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LIVE YOUR OWN TRUTH

Your life is allowed to be enjoyable,

I think we’ve forgotten this.

We do exercise we don’t enjoy to get a certain type of body.

We do work we dislike to get a certain type of lifestyle.

We are so often sacrificing our joy for some societal goals we’re supposed to want.

And yet, our joy, our enjoyment, our love of our own life-how is that not the standard

For our well-being?

We have normalized that our life is only as good as it looks to others.

This required ignoring our inner knowing, the most vital truth we have at our disposal.

It’s why we hustle.

It’s why we obsess over hard work as opposed to inspired effort.

It might explain why we are exhausted, and yet unfulfilled and burnt out.

Because there is a knowing within all of us,

A map that will lead us to what is most true.

Success is not some external guidepost.

It has always been within – how we feel about ourselves,

The lives we are building,

And the amount of joy, calm, happiness and love we allow ourselves to contain.

Success is not out there.

It’s about creating a life you love so much that feels so true to you,

You have nothing left to prove.

let’s Support The Less Privileged

In the market you find a poor woman with a baby at her back,you lower your car window and with a military rough command voice you asked her:

“How much are you selling those onions and bananas?”

The poor seller politely replies,
“$3 for a bunch of bananas and $2,50 for a pack of onions.”

With pride you demand the bunch of bananas at $2 and the the pack of onions at $1,50 or else you will leave.

The poor seller resigns to fate and replies, “take them at the price you want.I have not made any sale today, at least I have something for supper now.”

She has made a loss but she goes further to buy a plastic bag for you to pack the two items you have just bought.

You order her to hurry up otherwise you may change your mind.She apologises and with a smile, she gives you the items and she blesses you for patronizing her.

You literally throw the money at her and you sped away leaving behind a cloud of smoke and dust which causes a bit of discomfort to her and the baby.She is coughing while securing her little money.Her poverty has left her with no choice.

You have now arrived at the 5-star restaurant where you are to meet friends and you ask them to order food and drinks of their choice.

They order expensive food and the leftovers are more than the food they have eaten.

The total bill is $400 and you pay without bargaining, you gave a tip of $50 appreciating the waiter for a delicious meal….which you didn’t eat even half of.

This incident might seem quite normal to you but it’s inhumane…

THE POINT IS:-👇

Why do we always show that we have the bargaining power when we buy from the poor?

Why do we become arrogant when buying from the poor?

Why do we become stingy when buying from the vulnerable?

Why do we show generosity to those who do not even need our generosity?

Why do we become polite when buying from the rich who view our money as mere change?

Why do we channel money to a sea of money?

Please buy simple goods from the poor people at high prices….do it deliberately.

Sometimes, pay extra for the items you buy from poor women…you are only blessing them in your little way

Please where possible buy items from local markets.

To everyone reading this, please, everytime you see them in traffic, taxi parks, bus stops, on the streets….just buy!

Don’t bargain.They are not looking for money to buy expensive clothes or mansions or cars, but to feed their children back home and pay school fees.

A Wollan Shatta!

Be strong, be kind, be free

Do things that make you proud of yourself

Surround yourself with people who bring out the best qualities

and distance yourself from people who do the opposite

Be true

True to yourself and true to your morals

Stand up for yourself

Don’t let people take advantage of your kindness and soft heart

Don’t take sh*t from anyone and don’t put yourself down

Believe in yourself and believe in your journey

Be good to yourself

Be unapologetically you

Embrace your imperfections

Accept the fact that when you grow sometimes you loose people and that’s okay

Celebrate your every success and learn from failure

And most importantly, never, ever let anything stand

in the way of the person you are becoming

IN THE END…

Precious Memories!

all the small things make a big difference

every step is crucial

life isn’t about a single moment of great triumph

it’s about the trials and errors that slowly get you there

the blood, sweat, tears and the small,

inconsequential things you do on a day-to-day basis

it all matters in the end

every step, every regret, every decision, every minor setback

and every minuscule win.

all this has strengthened you

all of this has led you to every success you’ve every had

all of this has made you who you are today

and all of this proves that you have the

strength to deal with the challenges

that are in front of you

12 LESSONS LEARNED IN LOVE

Lesson #1 – Love vs. Fear. Don’t Confuse Them.

Ultimately, we have the ability to choose between these two.

The most succinct contrast I’ve seen is this:

“Fear is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in, runs, hides, hordes, harms. Love is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares, heals.

Fear wraps our bodies in clothing, love allows us to stand naked. Fear clings to and clutches all that we have, love gives all that we have away.

Fear holds close, love holds dear, Fear grasps, love lets go. Fear rankles, love soothes, Fear attacks, love amends.”

Lesson #2 – Separate Love from Need and Wanting.

Ignore popular culture.  Separate love from need and wanting.  Do not confuse these even though songs, TV, and literature often make them the same.

They are not.

  1. Need is the belief that you cannot possibly live without that someone or something.
  2. Wanting is the belief that you do not have something and the desire to obtain it.  When you grasping for a want, you are saying it’s a need. e.g. “Please don’t leave me. I can’t live without you”.

I say belief here because I’ve noticed that in changing my mind about what I need, some things have fallen away.

They were never needs or wants at all.

I was after something else that I thought that the want or need would bring me. Like asking for a soda because I was thirsty and only after realizing that soda actually dehydrates me in the long run.

Certainly attraction is part of love, but when you start to grasp and become desperate, you’ve left the realm of love.

You simply cannot force or manipulate someone into loving you.

Wanting is fine in that it can expose our desires and motivations, but if you have an expectation that your wants will always be fulfilled, you are crossing the line into need.

The more you need from another, less you can truly love them. 

You are generating your internal energy and well-being from trying to control your outside world.

Controlling the outside world is always a struggle.

You end up running your life like it’s a juggling match, trying to arrange it so all your needs and wants can be met.

How are you going to love someone if they do not show up how you need them too?

You get bitter, resentful, or at the least, drained.

Naturally, you will fear losing the outside source of your well-being and you attempt to control the other person(s).

This suffocates your relationship(s) over time.

Confusing love and need leads to mistaken ideas like jealously is love, drama in a relationship is love, codependence is love, love hurts, and other such confusion.

While these are common and normal, they are not at all related to love.

Love is NOT need.

Lesson #3 – There is Only So Much Love to Go Around.

This is a fear based idea. There may be limited time or resources to spend on people, but when you give love to one person, you don’t have less to give to another. 

If anything, I’ve found that it can increase your capacity to love elsewhere.

Jealousy is our ego saying “I’m not getting enough”.

This should be addressed in the relationship by accepting it, loving it and then moving on from it.

Concentrate on what you want to create with the other person and who they are being with you vs what else they are doing with their time or energy.

Get out of the scarcity mentality.

Lesson #4 – Unconditional Love. No Conditions. Not trading.

Give to empower with the birthday present model   Unconditional love means “love without condition”.

Much of this confusion can come from religious beliefs since many tell us that we have to meet some criteria for “the Creator” to love us. 

Entertain that it’s possible to love someone without conditions and the more whole you are, the more that’s possible.

Most of us have rarely experienced that because of the confusion with love and need.

Unconditional love can only be given when the giver is not dependent on the other person for something. 

The givers love has to be generated internally.

It follows that true love is freely given without requirement or expectation. It’s a gift.

This doesn’t mean the giver doesn’t have needs as well, but a giver can remove the expectation of receiving when they give.

Do not turn “I love you very much” into “I trade you very much”.

If as the giver you are getting drained, then concentrate on what will give you energy.

Don’t demand that that energy come from your lover.  Ask for it, but don’t demand it

If you are tired of giving, stop and recharge.

If you notice the giving is disempowering someone and making them more dependent, stop giving and help them to learn to meet their own needs.

I try to remember this by thinking about getting or giving a birthday present. I give with no strings attached and I try to give what the other person says they want.

It is easier if they tell me what  they want instead of my trying to guess, but I’m willing to try either way.

That gift should mean something to them, not necessarily to me.

The other person may throw the gift out, that’s fine. I draw energy in that I gave.

Then if I need something myself and I don’t get it for my birthday, I go out and buy it for myself. I encourage the other person to do the same and not rely on me to give them everything they want. 

This frees everyone up to receive and to give without putting expectations into the picture. We don’t expect to get our basic needs met on our birthday.

I’m not going to rely on someone to feed me via birthday presents.

Lesson # 5 – Fearful Protection is Only Necessary Because of Our Needs and Wounds.

Heal them and you reduce the need to protect yourself.

As mentioned in point 1, love expands and opens itself.

What about being hurt? Where does that come from?

That’s pretty common in our close relationships.

If someone physically hurts us, that’s a bodily response. But most of the pain around love in relationships starts or remains in the emotional area.

I’ve used the model of “emotional wounds” in myself. It makes it easier to think about what I should do because it seems more obvious if I had a physical wound.

When someone touches an emotional wound in me, it’s like they’ve brushed up against an open wound on my skin.

