- Now and then, break out the fancy china and drink the good wine for no reason at all.
- Dance at weddings until your feet are sore.
- Tell your partner you love them every night before falling asleep. Someday you’ll find the other side of the bed empty and wish you could.
- Don’t fear sadness, as it tends to sit right next to love.
- Treat you body like a house you have to live in for another 70 years.
- Never raise your voice, except for at a ballgame.
- Do one good deed every single day, but never tell anyone about it.
- Time doesn’t heal anything when it comes to relationships. Don’t delay difficult conversations.
- Find the things that make your eyes light up. Do more of those.
- Always remind yourself that your track record for making it through your bad days is perfect.
- If something has a minor issue, repair it. Minor issues become major issues over time. Applies equally to love, friendships, health and home.
- The most damning lie you can tell is the lie you tell to yourself.
- No one has ever argued their way to happiness.
- If you’re going to lose a fight, make sure the other person thinks twice before fighting you again.
- Getting old is no picnic, but it’s much better than the alternative.
- You may occasionally disappoint others, but make sure to never disappoint yourself.
- Never let a good friendship atrophy. Send the text, make the call, plan the trip. Good friendships must be treasured.
- When you meet someone, look them in the eye, give a firm handshake, and call them by their name.
- Give everybody a second chance, but never a third.
- The ‘good old days’ are always happening right now.
- Whenever you hug someone, make sure they are the one to let go first.
- If it’s raining on a warm summer evening, go outside and dance in it.
- Taking no risk is the biggest risk you can take. Regret from inaction is always more painful than regret from action.
- It doesn’t have to be perfect for it to be wonderful.
- When in doubt, love. We can always use more love.
- Looking presentable is a matter of self-respect.
- When you’re feeling down, smile at yourself in the mirror for a full minute.
- Travel as much as you can. Collect one token from every trip to remember it by.
- If there’s something bothering you, ask yourself whether it will matter in one month. If not, let it go right now.
- Stop trying to change people who don’t want to be changed.
- You many win the argument, but if you lose the friend, what was the point?
- Stubborn pride is the downfall of many men and women. Learn to forget the slight hurts and avoid grudges.
- Do one thing that challenges your mind every single day. A crossword puzzle, math problem, anything. Daily “exercise” will keep your mind sharp for the long haul.
- If something isn’t working and your gut tells you to try harder, first ask whether there’s just an easier way to do it.
- Allow your kids to fail. You will hat it, but it’s so important.
- There’s nothing wrong with shedding old relationships as you grow and change.
- No amount of money is ever worth trading for your peace of mind.
- If your kid wants to dance in line at the store, join them.
- Smile and say good morning to strangers on the street.
- Laugh loudly and unapologetically whenever you feel like it.
Walk with the dreamers,
the successful people with their heads in the clouds
and their feet on the ground.
Let their spirit ignite a fire within you to leave this world better than when you found it.
- Walk: Walking helps clear your mind. It offers you a different perspective.
- Indulge: Take a day off to spend a whole day doing exactly what you want.
- Be Generous: Give something to a total stranger. Acts of giving make us feel warm and fuzzy inside.
- Sit in a coffee shop or a busy street and soak up your surroundings. You don’t have to talk to people.
- Educate yourself: research what it is you are experiencing. Arm yourself with knowledge and the resources to tackle the problems head-on.
- Preparation:Write the day’s to-do list the evening before.
- Strengths: Write down a list of 20 of your strengths.
- Keep going forward: Keep taking small steps, no matter what. Being stagnant doesn’t serve you.
- Re-visit and old hobby: If you don’t have one, create one.
- Prioritise: Decide what’s important right now. Say no to extra obligations.
- Sleep. Get enough rest. Sleep 7-9 hours each night.
- Be silly: Do something that you did as a child. Don’t take life too seriously.
- Cry: Release all that emotion. You will feel better.
- Check you self- talk. Negative self-talk does not serve you.
- Journal: Develop a habit of journaling. This will help free you mind.
- Remind yourself that life is a journey. Remember that what you are going through is temporary, It will pass.
