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My Best Motivational Quotes!

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”

“What lies behind us and what lies in front of us pales in comparison to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Whether you need to defeat procrastination or inspire your inner fire, motivational quotes can help you get your inner mojo going again.

Motivational quotes move us.  

As a son who has just recently buried my father, I’ve had to master motivation.  Mastering motivation is a journey.  I’ve learned that motivational quotes are your best friends for the journey.   This is my collection of the best motivational quotes ever.

Use these quotes to inspire your lifefire you up right now, and inspire you every day.  And use these quotes to build a better mindset, skillset, and toolset so you can motivate yourself and others with skill.

Motivation is a skill you can practice.

To change your motivation, change your language, and to change your language learn the best motivational quotes of all time.  I’ve included motivational quotes by some of the world’s best motivational masters including Brian Tracy, Bruce Lee, Tony Robbins, Zig Zigglar and more.

Top 10 Motivational Quotes

Let’s start this list off right, with the 10 best motivational quotes:

  1. “Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.” – William B. Sprague
  2. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
  3. “I get knocked down. But I get up again. You’re never going to keep me down.” – Chumbawamba
  4. “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill
  5. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  8. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” — Henry David Thoreau

Short Motivational Quotes

  1. “Begin anywhere.” — John Cage
  2. “Dreams don’t work unless you do.” — John Maxwell
  3. “Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded there.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer
  4. “H.O.P.E. = Hold On. Pain Ends.” — Anonymous
  5. “Make each day your masterpiece.” — John Wooden
  6. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine? And shadows will fall behind you.” — Walt Whitman
  7. “Turn your wounds into wisdom.” – Oprah Winfrey
  8. “Wherever you go, go with all your heart.” — Confucius
  9. “We can do anything we want to if we stick to it long enough.” — Helen Keller
  10. “What defines us is how well we rise after falling.” — Lionel Bloch, Maid in Manhattan

Deep Motivational Quotes

  1. “As long as you live, keep learning how to live.” — Seneca
  2. “At any given moment you have the power to say: this is not how the story is going to end.” — Unknown
  3. “Be a voice, not an echo.” — Albert Einstein
  4. “Death comes to all, but great achievements build a monument which shall endure until the sun grows cold.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  5. “Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” — Robert Louis Stevenson
  6. “Don’t wish it were easier. Wish you were better.” — Jim Rohn
  7. “I want to be all used up when I die.” — George Bernard Shaw
  8. “I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy- I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it.” — Art Williams
  9. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.” – Walt Whitman
  10. “Let him who would move the world, first move himself.” – Socrates
  11. “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” — Maya Angelou
  12. “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” — Stephen R. Covey
  13. “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.” — Earl Nightingale
  14. “Remember that failure is an event, not a person.” — Zig Ziglar
  15. “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
  16. “Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” — Saint Francis
  17. “The big lesson in life is never be scared of anyone or anything.” — Frank Sinatra
  18. “The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.” — Dorothy Parker
  19. “What we believe will always be more powerful than what’s real.” – Sean Aeon
  20. “When someone says you can’t do it, do it twice and take pictures.” — Unknown
  21. “When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” — Paulo Coelho
  22. “Wherever you go, go with all your heart.” — Confucius
  23. “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.” — Albert Einstein
  24. “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” — Jim Rohn

Best Motivational Quotes for Getting Started

  1. “Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” — John R. Wooden
  2. “Just do it.” — Nike
  3. “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” — Arthur Ashe
  4. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” — Mark Twain
  5. “The wise does at once what the fool does at last.” — Baltasar Gracian
  6. “What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.” — Ralph Marston
  7. “You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.” — Henry Ford

