are like a book that takes years to write but, can get burnt only within few seconds.
  • He specifically said this repeatedly that: If I have a problem with someone, I should go tell the person and not go tell the world.
  • He said to me that I should know that nobody is too busy, it is just a matter of their priorities within a day.
  • He said to me that people can trust you when you are consistent with what you say and what you do.
  • He said with a low voice, only God can be totally trusted. Trust God 100%.
  • He then said: no matter what, I must not forget those who helped and stood by me in my time of trials and during my difficult times.
  • I must always remember those who turned their backs on me in my difficult times of trials. Not for vengeance, but for the lesson of life.
  • I must be careful with those who put me into difficult times but I must never hate them. It is a lesson of life.
  • He said again: I must be grateful at all times to God for this life and for living. It is a privilege, and not a right.
  • As he was leaving me, he said, always remember how temporary this world is, you must always be conscious of the reality of eternity with God in heaven or with Satan in hell fire.

What Is Your Life’s Blueprint?

Six months before he was assassinated, King spoke to a group of students at Barratt Junior High School in Philadelphia on October 26, 1967.

I want to ask you a question, and that is: What is your life’s blueprint?

Whenever a building is constructed, you usually have an architect who draws a blueprint, and that blueprint serves as the pattern, as the guide, and a building is not well erected without a good, solid blueprint.

Now each of you is in the process of building the structure of your lives, and the question is whether you have a proper, a solid and a sound blueprint.

I want to suggest some of the things that should begin your life’s blueprint. Number one in your life’s blueprint, should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your worth and your own somebodiness. Don’t allow anybody to make you fell that you’re nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth, and always feel that your life has ultimate significance.

Secondly, in your life’s blueprint you must have as the basic principle the determination to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. You’re going to be deciding as the days, as the years unfold what you will do in life — what your life’s work will be. Set out to do it well.

And I say to you, my young friends, doors are opening to you–doors of opportunities that were not open to your mothers and your fathers — and the great challenge facing you is to be ready to face these doors as they open.

Ralph Waldo Emerson, the great essayist, said in a lecture in 1871, “If a man can write a better book or preach a better sermon or make a better mousetrap than his neighbor, even if he builds his house in the woods, the world will make a beaten path to his door.”

This hasn’t always been true — but it will become increasingly true, and so I would urge you to study hard, to burn the midnight oil; I would say to you, don’t drop out of school. I understand all the sociological reasons, but I urge you that in spite of your economic plight, in spite of the situation that you’re forced to live in — stay in school.

And when you discover what you will be in your life, set out to do it as if God Almighty called you at this particular moment in history to do it. don’t just set out to do a good job. Set out to do such a good job that the living, the dead or the unborn couldn’t do it any better.

If it falls your lot to be a street sweeper, sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures, sweep streets like Beethoven composed music, sweep streets like Leontyne Price sings before the Metropolitan Opera. Sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry. Sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will have to pause and say: Here lived a great street sweeper who swept his job well. If you can’t be a pine at the top of the hill, be a shrub in the valley. Be be the best little shrub on the side of the hill.

Be a bush if you can’t be a tree. If you can’t be a highway, just be a trail. If you can’t be a sun, be a star. For it isn’t by size that you win or fail. Be the best of whatever you are.

— From the estate of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

The Right Kind of People

Find people who can handle your darkest truths, who don’t change the subject when you share your pain, or try to make you feel bad for feeling bad. Find people who understand we all struggle, some of us more than others, and that there’s no weakness in admitting it. In fact, few things take much strength. Find people who want to be real, however that looks and feels, and who want you too to be real, however that looks and feels. Find people who get that life is hard, and who get that life is also beautiful. and who aren’t afraid to honor both those realities. Find people who help you feel more at home in your heart, mind and body, and who take joy in your joy. Find people who love you. for real. and who accept you, for real. Just as you are. They’re our there, these people. Your tribe is waiting for you. Don’t stop searching until you find them.

-Scott Stabile

Dear Valentine

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love blog.jpgLove comes in all shapes and sizes and to each his own. In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I put together a sampling of 25 movies and what they can teach us about life and love. Even if you’re not a fan of Valentine’s Day, enjoy the quotes and perhaps see things in a new light. Sometimes just the right words, are like an old song, sung new.

Here they are:

1. As Good as it Gets – Love can bring out your best. Melvin: “You make me want to be a better man.”

2. Be My Valentine Charlie Brown – Just because you don’t get a Valentine, doesn’t mean you aren’t lovable.

3. Casablanca. Kiss like you mean it. Ilsa: “Kiss me. Kiss me as if it were the last time.
It’s the kind of thing you want to hold on to forever.”