Be strong, be kind, be free
Do things that make you proud of yourself
Surround yourself with people who bring out the best qualities
and distance yourself from people who do the opposite
True to yourself and true to your morals
Stand up for yourself
Don’t let people take advantage of your kindness and soft heart
Don’t take sh*t from anyone and don’t put yourself down
Believe in yourself and believe in your journey
Be good to yourself
Be unapologetically you
Embrace your imperfections
Accept the fact that when you grow sometimes you loose people and that’s okay
Celebrate your every success and learn from failure
And most importantly, never, ever let anything stand
in the way of the person you are becoming
all the small things make a big difference
every step is crucial
life isn’t about a single moment of great triumph
it’s about the trials and errors that slowly get you there
the blood, sweat, tears and the small,
inconsequential things you do on a day-to-day basis
it all matters in the end
every step, every regret, every decision, every minor setback
and every minuscule win.
all this has strengthened you
all of this has led you to every success you’ve every had
all of this has made you who you are today
and all of this proves that you have the
strength to deal with the challenges
that are in front of you
Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:
- Knowing when to come in out of the rain;
- Why the early bird gets the worm;
- Life isn’t always fair;
- And maybe it was my fault.
Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don’t spend more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).
His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.
Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children.
It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.
Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses; and criminals received better treatment than their victims.
Common Sense took a beating when you couldn’t defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.
Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.
Common Sense was preceded in death,
-by his parents, Truth and Trust,
-by his wife, Discretion,
-by his daughter, Responsibility,
-and by his son, Reason.
He is survived by his 5 stepbrothers;
- I Know My Rights
- I Want It Now
- Someone Else Is To Blame
- I’m A Victim
- Pay me for Doing Nothing
Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.
If you still remember him, pass this on. If not, join the majority and do nothing
- Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, SMILE. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
- Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
- When you wake up in the morning, Pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.
- Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
- Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli and almonds.
- Try to make at least three people smile each day.
- Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
- Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper.
- Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
- Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!
- Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
- You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
- Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
- Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
- No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
- Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
- Help the needy, Be generous! Be a ‘Giver’, not a ‘Taker’.
- What other people think of you is none of your business.
- Time heals everything.
- However good or bad a situation, it will change.
- Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family will. Stay in touch.
- Envy is a waster of time. You already have all you need.
- Each night before you go to bed, Pray to God and be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today!
- Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
- Make every day count!
There were two warring tribes in the Andes, one that lived in the lowlands and the other high in the mountains. The mountain people invaded the lowlanders one day, and as part of their plundering of the people, they kidnapped a baby of one of the lowlander families and took the infant with them back up into the mountains. The lowlanders didn’t know how to climb the mountain. They didn’t know any of the trails that the mountain people used, and they didn’t know where to find the mountain people or how to track them in the steep terrain. Even so, they sent out their best party of fighting men to climb the mountain and bring the baby home. The men tried first one method of climbing and then another. They tried one trail and then another. After several days of effort, however, they had climbed only several hundred feet. Feeling hopeless and helpless, the lowlander men decided that the cause was lost, and they prepared to return to their village below. As they were packing their gear for the descent, they saw the baby’s mother walking toward them. They realized that she was coming down the mountain that they hadn’t figured out how to climb. And then they saw that she had the baby strapped to her back. How could that be? One man greeted her and said, “We couldn’t climb this mountain. How did you do this when we, the strongest and most able men in the village, couldn’t do it?” She shrugged her shoulders and said, “It wasn’t your baby
Start your day with fresh fruits or juice
have some fresh air and breath deeply
whenever you can smile genuinely
at least once a day stay away from smoking
try to spare 20 minutes for physical exercise
everyday have your sleep
out love your green vegetables
spend more quality time with your loved ones
keep stress away from your life!