Monday Motivational Quotes

  1. “All Motivation Mondays need are a little more coffee and a lot more mascara.” — Unknown
  2. “Goodbye, blue Monday.” — Kurt Vonnegut
  3. “I’m alive, motivated and ready to slay the day #MONSLAY.” — Unknown
  4. “It was a Monday and they walked on a tightrope to the sun.” — Marcus Zusak
  5. “It’s Monday … time to motivate and make dreams and goals happen. Let’s go!” — Heather Stillufsen
  6. “Monday c’est Mon Day.” — Unknown
  7. “One day or day one. You decide.” — Unknown
  8. “So. Monday. We meet again. We will never be friends—but maybe we can move past our mutual enmity toward a more positive partnership.” — Julio-Alexi Genao
  9. “When life gives you Monday, dip it in glitter and sparkle all day.” — Ella Woodword

Friday Motivational Quotes

  1. “Don’t worry about letting the dogs out. It’s Friday! Let them have a great weekend, too.” — Anthony Hincks
  2. “Every Friday, I like to high five myself for getting through another week on little more than caffeine, willpower, and inappropriate humor.” — Nanea Hoffman
  3. “Fridays are the hardest in some ways: you’re so close to freedom.” — Lauren Oliver
  4. “Friday sees more smiles than any other day of the workweek!” — Kate Summers
  5. “I challenge you to let every day be a Friday. Permit yourself to be happy every day.” — Joel Osteen
  6. “It’s Friday morning, mankind! Good vibe, don’t frown and let the monster see you smile!” — Napz Cherub Pellazo
  7. “Make Friday a day to celebrate work well done that you can be proud of knowing that you just didn’t put in time to the next paycheck.” — Byron Pulsifer
  8. “Oh! It’s Friday again. Share the love that was missing during the week. In a worthy moment of peace and bliss.” — S. O’Sade
  9. “This Friday, finish your work and be done. Look forward to the weekend and have some fun!” — Kate Summers
  10. “When you leave work on Friday, leave work. Don’t let technology follow you throughout your weekend (answering text messages and emails). Take a break. You will be more refreshed to begin the workweek if you have had a break.” — Catherine Pulsifer

Best Motivational Quotes for Entrepreneurship

  1. “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” — Walt Disney
  2. “Chase the vision, not the money, the money will end up following you.” — Tony Hsieh
  3. “Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” — Mary Kay Ash
  4. “Embrace what you don’t know, especially in the beginning, because what you don’t know can become your greatest asset. It ensures that you will absolutely be doing things different from everybody else.” — Sara Blakely
  5. “Everyone has an idea, but it’s really about executing the idea and attracting other people to help you with the idea.” — Jack Dorsey
  6. “I wake up every morning and think to myself, ‘How far can I push this company in the next 24 hours.’” — Leah Busque
  7. “If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can’t hear them anymore.” — Michele Ruiz
  8. “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” — Tony Robbins
  9. “If you think that you are going to love something, give it a try. You’re going to kick yourself in the butt for the rest of your life if you don’t.” — Joe Penna
  10. “In the middle of difficulty, lies opportunities.” — Albert Einstein
  11. “It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.” — Babe Ruth
  12. “It’s not about ideas. It’s about making ideas happen.” — Scott Belsky
  13. “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan
  14. “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.” — Napoleon Hill
  15. “Only the paranoid survive.” — Andy Grove
  16. “Openly share and talk to people about your idea. Use their lack of interest or doubt to fuel your motivation to make it happen.” — Todd Garland
  17. “Risk more than others think is safe. Dream more than others think is practical.” — Howard Schultz
  18. “The art of leadership is saying no, not yes. It is very easy to say yes.” — Tony Blair
  19. “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.” — Chinese Proverb
  20. “The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” — Mark Zuckerberg
  21. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”  — Mark Twain
  22. “The way to get started is to quit talking and start doing.” — Walt Disney
  23. “There’s lots of bad reasons to start a company. But there’s only one good, legitimate reason, and I think you know what it is: it’s to change the world.” — Phil Libin
  24. “Waiting for perfect is never as smart as making progress.” — Seth Godin
  25. “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes?understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” — Arianna Huffington
  26. “When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” — Henry Ford
  27. “When I’m old and dying, I plan to look back on my life and say ‘wow, that was an adventure,’ not ‘wow, I sure felt safe.” — Tom Preston-Werner
  28. “Write it. Shoot it. Publish it. Crochet it. Sauté it. Whatever. MAKE.” — Joss Whedon
  29. “Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.” – Bill Gates
  30. “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” — Steve Jobs