4. Casper: Don’t let go. Casper:…

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Effort & Knowledge

Happy New Year

Have you ever heard the story of the giant ship engine that failed? The ship owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure out how to fix the engine. Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a youngster. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.

Two of the ship owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed! A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.

“What?!” the owners exclaimed. “He hardly did anything!”

So they wrote the old man a note saying, “Please send us an itemized bill.”

The man sent a bill that read:

Tapping with a hammer … $ 2.00

Knowing where to tap … $ 9,998.00

GRAND TOTAL…….$10,000.00

Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.

As u Celebrate the new year get in 2020 with knowledge.

Three Stories – Three Lessons

Story number One

An old man lived alone in Minnesota. He wanted to spade his potato garden,
but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in
prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his situation:
Dear Son,
I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won’t be able to plant my potato
garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden, because your mother always
loved planting time. I’m just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. If
you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for
me, if you weren’t in prison.
Love, Dad
Shortly, the old man received this telegram: “For Heaven’s sake, Dad, don’t dig
up the garden!! That’s where I buried the GUNS!!”
At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police officers
showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.
Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what
happened, and asked him what to do next.
His son’s reply was: “Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad…………………. It’s the
best I could do for you from here.”
MORAL:
No matter where you are in the world, if you have decided to do something
deep from your heart, you can do it. It is the thought that matters and not
where you are or where the person is.

Story Number Two

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire.
He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house-building business and live a
more leisurely life with his wife, enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck,
but he needed to retire. They could get by.
The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more
house as a favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not
in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an
unfortunate way to end a dedicated career.
When the carpenter finished his work the employer came to inspect the house. He handed
the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “My gift to you!”
The carpenter was shocked! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own
house, he would have done it all so differently.
So it is with us. We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting less than our best into the
building.
Then with a shock we realize we have to live in the house we have built.
If we could do it over, we would do it much differently. But we cannot go back.
You are the carpenter. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. “Life is a
do-it-yourself project,” someone has said. Your attitudes and the choices you make today,
build the “house” you live in tomorrow.
Build wisely!

Story Number Three

Finish Strong is more than a statement, it’s an attitude.
It’s an attitude of believing you can do something and having the courage and
determination to see it through. And of course, you can apply this “finish
strong attitude” to your business or your life! here’s a personal story about
setting goals from the author, Dan Green……. Enjoy!
Keep Clip’n Along
By embracing the attitude to Finish Strong, I’ve created a personal level of
accountability that goes with me wherever I go. The first time I really
discovered the power of this mindset was early in my selling career. In the
early nineties I sold software systems to commercial banks. A great deal of my
selling efforts involved prospecting for leads over the phone. No matter how
good you are at selling over the phone, it can be challenging to push yourself
to make one more call – and a key to success in selling is “making one more
call”.
As a method of daily goal setting, I would start my day in the office by taking
out twenty five paper clips from my desktop paper clip holder. I would place
the paper clips on a coaster right next to the holder which was next to the
phone. Each time I engaged in a meaningful selling conversation I would take
one of the paper clips from the pile and put it back in the holder. I knew that
if I created twenty five selling conversations each day, that my ultimate sales
goals would be reached. I made a commitment not to leave the office until
every paper clip was put back.
There were many times that the day was over for everyone else and I had one
paperclip sitting on that coaster staring at me. In order to finish strong, I
needed to have one more selling conversation. I dialed until I succeeded. I
never left a paperclip sitting on the coaster and I never put one back that did
not earn it. The level of activity I created during this time stuffed my sales
pipeline with opportunities. My career took off and I tripled my income in
the course of two years – all because I chose to Finish Strong

As we count down to the last days of this year and look forward to the next , my wish for you is that you close the year finishing strong.

2022 Skills Outlook

 

Growing

  1. Analytical thinking and innovation
  2. Active learning and learning strategies
  3. Creativity, originality and initiative
  4. Technology design and programming
  5. Critical thinking and analysis
  6. Complex problem solving
  7. Leadership and social influence
  8. Emotional intelligence
  9. Reasoning, problem-solving and ideation
  10. Systems analysis and evaluation

Declining

  1. Manual dexterity, endurance and precision
  2. Memory, verbal, auditory and spatial abilities
  3. Management of financial, material resources
  4. Technology installation and maintenance
  5. Reading, writing, math and active listening
  6. Management of personnel
  7. Quality control and safety awareness
  8. Coordination and time management
  9. Visual, auditory and speech abilities
  10. Technology use, monitoring and control

The secret of confidence

“The secret of confidence is focusing on what you can control, not on what you can’t.” – Mira Kirshenbaum

Self-confidence is the key to emotional energy.