Broken Hearts and Loss
- ‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. – Alfred Lord Tennyson
- Hearts will be practical only when they are made unbreakable. – The Wizard of Oz
- How come we don’t always know when love begins, but we always know when it ends? – L.A. Story
- If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on, is to remember them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever. – The Crow
- If you love something, set it free; if it comes back it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was. – Richard Bach
- Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop. – Unknown
- That’s why they call them crushes. If they were easy, they’d call them something else. – Sixteen Candles
- The hottest love has the coldest end. – Socrates
- The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned. – William Somerset Maugham
- To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful. – Bess Myerson
- Who do you turn to when the only person in the world that can stop you from crying, is exactly the one making you cry? – Unknown
Falling in Love
- A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears. – Woodrow Wyatt
- Do you ever put your arms out and just spin and spin and spin? Well, that’s what love is like. Everything inside of you tells you to stop before you fall, but you just keep going. – Practical Magic
- Do you want to know the easiest way to fall in love? Just associate with all your pleasant experiences with someone, and disassociate from all the unpleasant ones. — Richard Bandler
- Fate exists but it can only take you so far, because once you’re there, it’s up to you to make it happen. – Can’t Hardly Wait
- Love is like a butterfly, it settles upon you when you least expect it. – Unknown
- To be loved, be lovable. – Unknown
- Wise men say, only fools rush in. But I can’t help falling in love with you. – Elvis Presley
- If you love someone you say it, you say it right then, out loud. Otherwise the moment just … passes you by. – My Best friend’s Wedding
- I would rather have eyes that cannot see; ears that cannot hear; lips that cannot speak, than a heart that cannot love. – Robert Tizon
- Tell her that you love her. You’ve got nothing to lose, and you’ll always regret it if you don’t. – Love Actually
- You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.- Barbara De Angelis
- What is love … Oh baby, don’t hurt me … Don’t hurt me no more. – Haddaway
- If love is the answer, can you please repeat the question? – Unknown
- Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience. – Samuel Johnson
- My husband and I fell in love at first sight… maybe I should have taken a second look. – Crimes and Misdemeanors
- Nothing spoils the taste of peanut butter like unrequited love. – Charlie Brown
- Swoon. I’ll catch you. – The English Patient
- You are what I never knew I always wanted. – Fools Rush In
- You can’t put a price tag on love, but you can on all its accessories. – Melanie Clark
- Your heart is my piñata. – Chuck Palahniuk
- A kiss isn’t worth anything until you give it to somebody else. – Unknown
- For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul. – Judy Garland
- Kiss me. Kiss me as if it were the last time. – Casablanca
- There have been five great kisses since 1642 B.C. (before then couples hooked thumbs) … and the precise rating of kisses is a terribly difficult thing, often leading to great controversy. Well, this one left them all behind. – The Princess Bride
- What do you want to marry me for anyhow? … So I can kiss you anytime I want. – Sweet Home Alabama
- You know, that moment when you kiss someone and everything around you becomes hazy. And the only thing in focus is you and that person. And you realize that that person is the only person that you’re supposed to kiss for the rest of your life. And for one moment you get this gift. And you want to laugh and you want to cry because you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared that it will go away all at the same time. – Never Been Kissed
Love and Life
- A life filled with love must have some thorns, but a life empty of love will have no roses. – Unknown
- All our young lives we search for someone to love, someone to make us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope, all the while wondering if somewhere, somehow, someone perfect is searching for us. – The Wonder Years
- Beginnings are usually scary and endings are usually sad, but it’s everything in between that makes it all worth living. – Hope Floats
- Life is messy. Love is messier. – Catch and Release
- Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made – like bread, remade all the time, made new. – Ursula K. LeGuin
- Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away. – Elbert Hubbard
- Love makes life so confusing, but without love would you really want to live? – Unknown
- The rules of fair play do not apply in love and war.- John Lyly
- The secret of love is seeking variety in your life together, and never letting routine chords dull the melody of your romance.- Unknown
Significance and Meaning
- I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. – Roy Croft
- No one is perfect until you fall in love with them. – Unknown
- The greatest possession we have costs nothing, it’s known as love. – Brian Jett
- There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love. – Don Juan DeMarco
- To be able to say how much you love is to love but little.- Petrarch
- To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world. – Unknown
- We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love. – Mother Teresa
- What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. – William Shakespeare
- You will see a lot of things, but they will mean nothing to you, if you lose sight of the thing you love. – At First Sight
The Power of Love
- All you need is love, love, love is all you need. – The Beatles
- Faith makes all things possible. Love makes them easy. – Unknown
- I will find you. No matter how long it will take, no matter how far. – The Last Of The Mohicans
- Let your heart guide you. It whispers so listen carefully. – The Land Before Time
- Love has given me wings, so I must fly. – A Knight’s Tale
- Love is like a knife, it can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that will last a lifetime. – Unknown
- Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place, suddenly it moves with such a perfect grace, suddenly my life doesn’t seem such a waste, it all revolves around you. – Moulin Rouge
- Take love, multiply it by infinity and take it to the depths of forever.. and you still have only a glimpse of how I feel for you. – Meet Joe Black
- The best love is the kind that weakens the soul, that makes us reach for more, that plants fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I hope to give to you forever. – The Notebook