Best Motivational Quotes for Students

  1. “Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t.” — Bill Nye
  2. “Learning is like rowing upstream: not to advance is to drop back.” — Chinese proverb
  3. “Learning is never done without errors and defeat.” — Vladimir Lenin
  4. “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi
  5. “Life itself is your teacher, and you are in a state of constant learning.” — Bruce Lee
  6. “Success is a poor teacher.” — Robert Kiyosaki
  7. “Study without desire spoils the memory, and it retains nothing that it takes in.” — Leonardo da Vinci
  8. “That is never too often repeated, which is never sufficiently learned.” — Seneca
  9. “The highest activity a human being can attain is learning for understanding, because to understand is to be free.” — Baruch Spinoza
  10. “The learned man knows that he is ignorant.” –– Victor Hugo
  11. “They cannot stop me. I will get my education, if it is in the home, school, or anyplace.” — Malala Yousafzai
  12. “To accuse others for one’s own misfortunes is a sign of want of education. To accuse oneself shows that one’s education has begun. To accuse neither oneself nor others shows that one’s education is complete.” – Epictetus
  13. “We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.” – Lloyd Alexander
  14. “Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it.” — Albert Einstein
  15. “Who questions much, shall learn much, and retain much.” – Francis Bacon
  16. “You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backward into safety.” – Abraham Maslow

Best Motivational Quotes for Work

  1. “A hero is born among a hundred, a wise man is found among a thousand, but an accomplished one might not be found even among a hundred thousand men.” — Plato
  2. “Achievement results from work realizing ambition.” — Adam Ant
  3. “Amateurs sit around and wait for inspiration. The rest of us just get up and go to work.” — Stephen King
  4. “Big thinking precedes great achievement.” — Wilferd A. Peterson
  5. “Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work in hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” — Alexander Graham Bell
  6. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’” — Mary Anne Radmacher
  7. “Either you run the day or the day runs you.” — Jim Rohn
  8. “Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded there.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer
  9. “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.” — Tim Notke
  10. “High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.” — Charles Kettering
  11. “I didn’t get there by wishing for it, but by working for it.” — Estee Lauder
  12. “I want to be all used up when I die.” — George Bernard Shaw
  13. “If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.” — Napoleon Hill
  14. “If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.” — Olin Miller
  15. “If you’ll not settle for anything less than your best, you will be amazed at what you can accomplish in your lives.” — Vince Lombardi
  16. “Never stop doing your best just because someone doesn’t give you credit.” — Kamari aka Lyrikal
  17. “Nothing will work unless you do.” — Maya Angelou
  18. “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” — Thomas Edison
  19. “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” — Dale Carnegie
  20. “Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.” — Dwayne Johnson
  21. “The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” — Oscar Wilde
  22. “The miracle is not that we do this work, but that we are happy to do it.” — Mother Teresa
  23. “The only difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.” — Jimmy Johnson
  24. “The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret.” — Nido Qubein
  25. “This is the real secret of life — to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.” — Alan Wilson Watts
  26. “Well done is better than well said.” — Benjamin Franklin
  27. “Winners compare their achievements with their goals, while losers compare their achievements with those of other people.” — Nido Qubein
  28. Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive.” — Leah LaBelle
  29. “You can control two things: your work ethic and your attitude about anything.” — Ali Krieger
  30. “You don’t get paid for the hour. You get paid for the value you bring to the hour.” — Jim Rohn
  31. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”  — Steve Jobs