It hurts. 

We are hurt when someone reinforces judgments we may suspect about ourselves.

Those judgments show up as our wounds.

Use caution, but not fear.

Caution here means that you realize that you have these sensitivities and you don’t needlessly expose them and get hurt.

Fear would mean you are in a constant state of dread that someone will hit them and so you run away or seal up.

If you suspect that someone is likely to reject you, factor that in to how you proceed.

Caution acknowledges natural consequences.

You want to play football, but you’ve got a wound. So you put on a band-aid or even a plastic covering taking into account the environment you are entering.

However, when the need to protect yourself or another comes along with anger and emotional drama, it’s from fear.

When there is a desire for retribution, that’s fear.

Often when we open up, we at the same time fear that another will not. 

Others behavior can inform you. It doesn’t have to hurt. 

You can actually be open and not be hurt. The hurt comes from needing another to return that same feeling, thus proving you are lovable.

If you believe that you are lovable, this is not a problem.

You simply move on to those where you can express love and receive it back.

Lesson # 6 – The More Needs You Have About How Someone is Supposed to Show Up, the More You Have to Protect Yourself.

Personally, I make it okay that my mate can change her mind about what she wants in the future and so can I.

This allows for growth. 

The less you give yourself from the inside, the more requirements you have about how others show up.

The more you love and accept yourself, the less necessary it is to protect those inner parts and you don’t resist change.

Lesson # 7 – Ultimately, Love Lets Go.

If you’ve followed what’s above, then you understand that “needing” and “grasping” is fear based. 

When you don’t need as much, you can see that you can continue to love people even when their wants and desire conflict with yours.

Lesson # 8 – Be Dedicated to the Quality of Your Relationship, Not its Longevity.

We all know people who probably should not be together because the energy they create together is toxic to them and/or those around them.

If you concentrate on how to heal yourself, meet your own needs,  and make your relationship healthy, you may either stay together or separate. 

One is not better than the other. 

If you figure out how to be healthy and stay together, your relationship deepens to the next level and you have a greater capacity for trust and intimacy.

If it does not, you may separate, but you will not have the bitter, no holds barred, damaging divorces that seem to happen on a regular basis.

These are caused by needs and expectations.

You may separate with or without sadness, but never malice.

You may actually find that your love relationship with that person still grows. The love doesn’t (have to) go away.

The relationship just changes.

Lesson # 9 – Love Another as Yourself, not Instead Of, or More Than.

A misinterpretation of the ethic of giving has led people to believe they can love themselves only through others.

“Love your neighbor as yourself” means keep the two as equal as possible.

“Love your neighbor and yourself” “would be a better translation to me.

When giving progressively drains you over time, you are not giving from a sustainable place.

Eventually, you give yourself away and then there is nothing left. 

Love considers the well- being of those doing the loving.

Lesson # 10 – Reject the “Complete Me” Model. Think Three, not One.

Don’t try to be one person with your mate.  This leads to a belief of needing another to be whole.

Relationships change and move.

Have you, your mate, and the relationship

Think of a relationship as something you both have to feed with time and energy.

When one person doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore, then it affect two parts, but it doesn’t take you with it. You let go and you are intact.

Lesson # 11 – Understand the Difference.

Understand the difference between intimacy, connection, infatuation, lust, touch, sex, nurturing and love.

Be clear on what you are trying to experience.

Most people fold these all together in some way.  It’s not that these things can’t go together with love or enhance it, the same way the food in a recipe comes together to make something greater than the whole.

But if you think that milk and eggs are the same and then you keep adding more eggs to a recipe, you are going to come out with something that’s not likely to taste good. In the same way, your relationship will seem like something is missing or you have too much of something. 

Later in this post, I go through definitions of each of these and how to draw distinctions.

And don’t expect your desires to matches your mates.

You are two different people. 

There has to be some overlap obviously, but respect that people have different tastes and so want different proportions in their recipes.

Lesson # 12 – What Makes Us “Feel Loved” Varies.

Lesson #11 doesn’t include every possibility of course.  Feeling loved often boils down to a set of attributes like those listed in lesson #11. 

When you experience them with your lover, you naturally become closer.

We each have our love languages. There is even a book called “The 5 Love Languages”.

Take the time to figure this out and express it to your mate.

Don’t make your mate responsible for figuring it out.

The Sweet Spot: Passion, Profit, and Value!

The Sweet Spot – The Intersection of Passion, Profit, and Value

Passion, profit, and value is the key to sustainable results:

  • Passion.  Your passion is your fuel for making things happen.  In today’s skill-for-hire economy, one of your most important assets is your passion.  It’s you’re staying power, and your get up and go, especially when you get knocked down.  It’s how you get up again.  Passion is also a proxy for your values, strengths, and purpose.  Strengths can be skills, but in this case, I’m also thinking about your natural strengths … the stuff that comes easy for you, but might be tough for others.   We tend to love what we’re awesome at, and, our passion tends to help us get awesome to begin with.
  • Profit.  This is about how much you can make.  Just because you create tons of value, doesn’t mean you can make a profit, especially in an economy where free is the new price, and your competition gives away what you try to sell.  How do you know what’s making a profit?  You ask.  This is where your network comes in.  Also, your friendly neighborhood accountant might be the perfect source for knowing what’s making money, and what’s not.
  • Value.  The idea here is that if you’re creating value, you have a better chance of getting rewarded.  Value is in the eye of the beholder.  This means staying aware of what the market values and knowing that the market doesn’t always drive the right thing.  This also means being aware of intrinsic vs. market value. Intrinsic value is what something is really worth, while market value is what people are willing to pay, which could be wildly inflated.  Personally, I like to optimize around providing value for basic needs, and I’m cautious when market value and intrinsic value are out of whack … market corrections can be painful.

To give you an example of the passion, profit and value intersection, I have a passion for making others great.  There’s a certain market value to that.  I already do it for free, but if I wanted to profit from it, I would take on certain clients.  For example, if the President wanted me for his results coach, I’d give him my special presidential discount, but I would still expect to profit from the value I create.

OK, fine, I’d do it for free, so it’s not a great example.

Cutting Questions to Find Your Path

Here are some cutting questions to help find and test your paths …

  • What would you do for free?
  • What’s the minimum you need to make?
  • What’s your minimum and ideal life style?
  • How much do you need to fund your ideal life style?
  • Who has the job that you want that you can model from?

Guideline for Getting Results

Some guidelines for results …

  • Find the intersections of your passion, profit, and value.
  • Passion, profit and value are sliding scales … this gives you a lot of flexibility as well as trade-offs.
  • If you’re creating all value, and no profit, that’s a charity, and that won’t pay your bills.
  • If you’re playing to your passion, but creating no value, that’s a hobby.
  • If you do what you hate, you’ll suck your life force dry.
  • Find the job you love, or love the job your with.
  • You can love the job you’re with, by by changing your why or changing your how. 
  • Some hobbies can be turned into profit, if they create value.
  • Sometimes the key to unleashing your profit potential, is simply finding the right channel or platform.
  • Be careful what you get paid for, because if you externalize your reward, you can kill your passion.
  • Knowing the market demand and the profit potential can help you follow the money.
  • Money is a means, not an end.   When you’re below the line, it means everything.  Once you’re above the line, happiness is doing what you love and service to others … you know, the stuff Maslow taught us.

One important point here is that life’s not static and neither is the market.

One strategy is to follow the growth.  This includes following the growth in the market (think biotech, green, … etc.) as well as following paths that lead to your own personal growth.

It’s one way to keep the skills that pay the bills.

2022 RULES FOR SUCCESS

  • Morning Routine
    • Create an early morning routine so that you can build momentum for the day. This includes waking up consistently before sunrise.
  • Concentration
    • Concentrate on your daily goals. We become what we think about
  • Think Positively.
    • Have a positive mental attitude so that you can achieve positive results
  • Trust Yourself
    • Ignore the haters.
  • Friends
    • Associate yourself with successful and like-minded people
  • Learn Daily
    • Go to bed smarter by reading books, watching seminars and listening to audio books.
  • Build One Habit at a Time
    • It takes 66 days to develop a habit.
  • Impatience is Weakness
    • Be patient when working on your goals, you can’t be strong all the time, you will have your ups and downs.

GOLDEN WISDOM

A farmer went to the field one day to cultivate.

During the work, he glanced at the mango tree and saw a big ripe mango he plucked it.

An idea occurred to him not to eat this mango, but to take it home to his wife whom he loves so much, even though he was starving.

When he got home, he called his wife and gave her the mango to show her his love.

Very happy with this precious gift, the woman thought directly of her child who had gone to school.

She took the mango, thanked her husband sincerely and reassured him that she would eat it afterwards.

The woman hid the mango and decided to give it to her son as soon as he returns from school to show him her love.

As soon as the child came back from school, the mother gave him this mango with a lot of joy in her heart.