- When a man loves a woman, he can’t keep his mind on nothing else. – Percy Sledge
- When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace. – Jimi Hendrix
- Don’t say we aren’t right for each other, the way i see it is … we aren’t right for anyone else. – The Cutting Edge
- Have you never met a woman who inspires you to love? Until your every sense is filled with her? You inhale her. You taste her. You see your unborn children in her eyes and know that your heart has at last found a home. Your life begins with her, and without her it must surely end. – Don Juan DeMarco
- I am someone else when I’m with you, someone more like myself. – Original Sin
- I wonder how many people never get the one they want, but end up with the one they’re supposed to have. – Fried Green Tomatoes
- Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man. – Unknown
- This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime. – Bridges of Madison County
- True love cannot be found where it does not truly exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does. – Kissing A Fool
- True love is like a fine wine, the older the better. – Fred Jacob
- True love is when your heart and your minds are saying the same thing.- Leanna L. Bartram
- Trying to make someone fall in love with you is about as pointless as trying to control who you fall in love with. – Unknown
- You’re not perfect sport, and let me save you the suspense, this girl you met, she isn’t perfect either. But the question is whether or not you’re perfect for each other. – Good Will Hunting
- We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. – Unknown
- A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. –Mignon McLaughlin
- An immature love says I love you because I need you, but a mature love says I need you because I love you. – Unknown
- I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love. – Mother Teresa
- I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I’ve ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours. – The Notebook
- In these dreams I’ve loved you so, that by now I think I know what it’s like to be loved by you. I will love being loved by you. – The King and I
- I’ve been saying it so long to you, you just wouldn’t listen. Every time you said ‘Farm Boy do this’ you thought I was answering ‘As you wish’ but that’s only because you were hearing wrong. ‘I love you’ was what it was, but you never heard. – The Princess Bride
- Love comforteth like sunshine after rain. – William Shakespeare
- Summer romances begin for all kinds of reasons, but when all is said and done, they have one thing in common. They’re shooting stars, a spectacular moment of light in the heavens, fleeting glimpse of eternity, and in a flash they’re gone. – The Notebook
- The heart has its reasons that reason does not know.- Pascal
- The mark of a true crush, Is that you fall in love first, and grope for reasons afterward. -Shana Alexander
- What will NY152 say today, I wonder. I turn on my computer, I wait impatiently as it boots up. I go online, and my breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words: You’ve got mail. I hear nothing, not even a sound on the streets of New York, just the beat of my own heart. I have mail. From you. – You’ve Got Mail
- When they ask me what I liked best, I’ll tell them it was you. – City Of Angels
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She s
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ♥
Why You Are Not A Leader
Here is a thought. Out of every twenty people nineteen will follow and one will be a leader of sort and to be numero uno the odds are 1000 to 1. We might all want to be but for every General there are minimum of 25,000 troops and 300 officers in a division. So how does one get to the summit? While there is doubt that you have to be good at what you do and then better than good don’t fall for the line that luck has a lot to do with it. Sure, you get some breaks but, by and large, if you don’t deliver you are going to be prematurely knocked off that pedestal. The truth is that getting to the top is a lot easier than staying there.
So, what is the road map, the route to the top and why do only so few make it? So often we watch others climbing past us and we find it so easy to blame other circumstances without ever recognizing the possibility that we might be the biggest brake on ourselves.
The energy exhausted in moaning and groaning and could be better channeled into positive growth but we do not do it. Instead we like to con ourselves that the other party got ahead by underhand means, by using nepotism and influence, is corrupt or simply lucky. While these elements may be short cuts in themselves and do kick a person up the ladder the rungs they stand on are the weak ones and can break any time. The ones who stand on strong rungs are the ones who work a plan.
The word ‘vision’ is often misused and put out of context. But vision is integral to doing well because if you cannot think of the next ‘x’ number of steps and also consider other options in case the first plan fails then you will be leading yourself into the proverbial rut. Who is to blame? You, ‘for getting through the day, getting through the week, getting through rather than building a career’.
The other area where we lose out in the long run is by doing a job we don’t like because we just needed the job so we took it and now it has been five years and there are no choices, we are stuck with it. If you did not fit into the job from Day One how can you get into the front line, there is too much resentment in you to give your best, so you will settle for survival. If you are still young enough or gutsy enough get off this but and take the one going the way you want to go. It is one life; don’t travel in the wrong direction.
The third aspect that impacts on one’s career negatively is negativity. Many of us spend our lives living in the shadows, afraid to take a chance and making a pact with ourselves that we will stay mediocre. Consequently, that is all we do, keeping our noses above the water but never going into the deep end. So, we never inspire, lead, give others a benchmark or show the way, we are happy being anonymous. The cruel fact is that anonymous people do not become leaders.
Four and this is vital. You must bat for your team, take responsibility, create an atmosphere where they can trust you and believe you and know that you care for their welfare. You also must be fair, and as they say in the army shoot straighter than your staff. If they are actually better than you, why would they want you to lead them?
Finally, one line common sense. Maybe you don’t want to be a leader, maybe you are happier being one of the 999…………………. Some folks are. ‘Nothing to be ashamed of, just don’t complain, that is all.