Best Motivational Quotes on Taking Action

  1. “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” — William James
  2. “Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.” — Albert Schweitzer
  3. “Either you run the day or the day runs you.” — Jim Rohn
  4. “Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.” — Benjamin Disraeli
  5. “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” — Anne Frank
  6. “If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. That is where they should be. Now put the foundation under them.” — Henry David Thoreau
  7. “Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  8. “Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.” — Peter Marshall
  9. “Step by step and the thing is done.” — Charles Atlas
  10. “The more we do the more we can do.” — William Hazlitt
  11. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  12. “To talk goodness is not good… only to do it is.” — Chinese proverb
  13. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” — Will Durant
  14. “Well done is better than well said.” — Benjamin Franklin
  15. “Words are plentiful; deeds are precious.” – – Lech Walesa
  16. “Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.” — Voltaire

Best Motivational Quotes on Attitude

  1. “A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing.” — Oscar Wilde
  2. “A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.” – – Earl Nightingale
  3. “Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” ? Roy Bennett, The Light in the Heart
  4. “Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” — Lou Holtz
  5. “Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.” – – Charles Swindoll
  6. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” — Wayne Dyer
  7. “Character is the result of two things: mental attitude and the way we spend our time.” — Elbert Green Hubbard
  8. “Don’t take yourself too seriously. And don’t be too serious about not taking yourself too seriously.” — Howard Ogden
  9. “Eagles come in all shapes and sizes, but you will recognize them chiefly by their attitudes.” — Charles Prestwich Scott
  10. “Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
  11. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” — Victor E. Frankl
  12. “Funny is an attitude.” — Flip Wilson
  13. “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” — Maya Angelou
  14. “It is not the position, but the disposition.”  J. E. Dinger
  15. “Mental attitude is more important than mental capacity.” — Walter Dill Scott
  16. “Minds are like parachutes – they only function when open.” — Thomas Dewar
  17. “Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.” — Earl Nightingale
  18. “The real voyage of discovery consists not in making new landscapes but in having new eyes.” — Marcel Proust
  19. “You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” — Plato

Best Motivational Quotes on Boldness

  1. “Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.” — W. Clement Stone
  2. “Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.” — William James
  3. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” — Theodore Roosevelt
  4. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” — Mary Anne Radmacher
  5. “Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  6. “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” — George Adair
  7. “Fortune favors the brave.” — Publius Terence
  8. “Fortune sides with him who dares.” — Virgil
  9. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.” — Wayne Dyer
  10. “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” — Albert Einstein
  11. “He who hesitates is lost.”  Proverb
  12. “If you can dream it, you can do it.” — Walt Disney
  13. “Leap, and the net will appear.”  — John Burroughs
  14. “Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.” — Chris Grosser
  15. “Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.” — George S. Patton
  16. “We are still masters of our fate.  We are still captains of our souls.” — Winston Churchill
  17. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” Henry David Thoreau
  18. “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” — Wayne Gretzky

Best Motivational Quotes on Challenges and Changes

  1. “Change is not merely necessary to life – it is life.” — Alvin Toffler
  2. “Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.” — Alfred A. Montapert
  3. “Kites rise highest against the wind; not with it.” — Winston Churchill
  4. “Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.” — Samuel Johnson
  5. “Only I can change my life. No one else can do it for me.” — Carol Burnett
  6. “The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.” — Winston Churchill
  7. “Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” — George Bernard Shaw

Best Motivational Quotes on Determination and Persistence

  1. “Always look at what you have left.  Never look at what you have lost.” — Robert H. Schuller
  2. “Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” — Thomas Jefferson
  3. “Don’t watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going.” — Sam Levenson
  4. “Either I will find a way, or I will make one.” — Philip Sidney
  5. “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” — Samuel Beckett
  6. “Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” — Og Mandino
  7. “I’ve failed over and over and over again. And that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan
  8. “If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.” — H. G. Wells
  9. “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” — Confucius
  10. “Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” — Jim Ryun
  11. “Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” — Harriet Beecher Stowe
  12. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  13. “Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.” — Confucius
  14. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” — Thomas A. Edison
  15. “Pursue one great decisive aim with force and determination.” — Carl von Clausewitz
  16. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” — Robert Collier
  17. “The best way out is always through.” — Robert Frost
  18. “You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.” — Babe Ruth
  19. “Your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.” — Abraham Lincoln