The child thanked his mother warmly for this precious gift and told his mother that he would eat it later.

He too resolved to hide this mango and make a surprise gift to his father who pays his school fees, believing that the Dad knows nothing about this mango.

In the evening while everyone was eating the family meal, the child said to his father:

“One minute dad, I will bring you a present because I love you so much”.

He ran to his room, took the mango and gave it to his father.

He was surprised to see the same mango he had given to his beloved wife returned back to him again.

Without any comment, he asked for a knife and shared it equally among the three of them (himself, his wife and his child).

They all ate this mango with a lot of joy.

That’s how love works.

When you give love, it comes back to you in another way, because love is the most extraordinary force that governs the universe of God.

Let’s show love unconditionally to people we get in contact with.

Show love without expecting anything in return

This is a time/ season to show love.

THE LEADER WITHIN US

Sooner or later we will discover the Leader within us. A good leader is someone who is in Control, gives Directions, Guidance, Headship, is an excellent Listener and has good management skills.

L – Listener

E – Effective

A – Ability

D – Direction

E – Extraordinary

R – Responsibility

Endurance

The vitality of thought is in adventure. Ideas won’t keep. Something must be done about them. When the idea is new, its custodians have fervour, live for it, and if need be, die for it – Alfred North

Educators take something simple and make it complicated. Communicators take something complicated and make it simple – John Maxwell

The legacy of heroes is the memory of a great name and the inheritance of a great example – Benjamin Disraeli

Perseverance is not a long race it is many short races one after another – Walter Elliot

Persistent people begin their success where others end in failure – Edward Eggleston

Pull the string, and it will follow wherever you wish. Push it, and it will go nowhere at all – Dwight Eisenhower

Plunge boldly into the thick of life, and seize it where you will, it is always interesting –Johann Von

Rule your mind or it will rule you – Horace

Slump, and the world slumps with you. Push and you push alone – Laurence Peter

To win without risk is to triumph without glory – Pierre Corneille

Tough times never last, but tough people do –Robert Schuller

Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being – Von Goethe

Victory has a thousand fathers, but defeat is an orphan – John Kennedy

Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit – Conrad Hilton

Successful leaders have the courage to take action while others hesitate – John Maxwell

The best job goes to the person who can get it done without passing the buck or coming back with excuses – Napoleon Hill

The best leaders are those most interested in surrounding themselves with assistants and associated smarter than they are. They are frank in admitting thins and are willing to pay for such talents – Amos Parrish

The best leaders of all, the people know not they exist. They turn to each other and say, we did it ourselves – Zen Saying

Of all the properties which belong to honourable men, not one is so highly prized as that of character – Henry Clay

The spirited horse, which will try to win the race of its own accord, will run even faster if encouraged – Ovid

The same hammer that shatters the glass forges the steel – Proverb

One man with courage makes a majority – Andrew Jackson

Nurture you mind with great thoughts; to believe in the heroic makes heroes – Benjamin

One man has enthusiasm for 30 minutes, another for 30 days, but it is the man who has it for 30 years who makes a success of his life – Edward Butler

One man scorned and covered with scars still strove with his last ounce of courage to reach the unreachable stars; and the world was better for this – Don

One of the strongest characteristics of genius is the power of lighting its own fire – John Foster

One of the tests of leadership is the ability to recognize a problem before it becomes an emergency – Arnold Glasgow

You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down – Mary Pickford

You must be the change you wish to see in the world – Mahatma Gandhi

You must not only aim right, but draw the bow with all your might – Henry Thoreau

You must play boldly to win- Arnold

Your opinions are limited only by your fears – Joseph Jambu

You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor – James

It is no use for a leader to surround himself with ten yes-men – Nelson Mandela

Goals

When the solution is simple, God is answering – Albert

It is the compelling zest of high adventure and of victory, and in creative actin, that man finds his supreme joys – Antoine

Whenever I get to a low point, I go back to the basics. I ask myself, “Why am I doing this?” It comes down to passion – St. James

If you follow you bliss, doors will open for you that wouldn’t have opened for anyone else – Campbell

Leadership is the capacity and will to rally men and women to a common purpose and the character which inspires confidence – Bernard

There are one hundred and ninety nine ways to get beat, but only one way to win; get there first – Willie

There is no pillow so soft as a clear conscience – Joseph Jambu

Outstanding people have one thing in common: an absolute sense of mission – ZigZiglar

The immature mind hops from one thing to another; the mature mind seeks to follow through – Harry

The Jack of all trades seldom is good at any. Concentrate all of your efforts on one definite chief aim – Napoleon

There is no use whatever trying to help people who do don help themselves. You cannot push anyone up a ladder unless he is willing to climb himself – Andrew

There is only one way……to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it – Dale

The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing their inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives – William

Rather fall with honor than succeed by fraud – Sophocles

Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal – Ralph

The great thing in the wold is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving – Oliver

Leaders establish the vision for the future and set the strategy for getting there; they cause change. They motivate and inspire others to go in the right direction and they, along with everyone else, sacrifice to get there – John

Leaders must be close enough to relate to others, but far enough ahead to motivate them – John

Leadership is the ability of a single individual through his or her actions to motivate others to higher levels of achievement – Rodgers

Leadership is practiced not so much in words as in attitude and in actions – Harold

Management is nothing more than motivating other people – Lee

Management works in the system; leadership works on the system – Covey

Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it – Lou

Ethics must begin at the top of an organization. It is a leadership issue and the chief executive must set the example – Edward

Moral courage and character go hand in hand…..a man of real character is consistently courageous, being imbued with a basic integrity and a firm sense of principle – Martha

Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to do because they want to do it – Dwight

Never give in! Never give in! Never, never, never, never – in nothing great or small, large or petty. Never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense – Churchill

When you are in a valley, keep your goal firmly in view and you will get the renewed energy to continue the climb – Denis

You are the person who has to decide. Whether you’ll do it or toss it aside; you are the person who makes up your mind. Whether you’ll lead or will linger behind. Whether you’ll try for the goal that’s afar. Or just be contented to stay where you are – Edgar

The successful men of today are men of one overmastering idea, one unwavering aim, men of single and intense purpose – Orison

Honesty and Humility

Cherish your human connections: your relationship with friends and family – Bush

Business is not just doing deals; business is having great products, doing great engineering, and providing tremendous service to customer. Finally, business is a cobweb of human relationships – Ross

How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you – Dan

Developing excellent communication skill is absolutely essential to effective leadership. The leader must be able to share knowledge and ideas to transmit a sense of urgency and enthusiasm to others. If a leader can’t get a massage across clearly and motivate others to act on it, then having a message doesn’t even matter –Amelio

It is not fair to ask of others what you are unwilling to do yourself – Anna

A big man is one who makes us feel bigger when we are with him – John

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable but more useful than a life spent doing nothing – George

You can’t do everything at once, but you can do something at one – Calvin

A real leader faces the music, even when he doesn’t like the tune – Joseph Jambu

You cannot be a leader, and ask other people to follow you, unless you know how to follow, too – Sam

I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occassions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot… and missed. And I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why…. I succeed – Michael Jordan

You can’t lead anyone else further than you have gone yourself – Gene

No executive has ever suffered because his subordinates’ were strong and effective – Peter

No man is capable of self-improvement if he sees no other model but himself – Conrado

No man is truly great who is great only in his lifetime. The test of greatness is the page of history – William

The superior man is distressed by the limitations of his ability; he is not distressed by the fact that men do not recognize the ability that he has – Confucius

The cynic says, “One man can’t do anything”. I say, “Only one man can do anything” – John

The ear of the leader must ring with the voices of the people – Woodrow

The tallest trees are most in the power of the winds, and ambitious men of the blasts of fortune – William

We have the high salaries and we are living in luxury: that destroys our capacity to speak in a forthright manner and tell people to tighten their belts – Nelson Mandela

Leaders

Leaders are problem solvers by talent and temperament by choice – Harlan

Leaders aren’t born, they are made. And they are made just like anything else, through hard work. And that’s the price we’ll have to pay to achieve that goal, or any goal – Vince

A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go, but ought to be – Carter

You do not lead by hitting people over the head – that’s assault, not leadership – Dwight

There is nothing more difficult to take in hand, more perilous to conduct, or more uncertain in its success than to take the lead in the introduction of a new order of things – Niccolo

Show me the leader and I will know his men. Show me the men and I will know their leader – Newcomb

Remember, what you get by reaching your destination isn’t nearly as important as what you become by reaching your goals – what you will become is the winner you were born to be! – ZigZiglar

The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant – Max

The first task of a leader is to keep hope alive – Joe

The function of the leader is to produce more leaders, not more followers – Ralph

The great leaders are like the best conductors – they reach beyond the notes to reach the magic in the players – Lee

Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it – Dwight

A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd – Max

Example is not the main thing in influencing others; it is the only thing – Albert

Men make history, and not the other way around. In periods where there is no leadership, society stands still. Progress occurs when courageous, skilful leaders seize the opportunity to change things for the better – Harry