Bill is full of lessons and insights. Here are 25 plays we can take from the pages of his playbook:
- Change the world, or go home. There is a little sign on many doors at Microsoft. It features the blue monster and it reads: “Change the world, or go home.” Not only does that phrase capture the spirit of thousands of Softies … it speaks to the way Bill Gates drives his life. He lives to build a better world, whether it’s one version, one platform, one system, one idea, one cause, one innovation at a time. The beauty is, he knows how to scale and amplify his impact in powerful ways – he’s on top of his game.
- Blaze the trail. The path isn’t always there. Sometimes you have to make it. Sometimes people will think you’re crazy. Sometimes you are just ahead of the curve. it’s a dream for a reason, and sometimes making your dreams happen takes going out on a limb and giving your all for what you believe in. Bill Gates believed that the personal computer was the future and that there should be one on every desktop and in the living room and it would change the way we work and how we live in unimaginable ways.
- Make an impact. Drive from impact. Bill Gates makes choices based on impact. Whether it’s following his passion or investing in a cause, he drives from making impact. He doesn’t just do things because he can. He does things because they matter and he can make them scale.
- Humanities greatest advances are the ones that level the playing field. Bill Gates has a strong belief that “All lives have equal value.” Help those that can’t help themselves. Everybody deserves a chance at their best life. Lift the underdogs of the world up. In his speech at Harvard, Bill says, “Taking a look back, one big reqret is, I left Harvard with no real awareness of the awful inequities in the world. The appalling disparities of health and wealth and opportunity that condemned millions of people to the lives of despair. I learned a lot here at Harvard about new ideas and economics, and politics. I got great exposure to the advances being made in the sciences. But humanities greatest advances are not in its discoveries, but in how those discoveries are applied to reduce inequity.”
- A sense of urgency. The world changes fast. The market changes faster. Bill says, “In this business, by the time you realise you’re in trouble, it’s too late to save yourself. Unless you’re running scared all the time, you’re gone.”
- The market doesn’t always drive the right things. In one of his powerful TED talks, Bill says, “There are some very important problems that don’t get worked on naturally. That is the market does not drive the scientists, the communicators, the thinkers, the government to do the right things. And only by paying attention to these things, and having brilliant people who care and draw other people in, can we make as much progress as we need to.”
- Live your values. When you let the world know what you’re about, you become a lightening rod and you attract people with the same values. At Microsoft, Bill Gates attracted people with a passion for changing the world and joining him on a journey to help create better lives through technology and innovation. On the philanthropy side, Gates connects with U2’s Bono beyond the music when it comes to sharing their global mission to end poverty, disease, and indifference. In 2005, TIME named Bono, Bill and Melinda Gates, “Persons of the Year” for their humanitarian work. On Bill Gate’s 54′th birthday, Bono had this to say before leading the crowd in Happy Birthday: “Without him, and without his business, we just wouldn’t be where we are today. It’s his birthday today. Bill Gates is in the house.”
- Your best gets better with the right people. Don’t go it alone. You’re better when you’ve got the right people around you. Bill Gates built a culture of the best and brightest and was good at convincing his friends, such as Paul Allen and Steve Ballmer to join him on his adventures. By surrounding himself with smart people, Bill was able to scale. He also had a sounding board for ideas. More importantly, ideas could get better from the combined smarts and perspectives. Bill also knows how to complement his strengths by having the right people around that make up for his weaknesses.
- Innovation is the heart and soul of a business. It’s about bringing ideas to market and applying research. If you don’t innovate you die. The world keeps changing. To stay ahead of the game, or even to stay in the game, you have to keep innovating: innovate in your products, innovate in your process, innovate in the markets, etc. Bill Gates uses innovation as a way to drive impact whether it’s shaping software or saving the planet.
- Be the platform. Be the platform people can build on. See the role that you play in building something that let’s other people build on what you do best.
- Build a better system. Don’t just solve a one-off problem. Make the solution systematic and make it repeatable. Find, create, or leverage systems. There is always a system, whether it’s at the micro-level or the macro level. The system has inputs and outputs, cycles, and levers. Whether you’re creating the system or leveraging the system, you’re more effective when you realize that there is a system.
- Build an ecosystem. There are systems and ecosystems all around us. Bill says, “Personal computing today is a rich ecosystem encompassing massive PC-based data centers, notebook and Tablet PCs, handheld devices, and smart cell phones. It has expanded from the desktop and the data center to wherever people need it — at their desks, in a meeting, on the road or even in the air.” On creating partners for your ecosystem, Bill says, “Our success has really been based on partnerships from the very beginning.”