Without confidence, everything can feel like an uphill battle or an impossible hurdle.

Instead of a bounce in your step, or springing to action, you drag your feet, or you expect the worst. Just imagine the energy you would get if you knew you couldn’t fail.

Confident People Focus on What They Can Control

There is a way. But you have to focus on the right thing. In the case of confidence, knowing what to focus on is more than half the battle.

It’s everything!

If you ever feel a loss of confidence or find yourself in the No-Confidence Trap, you need to know how to break out of it. To break out of it, you need to first understand how it works.

Basically, you lose your confidence when you focus on the wrong things. People that lack confidence focus on the outcomes. They focus on the times they struck out, their mistakes, their failures, and disasters.

Basically, they focus on the things they can’t control. Confident people on the other hand, focus on what they can control, such as taking action or giving their best.

This one little distinction is the key to building your unshakeable confidence and getting back on the saddle again.

Confidence is the Holy Grail

When it comes to energy, confidence is the key.

In people’s lifelong journey to improve themselves, confidence is the Holy Grail. With it, you can walk on water. Without it, you’re soggy toast. That’s why we all want it. What gives you more emotional energy than confidence, than knowing that you can step up to the challenge and win?

With great confidence, comes great results. But it’s the journey and how you approach things that makes the difference.

“Why Try?”

When you don’t have any confidence, you will be emotionally drained. You’ll expect things to go wrong, and they will, and this will suck you down.

Loss of confidence is devastating for our emotional energy. Without confidence, the two most horrible words in the English language take hold of us: ‘Why try?’ These words are horrible because they’re the beginning of doom for any enterprise we care about, including love.

Losing your confidence is one way to feel emotionally drained, as if you can’t win.

Focus on What You Control

Rather than focus on the end-results, focus on the effort you put in and the attitude you choose when you face your challenges. These are the things you can control.

The secret of confident people is that they focus on what they know they can do and then they do that in the best way they can. And they don’t worry about the outcome. The batter steps up to the plate. All he can do is keep his eye on the ball and do his best. That’s what all the good hitters do.

Key Take Aways

Here are my key take aways:

  • A loss of confidence drains you emotionally. Without confidence you can’t see a way out or you approach things half-heartedly. When you approach things half-heartedly, you lose. It’s a downard spiral.
  • You can break the No-Confidence Trap if you know how. The No-Confidence Trap is a vicious cycle: You can’t win without confidence and you can’t get confidence without winning. However, it’s easy to break out of the No-Confidence Trap, if you know how.
  • Focus on what you control. Don’t focus on outcomes. You can’t control the outcomes for a situation. To build your confidence, you have to focus on what you control, not on what you can’t. This is the sure-fire way to break out of the No-Confidence Trap and build or rebuild your confidence.

If you want to improve your energy and your confidence, then focus on what you control.

Don’t fall into the No-Confidence Trap. If you’re asking yourself, “Why try?”, it’s because you’re focusing on the outcomes instead of what you can control.

Don’t focus on outcomes.

Focus on your actions.

May Mantra

I didn’t have the time

But I made time

I didn’t have the knowledge

But I did what I knew

I didn’t have the support

But I learnt to support myself

I didn’t have the confidence

But the confidence came with results

I had alot going against me

But I had enough going for me

I had plenty of excuses

But I chose not to use any of them

My friends you are like Angels.

 

 

My friends you are like Angels.
I can count on you to be there,
To give support through all my
Joys and also through my despair.
Every time I turn on my computer
You are the Angels who are waiting,
No matter how far the distance, to tell me
“Hello” and to wish me a “Happy Day.”

I can’t wait each day to tell you
All about life’s good events that
Have been happening to me because,
I know you will be happy for me.

You are the Angels who are so
Near in spirit as your heart hold my
Hand in your loving thoughts,
To help get me through my bad days.

You seem to know when something
May be going wrong in my life because,
I will find something in my email
That tells me just how much you care.

I thank God everyday for my Angels
And I’ll ask Him to let me know
Just when you need someone to send
You a word of encouragement too.

God bless each one of you loving souls,
“My Dear Internet Friends,”
Because you are one of those Angels
Whose friendship I will forever treasure.