No good decision was ever made in a swivel chair – George

The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self – restraint to keep from meddling with them while they do it – Theodore

Warriors take chances. Like everyone else, they fear failing, but they refuse to let fear control them – Ancient

If people are coming to work excited… if they are making mistakes freely and fearlessly… if they are having fun… if they are concentrating doing things, rather than preparing reports and going to meetings – then somewhere you have leaders – Townsend

Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity – George

The best teacher is the one who suggests rather than dogmatizes, and inspires his listener with the wish to teach himself – Edward

The creation of a thousand forests is in one acorn – Waldo

When leaders have the honesty to criticize their own mistakes and their own organization, then they can criticize others – Nelson Mandela

It is important to surround yourself with strong and independent personalities, who will tell you when you are getting old – Nelson Mandela

You have to play the mother chicken which provides refuge for everybody. You must be a tower of hope, a model and a motivator. It also takes patience as one has to take all the insult and intimidation because a lot of people will say that you are too assertive – Sarah

Women must rise above being good managers – of the man, the home, the children and all things spicy and sweet – and boldly step out into the visionary leadership – Lucy

Born or made we all have the leader within us, no matter you colour, race, or gender – Delno

Positive thinking

There is no power on earth that can neutralize the influence of a high, simple and useful life – Booker

He who has done his best for his time has lived for all times – Von

The first rule of holes; when you’re in one, stop digging – Molly

What people say, what people do, and what they say they do are entirely different things – Mead

There is in true beauty, as in courage, somewhat which narrow soul cannot dare to admire – William

There is no substitute for victory – Douglas

Hot heads and cold hearts never solved anything – Billy

It is the nature of man to rise to greatness if greatness is expected of him – John

Knowledge is the most democratic source of power – Alvin

You can’t measure the heart of a champion – Joseph Jambu

A brave man thinks no one superior who does him injury; for make himself superior to the other by forgiveness – Pope

A leader is a dealer in hope – Napoleon

A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices – William

A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way and shows the way – John

You have within you, right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you – Brian

You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through – Rosalynn

You make a living by what you get, but you make a life by what you give – Joseph Jambu

The influence of each human being on others in this life is a kind of immortality – Quincy

Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish – Sam

Part of being a champ is acting like a champ. You have to learn how to win and not run away when you lose. Everyone has bad stretches and real successes. Either way, you have to be careful not to lose your confidence or get to confident – Nancy

The mind, ever the willing servant, will respond to boldness, for boldness, in effect, is a command to deliver mental resources – Norman

There is no substitute for guts – Paul

There is something that is much more scarce, something rarer than ability. It is the ability to recognize ability – Robert

People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them – Shaw

There is nothing noble about being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self – Joseph Jambu

Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve permanently happy spirit – Norman

Quality begins in the inside… and then works its way out – Bob

Nothing great will ever be achieved without great men, and men are great only if they are determined to be so – Charles

Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises – Demosthenes

Realize that true happiness lies within you – Lucian

Reason and judgment are the qualities of a leader – Tacitus

The first step is to fill your life with a positive faith that will help you through anything. The second is to begin where you are – Norman

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around – Leo

Strong lives are motivated by dynamic purposes – Kenneth

One machine can do the work of fifty ordinary men. No machine can do the work of one extraordinary man – Elbert

You will find that the mere resolve not to be useless, and the honest desire to help other people, will, in the quickest and delicatest ways, improve yourself – John

Your aspirations are you possibilities – Samuel L. Jackson

Those who wish to sing, always find a song – Joseph Jambu

Dear mentality enslaved…

I hope you find the courage to change your life. In the small ways, in the big ways, in every way that matters. I hope you do not end this story with a heart fully of regrets. I hope you do not spend your years just waiting for your life to begin. I hope you realize that this is not the practice run, this is not the preview. This is it. There is nothing to do but leap. There is nothing to do but allow yourself to exist as boldly and honestly as you can. You will think you have forever, but you do not. It all happens, and it happens quickly. You are not waiting on another person, or the right timing, or for everything to fall in place. You are waiting to feel ready enough to exist within the questions, to not need every answer, and to know that this life does not come to us to be perfectly understood, but to be fully experienced, in every direction we can possibly reach.

Top 10 Rules for Success

1. Everything Is A Season

Never make a permanent decision in a temporary problem

2.Pursue Ideas

Poor people talk about money all the time

Rich people talk about things

Wealthy people talk about ideas

3.Create Your Own Work

Your job is what they train you to do; your work is what you were born to do

Your job is your skill which they can fire you anytime, but your work is your gift – no one can take that from you

Your job is where you get compensation for activity, your work is where you get fulfilment because you love it so much

Your job you can retire from, your work you can never retire because your work is you

So when a person discovers their work, they no longer need a job because their work makes them productive

Every problem in life is a business, all businesses are simply someone solving a problem.

4.Create A Positive Change

Change produces 3 types of people;

-people who watch things happen

-people who make things happen

-people who wonder what happened

5.Become A Person Of Value

We need to be more focused on developing ourselves, rather than trying to grab money now.

Focus on self-improvement, self-expansion, rather than trying to get your pocket to expand because the more valuable you make yourself, the more value you attract.

You are not paid for how hard you work; you are paid for what you are worth to the organization.

The more intellectual development you have, the more spiritual development you have, the more psychological development you have, the more emotional stability – you become more valuable to the world.

If you become valuable to the world – the world will pay you to be yourself.

So it’s important that you become a person of value – not to seek value in things.

6.Follow Your Passion

7.Defy Your Own Experience

You should never judge your success by other people accolades. You judge yourself by God’s instruction to your life and how well you are with that instruction, because the average human being is so mediocre, that to be a genius – just do a little extra.

When experience is your teacher then progress is imprisoned.

8.Use Adversity For Your Benefit

If there is a silver lining to bad times it is this, when facing severe challenges – your mind is normally at its sharpest.

Humans seldom have created anything of lasting value unless they were tried or hurting.

9.Discover Your Purpose

Leadership is the capacity to influence others through inspiration, not manipulation. That inspiration comes from a passion motivated by a sense of vision and a sense of purpose.

Leadership is first personal then corporate. Leadership is not something you pursue, it’s something you discover. Leaders are born when human discover something more important than their personal ambition. True leaders don’t seek followers. True leaders pursue a passion to a purpose that gives them a sense of destiny. They sacrifice themselves to accomplish something for the greater good.

10.Learn From Everything

The best thing in life to do is not to regret and try to change what happened, but to interpret it properly, maximise and use it to serve other people.

The Greatest Asset In Life

The greatest asset in life is our relationship balance

Go check out a person who has good relationships in life what they can achieve with one phone call, others cannot achieve with a million dollars.

Many studies have been done which says people who have good relationships they live happier and healthier lives. Our relationships friends and relatives, they are our support group.

We are talking about personally, professionally and socially.

Our family, people who are emotionally strong, you see in any crisis they come out stronger and people who are emotionally weak, they fight; they distort and make things fall apart.

People who are emotionally weak can never build lasting relationships with them because they are moody people, whimsical people, they are all sugar and honey to you today and they are out to cut your throat tomorrow. They are imbalanced and imbalanced people you cannot trust. In any relationship the foundation is trust and trust is built on integrity.

Personally, professionally there are many people who join groups like the chamber of commerce, BNI’s the Rotary, the Lions to network and they think they are building relationships and their definition of relationship is make connections with this people because someday they could be useful.

Usefulness goes, friendship also goes, there is no relationship – they are only takers, they are parasites only to suck whatever they can get and relationships are never built on taking, they are always built on giving.

Relationships are built on adding value addition to the relationship or to the other person were you need to give something.

There are four kinds of friendships in life;

  1. The friendship of convenience
  2. The friendship of usefulness
  3. The friendship because of a common enemy
  4. The friendship built on mutual respect

Helping each other is a duty of a friend; it is never the purpose of friendship. Helping always remains incidental to friendship.

To build lasting friendships and lasting relationships we must be willing to give and add value addition to another person’s life and that is what keeps a long-time relationship to be strong.

Go build it and you will live a much healthier, happier life.

lessons people learn too late in life

Live in the NOW

  1. Everything is temporary
  2. Life is not fair
  3. Family matters more than friends
  4. Others treat you the way you treat yourself
  5. Happiness is a choice and requires hard work
  6. Beneath anger is always fear
  7. Things don’t matter that much
  8. A lifetime isn’t very long
  9. You played it too safe
  10. Time waits for no man – make each moment count

COWS DON’T GIVE MILK

A peasant used to say to his children when they were young: —When you all reach the age of 12 I will tell you the secret of life. One day when the oldest turned 12, he anxiously asked his father what was the secret of life. The father replied that he was going to tell him, but that he should not reveal it to his brothers.
—The secret of life is this: The cow does not give milk. “What are you saying?” Asked the boy incredulously. —As you hear it, son: The cow does not give milk, you have to milk it. You have to get up at 4 in the morning, go to the field, walk through the corral full of manure, tie the tail, hobble the legs of the cow, sit on the stool, place the bucket and do the work your self. That is the secret of life, the cow does not give milk. You milk her or you don’t get milk.