- Know how to turn the crank. Take action. Execute. The problem isn’t a shortage of ideas, it’s execution. Lots of people have ideas. There is an overload of ideas. The real gap is bringing ideas to market in a way that matters. The secret sauce is ruthless prioritization of the ideas that make the most impact.
- Take Care of Your People. Bill Gates says, “Great organizations demand a high level of commitment by the people involved.” He set a powerful example of taking care of employees, from private offices for developers to creating a workplace of extreme empowerment, engagement, and passion.
- Divide and conquer the problem. There is always a way to chunk up the problem and prioritize more effectively. Whether it’s slicing the problem into versions over time, or simply taking the most meaningful or highest ROI (Return On Investment) pieces of the problem and tackling them first, you can make progress on the worst of problems or the best of opportunities. No problem withstands sustained, focused effort that learns and improves over time.
- Improving your odds doesn’t guarantee success. One of Bill’s stories during his speech at Harvard is how he learned this lesson: “Radcliff was a great place to live. There were more women up there and most of the guys were mad science types. The combination offered me the best odds if you know what I mean.”
- You don’t have to be first to win. Bill says, “Microsoft has had its success by doing low-cost products and constantly improving those products and we’ve really redefined the IT industry to be something that’s about a tool for individuals.”
- The toughest feedback to hear, is the feedback you need the most. You get better by listening to your toughest critics. Your greatest source of growth can come from the people that will tell you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear. Bill says, “Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.” Bill also says, “You’ve got to want to be in this incredible feedback loop where you get the world-class people to tell you what you’re doing wrong.”
- Business and technology go hand in hand. Bill says, “Information technology and business are becoming inextricably interwoven. I don’t think anybody can talk meaningfully about one without the talking about the other.” We’re truly living a knowledge worker world, where information technology is front and center. Bill says, “It’s pretty incredible to look back 30 years to when Microsoft was starting and realize how work has been transformed. We’re finally getting close to what I call the digital workstyle.”
- Frame the problem. Bill says, “I believe that if you show people the problems and you show them the solutions they will be moved to act.” Framing a problem is simply how you look at a problem, just like how you frame a picture. It’s about choosing what to focus on, what’s in and what’s out. When you frame the problem, you bound it. Framing also helps you get a better perspective on the problem, as well as share the problem more effectively with others. Some questions to help frame a problem include: Who’s the customer? What are their needs and priorities? What’s happening in the market? What are competitors doing? What are our options for responding? How do we differentiate? How is technology changing and what possibilities does it offer our customers? What are the priorities for our business?
- Celebrate success, but learn from failure. Don’t repeat the same mistakes and don’t wallow in your wins. Bill says, ““It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.”
- Technology is just a tool. Don’t lose sight of the end in mind or the difference that makes the difference. Bill says, “Technology is just a tool. In terms of getting the kids working together and motivating them, the teacher is the most important.”
- Don’t automate inefficiency. Make sure something actually makes sense to automate, otherwise you compound the problem. Bill says, “The first rule of any technology used in a business is that automation applied to an efficient operation will magnify the efficiency. The second is that automation applied to an inefficient operation will magnify the inefficiency.”
- Empower people. Put the right information into the hands of the people that can make the most of it. Bill says, ““The vision is really about empowering workers, giving them all the information about what’s going on so they can do a lot more than they’ve done in the past.”
- Go digital. Connect people, process, and technology. Create a digital landscape or a virtual world to reduce friction and to create new possibilities. Bill says, ““One of the wonderful things about the information highway is that virtual equity is far easier to achieve than real-world equity…We are all created equal in the virtual world and we can use this equality to help address some of the sociological problems that society has yet to solve in the physical world.”
Top 10 Gandhi Quotes
- “Imitation is the sincerest flattery.”
- “In a gentle way, you can shake the world.”
- “I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.”
- “In matters of conscience, the law of the majority has no place.”
- “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
- “My life is my message.”
- “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
- “Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory.”
- “There is more to life than increasing its speed.”
- “Truth stands, even if there be no public support. It is self-sustained.”
- “A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.”
- “Action expresses priorities.”
- “Action is no less necessary than thought to the instinctive tendencies of the human frame.”
- “Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”
- “An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”
- “Glory lies in the attempt to reach one’s goal and not in reaching it.”
- “Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory.”
- “The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.”
- “The moment there is suspicion about a person’s motives, everything he does becomes tainted.”