There is this generation that thinks that cows GIVE milk. That things are automatic and free: their mentality is that if ” I wish, I ask….. I obtain.”
” They have been accustomed to get what ever they want the easy way… But No, life is not a matter of wishing, asking and obtaining. The things that one receives are the effort of what one does. Happiness is the result of effort. Lack of effort creates frustration.
So, remember to share with your children, from a young age, the secret of life. So they don’t grow up with the mentality that the government, their parents, or their cute little faces is going to give them everything they need in life.
Remember
“Cows don’t give milk. You have to work for it”

Three types of people

LEAF

Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.

BRANCH

There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you can lose them. Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are are.

ROOT

If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy for you. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you. Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots.

Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people’s lives?

Motivational Quotes

Let’s start this list off right, with the top 10 best motivational quotes:

  1. “Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.” – William B. Sprague
  2. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
  3. “I get knocked down. But I get up again. You’re never going to keep me down.” – Chumbawamba
  4. “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill
  5. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  8. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” — Henry David Thoreau

Getting Started

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What do motivational quotes teach us about getting started?

Just start.

 

“Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”
— John R. Wooden

“Just do it.”
— Nike

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.”
— Arthur Ashe

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”
— Mark Twain

“The wise does at once what the fool does at last.”
—  Baltasar Gracian

“What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.”
— Ralph Marston

“You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.”
— Henry Ford

Action

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What do motivation quotes teach us about action?

Do more of it.

“Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”
— William James

“Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.”
— Albert Schweitzer

“Either you run the day or the day runs you.”
— Jim Rohn

“Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.”
— Benjamin Disraeli

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.”
— Anne Frank

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. That is where they should be. Now put the foundation under them.”
— Henry David Thoreau

“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”
 Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.”
— Peter Marshall

“Step by step and the thing is done.”
— Charles Atlas

“The more we do the more we can do.”
— William Hazlitt

“Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.”
— Carl Sandburg

“To talk goodness is not good… only to do it is.”
— Chinese proverb

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.”
— Will Durant

“Well done is better than well said.”
— Benjamin Franklin

“Words are plentiful; deeds are precious.”
– – Lech Walesa

“Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.”
— Voltaire

Attitude

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What do motivation quotes teach us about attitude?

Express the best of you.

 

“A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing.”
— Oscar Wilde

“A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.”
– – Earl Nightingale

“Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.”
— Lou Holtz

“Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.”
– – Charles Swindoll

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
— Wayne Dyer

“Character is the result of two things: mental attitude and the way we spend our time.”
– – Elbert Green Hubbard

“Don’t take yourself too seriously. And don’t be too serious about not taking yourself too seriously.”
– – Howard Ogden

“Eagles come in all shapes and sizes, but you will recognize them chiefly by their attitudes.”
– – Charles Prestwich Scott

“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.”
— Martin Luther King Jr.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
– – Victor E. Frankl

“Funny is an attitude.”
— Flip Wilson

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
— Maya Angelou

“It is not the position, but the disposition.”
 J. E. Dinger

“Mental attitude is more important than mental capacity.”
— Walter Dill Scott

“Minds are like parachutes – they only function when open.”
– – Thomas Dewar

“Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.”
— Earl Nightingale

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in making new landscapes but in having new eyes.”
— Marcel Proust

“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.”
— Plato

Boldness

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What do motivation quotes teach us about boldness?

Go for it and don’t hold back.

“Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.”
— W. Clement Stone

“Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.”
— William James

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”
— Mary Anne Radmacher

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
— George Adair

“Fortune favors the brave.”
– – Publius Terence

“Fortune sides with him who dares.”
— Virgil

“Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.”
— Wayne Dyer

“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.”
— Albert Einstein

“He who hesitates is lost.”
– – Proverb

“If you can dream it, you can do it.”
— Walt Disney

“Leap, and the net will appear.”
— John Burroughs

“Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.”
— Chris Grosser

“Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.”
— George S. Patton

“We are still masters of our fate.  We are still captains of our souls.”
— Winston Churchill

“When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.”
– –Henry David Thoreau

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
— Wayne Gretzky

Challenge and Change

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What do motivation quotes teach us about challenge and change?

Make the most of it.

“Change is not merely necessary to life – it is life.”
— Alvin Toffler

“Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.”
— Alfred A. Montapert

“Kites rise highest against the wind; not with it.”
— Winston Churchill

“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.”
– – Samuel Johnson

“Only I can change my life. No one else can do it for me.”
— Carol Burnett

“The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.”
— Winston Churchill

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”
— George Bernard Shaw

Determination and Persistence

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What do motivation quotes teach us about determination and effort?

That’s what it takes to succeed.

“Always look at what you have left.  Never look at what you have lost.”
— Robert H. Schuller

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.”
— Thomas Jefferson

“Don’t watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going.”
— Sam Levenson

“Either I will find a way, or I will make one.”
— Philip Sidney

“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”
— Samuel Beckett

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
— Og Mandino

“I’ve failed over and over and over again. And that is why I succeed.”
— Michael Jordan

“If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.”
— H. G. Wells

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”
— Confucius

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”
— Jim Ryun

“Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
— Harriet Beecher Stowe

“Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.”
— Mary Shelley

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”
— Confucius

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
— Thomas A. Edison

“Pursue one great decisive aim with force and determination.”
— Carl von Clausewitz

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”
— Robert Collier

“The best way out is always through.”
— Robert Frost

“You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.”
— Babe Ruth

“Your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.”
— Abraham Lincoln

Greatness

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What do motivation quotes teach us about greatness?

Don’t set limits.  Act in limitless ways.

“Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.”
— Og Mandino

“Don’t put a limit on what can be accomplished.”
– – Christopher Reeve

“I’d rather attempt to do something great and fail, than to attempt nothing and succeed.”
— Robert H. Schuller

“It’s great to be great, but its greater to be human.”
— Will Rogers

“Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

“The first key to greatness is to be in reality what we appear to be.”
— Socrates

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”
— William James

“The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.”
— Arthur C. Clarke

“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”
— Confucius

“To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.”
– – Muhammad Ali

“Try not to be a person of success, but rather a person of virtue.”
 Albert Einstein

“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
— Albert Einstein

Optimism

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What do motivation quotes teach us about optimism?

Look for the bright side until you find one.

“A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.”
— Herm Albright

“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.”
– – Hans Selye

“An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere. The pessimist sees only the red light. But the truly wise person is color blind.”
— Dr. Albert Schweitzer

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.”
– – Helen Adams Keller

“Optimism means expecting the best, but confidence means knowing how to handle the worst. Never make a move if you are merely optimistic.”
— The Zurich Axioms

“The best way to cheer yourself up: Cheer everybody else up.”
— Mark Twain

“The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.”
— Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

“Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.”
— John Wooden

“To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.”
 Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anonymous on Motivation

What does “anonymous” or “unknown” teach us through their motivational quotes?

We help motivate our self and others through our attitude.

 

“Sometimes we are limited more by attitude than by opportunities.”
— Anonymous

“A healthy attitude is contagious but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier.”
— Anonymous

“Although fate presents the circumstances, how you react depends on your character.”
— Anonymous

“Attitude determines altitude.”
— Anonymous

“Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.”
– – Anonymous

“Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?”
— Anonymous

“People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.”
— Anonymous

Brian Tracy on Motivation

What does Brian Tracy teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

We shape our motivation through our thoughts and actions.

 

“Your attitude is an expression of your values,beliefs and expectations.”
— Brain Tracy

“Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other.”
— Brain Tracy

“If you did not care at all what anyone else thought about you, what would you do differently or change in your life?”
— Brain Tracy

“Make a game of finding something positive in every situation.Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.”
— Brain Tracy

“Whatever is expressed is impressed. Whatever you say to yourself, with emotion, generates thoughts, ideas and behaviors consistent with those words.”
— Brain Tracy

Bruce Lee on Motivation

What does Bruce Lee teach us about motivation through his motivational quotes?

Live with zest and be your best.

 

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”
— Bruce Lee

“As you think, so shall you become.”
— Bruce Lee

“Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.”
— Bruce Lee

“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.”
— Bruce Lee

“All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.”
— Bruce Lee

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”
— Bruce Lee

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.”
— Bruce Lee

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”
— Bruce Lee

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”
— Bruce Lee

“Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.”
– – Bruce Lee

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”
– – Bruce Lee

“Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.”
— Bruce Lee

“Real living is living for others.”
— Bruce Lee

“Take things as they are. Punch when you have to punch. Kick when you have to kick.”
– – Bruce Lee

“The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”
— Bruce Lee

Jim Rohn on Motivation

What does Jim Rohn teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Start your motivation from the inside out.

 

“Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.”
— Jim Rohn

“Humans have the remarkable ability to get exactly what they must have. But there is a difference between a ‘must’ and ‘want.’”
— Jim Rohn

“Motivation alone is not enough.If you have an idiot and you motivate him,now you have a motivated idiot.”
— Jim Rohn

“My suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don’t and join the 10% who do.”
— Jim Rohn

“The best motivating is self-motivating.The guy says,”I wish someone would come by and turn me on.”What if they don’t show up?You’ve got to have a better plan for your life.”
— Jim Rohn

“When you know what you want,and you want it badly enough,you’ll find a way to get it.”
— Jim Rohn

“Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value.”
– – Jim Rohn

Ralph Waldo Emerson on Motivation

What does Ralph Waldo Emerson teach us about motivation from this motivation quotes?

Get out of the way of your own greatness.

 

“Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A chief event of life is the day in which we have encountered a mind that startled us.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A good indignation brings out all one’s powers.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A great part of courage is the courage of having done the thing before.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A man is what he thinks about all day long.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“A man’s growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Always do what you are afraid to do.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“As soon as there is life there is danger.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Beauty without expression is boring.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Before we acquire great power we must acquire wisdom to use it well.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Each age, it is found, must write its own books; or rather, each generation for the next succeeding.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great ever achieved.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Ever artist was first an amateur.”
– – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tony Robbins on Motivation

What does Tony Robbins teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Do what makes your heart sing.

 

“Live with passion.”
— Tony Robbins

“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.”
— Tony Robbins

“It not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.”
— Tony Robbins

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”
— Tony Robbins

“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”
– – Tony Robbins

“There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.”
– – Tony Robbins

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
– – Tony Robbins

Zig Ziglar on Motivation

What does Zig Ziglar teach us about motivation through his motivation quotes?

Focus on the positive, and you’ll catch more flies with honey, than with vinegar.

“Of all the ‘attitudes’ we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.”
— Zig Ziglar

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
— Zig Ziglar

“Positive thinking won’t let you do anything but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“To respond is positive, to react is negative.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“When you choose to be pleasant and positive in the way you treat others, you have also chosen, in most cases,how you are going to be treated by others.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“You can disagree without being disagreeable.”
— Zig Ziglar

“I’ve go to say ‘no’ to the good to say ‘yes’ to the best.”
– – Zig Ziglar

“You cannot tailor make the situations in life, but you can tailor make the attitudes to fit those situations before they arise.”
— Zig Ziglar

Manhood Is Not Natural

Manhood is not natural, but it is essential. No society can endure if it does not harness male sexual energy and teach men to take care of the children they father and the women who bear them.

Few would disagree that manhood is in crisis today. Men are falling behind women in important measures of personal and social well-being. In deeply consequential ways, they have become the weaker sex.

Some women celebrate this. Most, however, are deeply concerned, especially since the weakness of the men in their lives makes it increasingly difficult for them to become wives and mothers. The equation is really quite simple: if boys don’t become good, dependable men, they can’t become good, dependable husbands and fathers.

The majority of women want marriage and babies, and usually quite dearly. They don’t need to be talked into them and never really have. Ask women today their biggest obstacle to achieving this goal. It’s not a shortage of males, but of responsible adult males. Men. If they cannot find marriageable men, they often go with other choices. It’s no coincidence that the two fastest growing family formation trends are unmarried cohabitation and out-of-wedlock childbearing among twenty- and thirty-something women.

The causes of these trends can be found in the underappreciated and often-denied distinct natures of manhood and womanhood. It’s rooted in a strange but essential anthropological truth: Womanhood is natural. Manhood is not.

Womanhood Is Natural

Womanhood is a natural phenomenon. A female’s biological make-up usually ensures that she will grow into a healthy woman. Leave her to herself, and it’s likely to happen. It’s why the phrases “woman up,” “be a woman,” or “make a woman out of her” don’t exist.

As her body matures, internally and externally, it sends her and those around her an unmistakable message about what she is and what she’s becoming. It moves her inexorably in that direction with a force as great as it is mysterious. Few girls miss these cues. It’s not just her body that is changing; she is becoming a different person. Her family and community treat her differently because of it. A father shudders at it, as it forever changes the way he interacts with “his little girl.” He must bow to and honor it. I’m the father of a girl. I know it all too well.

Women must be taught, with great political and ideological pressure, to ignore their womanhood and abandon their children, for doing so is contrary to all nature.

Manhood Is Taught

The opposite is true of manhood.  Unlike a woman, a man has no civilized role or agenda inscribed in his body. The boy has no on-board GPS directing him toward his future. His transition into manhood can only come into being with significant, intentional work by other men. As a behavior, manhood must be learned, proven, and earned. As an identity, manhood must be bestowed by a boy’s father and the community’s larger fraternity of men. His mother can only affirm it. She cannot bequeath it.

Maleness just happens, but manhood does not. The first is a biological event, while the second is a developed character quality. When manhood is not formed and cultivated, males fail to mature, resulting in the “perpetual adolescence” or “failure to launch” that plagues our culture. When so many men play beer pong into their forties, live in their parents’ basements, play videogames twelve hours a day, and encounter women only in the form of pixels on a porn site, it seems clear that we have a manhood problem.

The human male nature doesn’t naturally go in the direction civilization requires; it requires the direction of other men. Unlike the female nature, which tends to exist reliably among the median scale of human behavior, the male nature is oriented more toward extremes, for good or bad.

Manhood must be crafted and refined in order to orient males in pro-social, communitarian directions. In fact, this is the first work of every civilization. Anthropologists tell us that the original and most fundamental social problem of any culture is the unattached male. Left to his own, he is not inclined to play well with others. He is not disposed to make himself, or anyone around him, a better person. He is not likely to become other-focused. Either fiercely competitive or indolent, he is more likely to become a social contagion. He will either seek to define himself in the community by power, false confidence, and selfish conquest, or shrink away toward inactivity and reticence.

In every known human society, everywhere in the world, the young male learns that when he grows up, one of the things which he must do in order to be a full member of society is to provide food [and protection] for some female and her young. … every known human society rests firmly on the learned nurturing behaviour of men.

Thus, across virtually all cultures, manhood has largely consisted of three essential qualities: procreation, provision, and protection. If the boy doesn’t learn these things, then he is not likely to become a good, selfless, serving man. Shame and derision from the community will become his lot.

Tragically, manhood is becoming extinct because we are not teaching it.

Male vs. Female Sexuality

Additionally, the most elemental destabilizing force in every culture is not merely unrefined male energy, but his unchecked sexual energy. Full stop. In its fundamental essence, it is deeply anti-social. It has no civilizing, pro-social nature in itself. To become so, it must be acted upon by other forces. By contrast, female sexual energy tends to be inherently pro-social. Female sexuality has the power to create human civilization by moderating the behavior of men, but it can only do this when there is social appreciation for these differences in male and female sexuality, coupled with the strong social morals they require.

Of course, the flip side of unmoderated male energy goes beyond sexuality. A female’s naturally domesticating influence on overall male energy and behavior is easily demonstrated. Who pays substantially lower auto, health, and life insurance premiums, married men or their single peers? Service to the god of equality requires there be no difference here. But we all know better. The wedding-ring-clad man enjoys the financial benefit, and not because insurance companies have a sentimental heart for weddings. Every insurance company knows married men direct their male wanderlust and energy toward safety and responsibility. Single men, not so much.

Without the essential tempering influence of female sexuality, male sexuality is a whole other animal, and not a pretty one.

Sex Makes Babies

This is a problem, because sex makes babies. Every society must give greater attention to this fact than it does to the need for food, shelter, and protection from outside attack. These and all other vital needs are either enhanced or crippled by what a community expects of the relationship between a man, the children he sires, and the woman he does so with. If it doesn’t get this right, few other good things the community needs are likely.

Of course, the male’s attitude and approach toward his procreative act is drastically different from hers. His necessary participation in the act is solely orgasmic, lasting seconds, and is all pleasure. He is not naturally connected to the potential of that act. The mother’s connection, however, is profound, starting shortly after conception and intensifying daily. It costs her dearly in energy, sleep, and overall comfort, starting long before the pain of childbirth. She is inescapably invested. He is not.

The crucial process of civilization is the subordination of male sexual impulses and biology to the long-term horizons of female sexuality . . . It is male behavior that must be changed to create a civilized order. The crucial process of civilization. No society can develop or endure without succeeding at this.

Manhood, Marriage, and Fatherhood

The woman is not only the stabilizing force of male sexuality; she is the authorizing factor in fatherhood. If a particular man desires to be involved in the life of his child, it is the child’s mother, and she alone, who determines whether and how he may do this. She typically desires to make this relationship public by making the father of the child her husband. Anthropologists have called this the legitimization of the child.