- “To give pleasure to a single heart by a single act is better than a thousand heads bowing in prayer.”
- “Unwearied ceaseless effort is the price that must be paid for turning faith into a rich infallible experience.”
- “Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.”
- “Anger is the enemy of non-violence and pride is a monster that swallows it up.”
- “Man should forget his anger before he lies down to sleep.”
Compassion, Love, and Heart
- “A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave.”
- “Culture of the mind must be subservient to the heart.”
- “In prayer it is better to have a heart without words than words without a heart.”
- “Justice that love gives is a surrender, justice that law gives is a punishment.”
- “Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.”
- “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
- “There is a sufficiency in the world for man’s need but not for man’s greed.”
- “We may have our private opinions but why should they be a bar to the meeting of hearts?”
- “Where there is love there is life.“
Conviction and Will
- “A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.”
- “Everyone who wills can hear the inner voice. It is within everyone.”
- “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”
- “I am prepared to die, but there is no cause for which I am prepared to kill.”
- “It is any day better to stand erect with a broken and bandaged head then to crawl on one’s belly, in order to be able to save one’s head.”
- “Nearly everything you do is of no importance, but it is important that you do it.”
- “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”
- “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”
- “The human voice can never reach the distance that is covered by the still small voice of conscience.”
- “The only tyrant I accept in this world is the still voice within.”
- “To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”
Flaws, Faults, and Errors
- “An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it. “
- “Confession of errors is like a broom which sweeps away the dirt and leaves the surface brighter and clearer. I feel stronger for confession.”
- “I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”
- “I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.”
- “Fear has its use but cowardice has none.”
- “Fear of death makes us devoid both of valour and religion. For want of valour is want of religious faith.”
- “Freedom is never dear at any price. It is the breath of life. What would a man not pay for living?”
- “Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err.”
- “You can chain me, you can torture me, you can even destroy this body, but you will never imprison my mind.”
Humanity and Goodness
- “There is no principle worth the name if it is not wholly good.”
- “To deprive a man of his natural liberty and to deny to him the ordinary amenities of life is worse then starving the body; it is starvation of the soul, the dweller in the body.”
- “We win justice quickest by rendering justice to the other party.”
- “You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.”
- “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
- “I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”
- “If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.
Imitation is the sincerest flattery. “
- “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.”
- “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
- “Man falls from the pursuit of the ideal of plan living and high thinking the moment he wants to multiply his daily wants. Man’s happiness really lies in contentment.”
- “Nearly everything you do is of no importance, but it is important that you do it.”
- “Providence has its appointed hour for everything. We cannot command results, we can only strive.”
- “Purity of personal life is the one indispensable condition for building up a sound education.”
- “Rights that do not flow from duty well performed are not worth having.”
- “The main purpose of life is to live rightly, think rightly, act rightly. The soul must languish when we give all our thought to the body.”
- “Those who know how to think need no teachers.”
- “We do not need to proselytize either by our speech or by our writing. We can only do so really with our lives. Let our lives be open books for all to study.”
Peace, Gentleness, and Non-Violence
- “An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.“
- “Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.”
- “Gentleness, self-sacrifice and generosity are the exclusive possession of no one race or religion.”
- “It is better to be violent, if there is violence in our hearts, than to put on the cloak of nonviolence to cover impotence.”
- “Non-violence and truth are inseparable and presuppose one another.”
- “Non-violence is not a garment to be put on and off at will. Its seat is in the heart, and it must be an inseparable part of our being.”
- “Non-violence is the first article of my faith. It is also the last article of my creed.”
- “Non-violence is the greatest force at the disposal of mankind. It is mightier than the mightiest weapon of destruction devised by the ingenuity of man.”
- “Non-violence requires a double faith, faith in God and also faith in man.”
- “Non-violence, which is the quality of the heart, cannot come by an appeal to the brain.”
- “Peace is its own reward.”
- “We may never be strong enough to be entirely nonviolent in thought, word and deed. But we must keep nonviolence as our goal and make strong progress towards it.“
Religion and Faith
- “All the religions of the world, while they may differ in other respects, unitedly proclaim that nothing lives in this world but Truth.“
- “Each one prays to God according to his own light.”
- “Every formula of every religion has in this age of reason, to submit to the acid test of reason and universal assent.”
- “Faith is not something to grasp, it is a state to grow into.”
- “Faith… must be enforced by reason… when faith becomes blind it dies.”
- “I believe in the fundamental truth of all great religions of the world.”
- “I reject any religious doctrine that does not appeal to reason and is in conflict with morality.”