Consider the etymology of two key words: matrimony and husband. The first comes from the Latin, matrimonium, meaning literally “obligation to the mother.” Since it is virtually impossible for a mother and her child to thrive by themselves, marriage arose in nearly every civilization throughout time as a way to have the impregnating male take responsibility for his child and the mother. The surrounding community expects the male to fulfill his obligation so it doesn’t have to. It is why marriage is a deeply public act and no society has found a way to function without it.

Thus, the good man steps up, and in doing so, becomes a husband. This stems from the Old Norse, meaning literally house dweller: hús (“house”) bóndi (“dweller” and “bonded serf” or “slave”). The husband settles down and confines himself to a particular household, serving and providing resources for its inhabitants. He becomes a whole other kind of man, taking full responsible for his sexuality and his part in the coming generation.

What Happens When Manhood Isn’t Taught?

It is then certainly no coincidence that the term “feminization of poverty” was coined as the sexual revolution initiated the great divorce between sex, babies, and marriage.  While large opportunities were opening for women due to greater equality, Poverty is rapidly becoming a female problem. She blamed the significant increase in the number of female-headed families.

Ghettos are not created by city planners, crime by the police, or failing health by big pharma. Each of these social ills arises by inattention to the sexual behaviors of males. If he doesn’t have to marry before having sex (and potentially fathering children), the average man won’t. So he hasn’t. The feminization of poverty and the accompanying declines in female happiness and childhood well-being are the tragic results.

Manhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless generosity, even to the point of sacrifice. Again and again, we find that “real” men are those who give more than they take away; they serve others. Real men are generous, even to a fault. Non-men are often those stigmatized as stingy and unproductive.

A good man is the fountain, not the drain. The formation of such men is the first task of human civilization, and its largest threat when ignored.

The question is, how can we recover manhood today? We must find the answer. For it is not only the fate of men that is at stake, but the fate of our women, children, and society as well.

25 habits that will help you thrive during season of the corona virus epidemic:

1. Set SMART goals.

Success requires dedicated work. Write your goals and map out the key steps they must take to get closer to their goals every day.

2. They manage their time.

Time is precious and valuable. Successful managers manage their time effectively by cutting out activities that do not align with their goals.

3. They invest in others.

Successful managers continually invest in others. Investing in others includes encouraging, coaching, mentoring, and sponsoring future leaders.

4. They communicate effectively.

Successful managers are good communicators. Effective communication requires attentive listening and asking questions. Good communicators also respond to questions when asked and they share information that will benefit others.

5. They focus on the big picture.

Successful managers engage in strategic planning and effective implementation. To do so, they broaden their perspective to understand how all the pieces of a plan, project or goal it together.

6. They invest in their professional and personal development.

The best managers understand the importance of investing in their professional and personal development. They read books, attend seminars, and / or seek advanced degrees. Continuing education enhances their credentials and allows them to stay on top of trends that will impact their areas of expertise.

7. They take risks.

Taking risks builds confidence and sharpens one’s ability to be decisive. Successful managers are willing to try new things and experiment with new ideas.

8. They have integrity.

Successful managers demonstrate consistency between their words and their actions. Their consistency inspires others to trust them and their ability to lead.

9. They are disciplined.

Self-discipline is an important leadership attribute. It requires engaging in consistent action even when you don’t feel like it. Self-discipline fuels a successful manager’s sense of determination and allows the manager to achieve goals.

10. They are strategic.

Strategic leadership requires thoughtful analysis, planning, and execution. Successful managers invest time to think through various scenarios and consider the consequences of potential actions.

11. They ask for feedback.

The founder of modern management, Peter Drucker, once wrote: “The only way to discover your strengths is through feedback analysis.” Successful managers continually seek feedback to improve their performance and enable continued success.

12. They seek advice.

Thriving managers seek advice to make effective decisions. Knowledgeable advice allows a leader to learn about blind spots. Receiving guidance enhances a manager’s leadership style by offering a different point of view.

13. They promote collaboration.

Successful management requires engaging others and inspiring them toward shared goals. Sharing information and inviting others to participate in collaboration builds trust within a team and a common sense of purpose.

14. They are visible.

Successful managers are visible and create visibility opportunities for their teams. Visibility facilitates connection points with others, spurs interaction, and provides a platform to showcase accomplishments.

15. They are respectful of others.

Trust and respect are fundamental to effective leadership. No one likes to be disrespected or denigrated. Successful managers are courteous and considerate of others. Genuine regard for others engenders loyalty and fosters mutual respect.

16. They promote their team’s accomplishments.

Everyone wants to be part of a winning team. Giving others credit and acknowledging their accomplishments are two ways that successful managers create high achieving teams. Promoting their team’s accomplishments encourages momentum for further achievement.

17. They build a network.

Good working relationships are important for career and personal advancement. Successful managers work at strategically building networks that support their personal and professional goals. They create regular opportunities to establish genuine connections with people in and out of their professional community.

18. They position themselves for the future.

In an ever-changing workplace that is increasingly being impacted by technology and global markets, positioning oneself for the future is critical for career and team success. Successful managers stay on top of industry trends by reading periodicals, attending conferences, and networking. They also seek opportunities to share what they learn with team members and incorporate new methods into their work processes.

19. They navigate office politics.

Successful managers embrace office politics. They understand that office politics is a fact of life. But, they also understand that navigating office politics does not require that they violate their personal values. Rather, they respect their organization’s culture, strategically build their network, and interact sincerely to influence others effectively.

20. They manage conflict.

Workplace conflict is inevitable. Rather than avoid conflict, successful managers seek to address difficult situations professionally and respectfully. They engage in difficult conversations, seek common ground, and preserve relationships.

21. They admit mistakes.

Making mistakes is part of life. Effective leadership calls for transparency and accountability. Successful managers, therefore, admit their mistakes, learn from them, and do better next time.

22. They are humble.

The best managers are humble. Many associate humility with weakness. But, in fact, humility is the ability to accurately assess one’s own strengths and limitations. It takes sober judgment and confidence to self-assess. Genuine humility is an attractive quality and inspires an environment of honesty and trust.

23. They strive for work-life balance.

Maintaining a high-performance work culture requires work-life balance. The best managers work to ensure that their teams stay engaged by encouraging time off and leading by example. All leaders need time to recharge. Taking time off to rest, connect with loved ones, and pursue personal interests puts work into perspective and makes managers more relatable as people.

24. They support their teams.

Managers cannot succeed without the support of their teams. The best managers empower their teams by allowing them to take ownership for their work. Successful managers provide their teams with the encouragement, tools, and resources they need to get their jobs done.

25. They say, “Thank you.”

In a performance driven workplace, expressing gratitude is often overlooked. Thanking others for their contributions let’s them know they are appreciated and valued. Saying “thank you” takes a few seconds of time. But, the impact can last a lifetime.

Valentine Quotes

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I decided to put together a collection of love quotes for your browsing pleasure.

I reached far and wide across songs, movies, and famous people to find some of the best love quotes available.

Love Quotes Teach Us that Love Shapes Your Experience

My most important lessons in love are that love is what you make of it, the more you give, the more you get, true love is falling in love with the same person over and over again, and I also learned that “Those who are the hardest to love, need it the most.”

Top 10 Love Quotes

I selected a few of my favorite love quotes for a top 10 list:

  1. “I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.” — Lucille Ball
  2. “Love is like heaven, but it can hurt like hell.” – Unknown
  3. “Love is not a feeling, it’s an ability.” — Dan in Real Life
  4. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” — When Harry Met Sally
  5. “One of the hardest things in life is having words in your heart that you can’t utter.” — James Earl Jones
  6. “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life — that word is love.” – Sophocles
  7. “The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.” — Allan K. Chalmers
  8. “The best things in life aren’t things.” — Art Buchwald
  9. “There is a place you can touch a woman that will drive her crazy. Her heart.” — Milk Money
  10. “You make me want to be a better man.” — As Good As It Gets

Beauty

Is it beauty that makes us fall head over heels?  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and beauty ranges from acts of kindness to beautiful looks, and inner beauty can last a lifetime, while outer beauty is up against Mother Nature and gravity.  With that in mind, here are love quotes focused on beauty and love:

“But soft! What light through yonder window breaks? It is the east and Juliet is the sun.”

– William Shakespeare

“Do you love me because I am beautiful or am I beautiful because I am loved?”

– Unknown

“If I could ask God one thing, it would be to stop the moon. Stop the moon and make this night and your beauty last forever.”

— A Knight’s Tale

“Kindness in women, not their beauteous looks, shall win my love.”

— William Shakespeare

“See, how she leans her cheek upon her hand! Oh that I were a glove upon that hand, that I might touch that cheek!”

— William Shakespeare

“Things are beautiful if you love them.”

— Jean Anouilh

“Your eyes are the sweetest stars I’ve ever seen.”

— Moulin Rouge

Broken Hearts and Loss

For many people, the pain of a broken bone is nothing like the pain of a broken heart.  Here are love quotes on broken hearts and loss:

“’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

— Alfred Lord Tennyson

“Hearts will be practical only when they are made unbreakable.”