- “In prayer it is better to have a heart without words than words without a heart.”
- “It is easy enough to be friendly to one’s friends. But to befriend the one who regards himself as your enemy is the quintessence of true religion. The other is mere business.”
- “One’s own religion is after all a matter between oneself and one’s Maker and no one else’s.”
- “Spiritual relationship is far more precious than physical. Physical relationship divorced from spiritual is body without soul.”
- “The essence of all religions is one. Only their approaches are different.”
- “Man becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the welfare of his fellow-men.”
- “Service which is rendered without joy helps neither the servant nor the served. But all other pleasures and possessions pale into nothingness before service which is rendered in a spirit of joy.”
- “That service is the noblest which is rendered for its own sake.”
- “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
- “Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is the truth.”
- “I have nothing new to teach the world. Truth and Non-violence are as old as the hills. All I have done is to try experiments in both on as vast a scale as I could.”
- “In matters of conscience, the law of the majority has no place.”
- “The pursuit of truth does not permit violence on one’s opponent.”
- “Truth is by nature self-evident. As soon as you remove the cobwebs of ignorance that surround it, it shines clear.”
- “Truth never damages a cause that is just.”
- “What is true of the individual will be tomorrow true of the whole nation if individuals will but refuse to lose heart and hope.”
Finally- “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” — Mahatma Gandhi
Here’s to the crazy ones.
The round pegs in the square holes.
The ones who see things differently.
They’re not fond of rules.
And they have no respect for the status quo.
You can praise them, disagree with them, quote them,
disbelieve them, glorify or vilify them.
About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them.
Because they change things.
They invent. They imagine. They heal.
They explore. They create. They inspire.
They push the human race forward.
Maybe they have to be crazy.
How else can you stare at an empty canvas and see a work of art?
Or sit in silence and hear a song that’s never been written?
Or gaze at a red planet and see a laboratory on wheels?
While some see them as the crazy ones,
we see genius.
Because the people who are crazy enough to think
they can change the world, are the ones who do.
Does the grouch get richer quicker than the
friendly sort of man?
Can the grumbler labour better than the cheerful
Is the mean and churlish neighbour any cleverer
than the one
Who shouts a glad “good morning,” and then
smiling passes on?
Just stop and think about it. Have you ever
known or seen
A mean man who succeeded, just because he
was so mean?
When you find a grouch with honours and with
money in his pouch,
You can bet he didn’t win them just because
he was a grouch.
Oh, you’ll not be any poorer if you smile along
And your lot will not be harder for the kindly
things you say.
Don’t imagine you are wasting time for others
that you spend:
You can rise to wealth and glory and still pause
to be a friend.
Live in the active voice, rather than passive.
Think more about what will happen than what is happening to you.
Live in the indicative mood, rather than in the subjective.
Be concerned with things as they are, rather than as they might be
Live in the present tense, facing the duty at hand
without regret for the past or worry over the future.
Live in the singular number, caring more for the approval of your own conscience
than for the applause of the crowd.
If you can keep your head when all about you
are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
but make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
and yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream-and not make dreams your master,
if you can think-and not make thoughts your aim;
if you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
and treat those two impostors just the same;
if you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
and stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
and risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
and lose, and start again at your beginnings
and never breathe a word about your loss;
if you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
to serve your turn long after they are gone,
and so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
or walk with kings-nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
if all men count with you, but none too much,
if you can fill the unforgiving minute
with sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And-which is more-you’ll be a Man, my son!
It isn’t the money you’re making,
it isn’t the clothes you wear,
And it isn’t the skill of your good right hand which makes folks really care.
It’s the smile on your face and
the light of your eye and the burdens that you bear.
Most any old man can tell you, most any old man at all,
Who has lived through all sorts of weather, winter and summer and fall,
That riches and fame are shadows that dance on the garden wall.
It’s how do you live and neighbour, how do you work and play,
It’s how do you say “good morning” to the people along the way,
And it’s how do you face your troubles whenever your skies are Gray.
It’s you, from the dawn to nighttime; you when the day is fair,
You when the storm is raging – how do you face despair?
It is you that the world discovers, whatever the clothes you wear.
You to the end of the journey,
kindly and brave and true,
The best and the worst of you gleaming in all that you say and do,
And the ting that counts isn’t money,
or glory, or power, but YOU!
Glad that I live am I;
That the sky is blue;
Glad for the country lanes,
And the fall of dew.
After the sun the rain;
After the rain the sun;
This is the way of life,
Till the work be done.
All that we need to do,
Be we low or high,
Is to see that we grow
Nearer the sky