— The Wizard of Oz

“How come we don’t always know when love begins, but we always know when it ends?”

— L.A. Story

“If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on, is to remember them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever.”

— The Crow

“If you love something, set it free; if it comes back it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was.”

— Richard Bach

“Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop.”

– Unknown

“That’s why they call them crushes. If they were easy, they’d call them something else.”

— Sixteen Candles

“The hottest love has the coldest end.”

– Socrates

“The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned.”

— William Somerset Maugham

“To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful.”

— Bess Myerson

“Who do you turn to when the only person in the world that can stop you from crying, is exactly the one making you cry?”

– Unknown

Falling in Love

There are so many ways to describe the act of falling in love.  Here are some of the best love quotes that do just that:

“A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears.”

— Woodrow Wyatt

“Do you ever put your arms out and just spin and spin and spin? Well, that’s what love is like. Everything inside of you tells you to stop before you fall, but you just keep going.”

— Practical Magic

“Do you want to know the easiest way to fall in love? Just associate with all your pleasant experiences with someone, and disassociate from all the unpleasant ones.”

— Richard Bandler

“Fate exists but it can only take you so far, because once you’re there, it’s up to you to make it happen.”

— Can’t Hardly Wait

“Love is like a butterfly, it settles upon you when you least expect it.”

– Unknown

“To be loved, be lovable.”

– Unknown

“Wise men say, only fools rush in. But I can’t help falling in love with you.”

— Elvis Presley

Fear

Fear comes with the territory.  Here are some of the best love quotes on fear as it relates to love:

“If you love someone you say it, you say it right then, out loud. Otherwise the moment just … passes you by.”

— My Best friend’s Wedding

“I would rather have eyes that cannot see; ears that cannot hear; lips that cannot speak, than a heart that cannot love.”

— Robert Tizon

“Tell her that you love her. You’ve got nothing to lose, and you’ll always regret it if you don’t.”

— Love Actually

“You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.”

— Barbara De Angelis

“What is love … Oh baby, don’t hurt me … Don’t hurt me no more.”

– Haddaway

Fun

While love can be some serious business, don’t lose your funny bone.  Here are some light-hearted love quotes that might just put a smile on your face:

“If love is the answer, can you please repeat the question?”

– Unknown

“Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.”

— Samuel Johnson

“My husband and I fell in love at first sight… maybe I should have taken a second look.”

— Crimes and Misdemeanors

“Nothing spoils the taste of peanut butter like unrequited love.”

— Charlie Brown

“Swoon. I’ll catch you.”

— The English Patient

“You are what I never knew I always wanted.”

— Fools Rush In

“You can’t put a price tag on love, but you can on all its accessories.”

— Melanie Clark

“Your heart is my piñata.”

— Chuck Palahniuk

Kissing

Love adds the magic to an otherwise ordinary kiss.  Here are some interesting love quotes about kissing:

“A kiss isn’t worth anything until you give it to somebody else.”

– Unknown

“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”

— Judy Garland

“Kiss me. Kiss me as if it were the last time.”

– Casablanca

“There have been five great kisses since 1642 B.C. (before then couples hooked thumbs) … and the precise rating of kisses is a terribly difficult thing, often leading to great controversy.  Well, this one left them all behind.”

— The Princess Bride

“What do you want to marry me for anyhow? … So I can kiss you anytime I want.”

– Sweet Home Alabama

“You know, that moment when you kiss someone and everything around you becomes hazy. And the only thing in focus is you and that person. And you realize that that person is the only person that you’re supposed to kiss for the rest of your life. And for one moment you get this gift. And you want to laugh and you want to cry because you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared that it will go away all at the same time.”

— Never Been Kissed

Love and Life

Some say that it’s love that makes life worth living.  Others say that love is all you need.  Here are some love quotes on love and life:

“A life filled with love must have some thorns, but a life empty of love will have no roses.”

– Unknown

“All our young lives we search for someone to love, someone to make us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope, all the while wondering if somewhere, somehow, someone perfect is searching for us.”

— The Wonder Years

“Beginnings are usually scary and endings are usually sad, but it’s everything in between that makes it all worth living.”

— Hope Floats

“Life is messy. Love is messier.”

— Catch and Release

“Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made – like bread, remade all the time, made new.”

— Ursula K. LeGuin

“Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away.”

— Elbert Hubbard

“Love makes life so confusing, but without love would you really want to live?”

– Unknown

“The rules of fair play do not apply in love and war.”

— John Lyly

“The secret of love is seeking variety in your life together, and never letting routine chords dull the melody of your romance.”

— Unknown

Significance and Meaning

Love can turn the ordinary into the extraordinary.  Here are some love quotes on significance and meaning:

“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.”

— Roy Croft

“No one is perfect until you fall in love with them.”

– Unknown

“The greatest possession we have costs nothing, it’s known as love.”

— Brian Jett

“There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.”

— Don Juan DeMarco

“To be able to say how much you love is to love but little.”

— Petrarch

“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”

– Unknown

“We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love.”

— Mother Teresa

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.”

— William Shakespeare

“You will see a lot of things, but they will mean nothing to you, if you lose sight of the thing you love.”

— At First Sight

The Power of Love

Love is a powerful thing.   Here are some love quotes on the power of love:

“All you need is love, love, love is all you need.”

– The Beatles

“Faith makes all things possible. Love makes them easy.”

– Unknown

“I will find you. No matter how long it will take, no matter how far.”

— The Last Of The Mohicans

“Let your heart guide you. It whispers so listen carefully.”

— The Land Before Time

“Love has given me wings, so I must fly.”

— A Knight’s Tale

“Love is like a knife, it can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that will last a lifetime.”

– Unknown

“Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place, suddenly it moves with such a perfect grace, suddenly my life doesn’t seem such a waste, it all revolves around you.”

— Moulin Rouge

“Take love, multiply it by infinity and take it to the depths of forever.. and you still have only a glimpse of how I feel for you.”

— Meet Joe Black

“The best love is the kind that weakens the soul, that makes us reach for more, that plants fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I hope to give to you forever.”

— The Notebook

“When a man loves a woman, he can’t keep his mind on nothing else.”

— Percy Sledge

“When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.”

— Jimi Hendrix

True Love

True love is what many people seek, and some people find, and others abandon.   Here are some love quotes on true love:

“Don’t say we aren’t right for each other, the way i see it is … we aren’t right for anyone else.”

— The Cutting Edge

“Have you never met a woman who inspires you to love? Until your every sense is filled with her? You inhale her. You taste her. You see your unborn children in her eyes and know that your heart has at last found a home. Your life begins with her, and without her it must surely end.”

— Don Juan DeMarco

“I am someone else when I’m with you, someone more like myself.”

— Original Sin

“I wonder how many people never get the one they want, but end up with the one they’re supposed to have.”

— Fried Green Tomatoes

“Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man.”

– Unknown

“This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime.”

— Bridges of Madison County

“True love cannot be found where it does not truly exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does.”

— Kissing A Fool “”

“True love is like a fine wine, the older the better.”

— Fred Jacob

“True love is when your heart and your minds are saying the same thing.”

— Leanna L. Bartram

“Trying to make someone fall in love with you is about as pointless as trying to control who you fall in love with.”

– Unknown

“You’re not perfect sport, and let me save you the suspense, this girl you met, she isn’t perfect either. But the question is whether or not you’re perfect for each other.”

— Good Will Hunting

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”

– Unknown

General Love Quotes

Here is a cornucopia of love quotes on general ideas about love:

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”

–Mignon McLaughlin

“An immature love says I love you because I need you, but a mature love says I need you because I love you.”

– Unknown

“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.”

— Mother Teresa

“I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I’ve ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours.”

— The Notebook

“In these dreams I’ve loved you so, that by now I think I know what it’s like to be loved by you. I will love being loved by you.”

— The King and I

“I’ve been saying it so long to you, you just wouldn’t listen. Every time you said ‘Farm Boy do this’ you thought I was answering ‘As you wish’ but that’s only because you were hearing wrong. ‘I love you’ was what it was, but you never heard.”

— The Princess Bride

“Love comforteth like sunshine after rain.”

— William Shakespeare

“Summer romances begin for all kinds of reasons, but when all is said and done, they have one thing in common. They’re shooting stars, a spectacular moment of light in the heavens, fleeting glimpse of eternity, and in a flash they’re gone.”

— The Notebook

“The heart has its reasons that reason does not know.”

— Pascal

“The mark of a true crush, Is that you fall in love first, and grope for reasons afterward.”

–Shana Alexander

“What will NY152 say today, I wonder. I turn on my computer, I wait impatiently as it boots up. I go online, and my breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words: You’ve got mail. I hear nothing, not even a sound on the streets of New York, just the beat of my own heart. I have mail. From you.”

— You’ve Got Mail

“When they ask me what I liked best, I’ll tell them it was you.”

— City Of Angels

What’s your favorite love quote of all time?