Best Motivational Quotes on Fear

  1. “Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.” — Helen Keller
  2. “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”  — Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
  3. “Don’t let the fear of striking out hold you back.” —Babe Ruth
  4. “Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” — Judy Blume
  5. “Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” — Yoda
  6. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” —Dale Carnegie
  7. “Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
  8. “Have no fear of perfection–you’ll never reach it.” — Salvador Dali
  9. “He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  10. “I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning how to sail my ship.” — Louisa May Alcott
  11. “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” — Marie Curie
  12. “One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.”
    Henry Ford
  13. “The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” — Nelson Mandela
  14. “The key to change… is to let go of fear.” — Roseanne Cash
  15. “We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets.” — Marilyn Monroe
  16. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Best Motivational Quotes on Greatness

  1. “Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.” — Og Mandino
  2. “Don’t put a limit on what can be accomplished.” — Christopher Reeve
  3. “I’d rather attempt to do something great and fail, than to attempt nothing and succeed.” — Robert H. Schuller
  4. “It’s great to be great, but its greater to be human.” — Will Rogers
  5. “Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.” — Theodore Roosevelt
  6. “The first key to greatness is to be in reality what we appear to be.” — Socrates
  7. “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” — William James
  8. “The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.” — Arthur C. Clarke
  9. “The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”— Confucius
  10. “To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.” — Muhammad Ali
  11. “Try not to be a person of success, but rather a person of virtue.”  Albert Einstein
  12. “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”— Albert Einstein

Best Motivational Quotes on Optimism

  1. “A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.” — Herm Albright
  2. “Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.” — Hans Selye
  3. “An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere. The pessimist sees only the red light. But the truly wise person is color blind.” — Dr. Albert Schweitzer
  4. “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.” — Helen Adams Keller
  5. “Optimism means expecting the best, but confidence means knowing how to handle the worst. Never make a move if you are merely optimistic.” — The Zurich Axioms
  6. “The best way to cheer yourself up: Cheer everybody else up.” — Mark Twain
  7. “The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.” — Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
  8. “Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” — John Wooden
  9. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anonymous Motivational Quotes

  1. “Sometimes we are limited more by attitude than by opportunities.” — Anonymous
  2. “A healthy attitude is contagious but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier.” — Anonymous
  3. “Although fate presents the circumstances, how you react depends on your character.” — Anonymous
  4. “Attitude determines altitude.” — Anonymous
  5. “Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.” — Anonymous
  6. “Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?” — Anonymous
  7. “People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.” — Anonymous

Brian Tracy Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Your attitude is an expression of your values, beliefs and expectations.” — Brain Tracy
  2. “Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other.” — Brain Tracy
  3. “If you did not care at all what anyone else thought about you, what would you do differently or change in your life?” — Brain Tracy
  4. “Make a game of finding something positive in every situation. Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.” — Brain Tracy
  5. “Whatever is expressed is impressed. Whatever you say to yourself, with emotion, generates thoughts, ideas and behaviors consistent with those words.”— Brain Tracy

Bruce Lee Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  2. “As you think, so shall you become.” — Bruce Lee
  3. “Ever since I was a child, I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.” — Bruce Lee
  4. “A goal is not always meant to be reached; it often serves simply as something to aim at.” — Bruce Lee
  5. “All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.” — Bruce Lee
  6. “Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” — Bruce Lee
  7. “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” — Bruce Lee
  8. “If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” — Bruce Lee
  9. “If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” — Bruce Lee
  11. “It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.” — Bruce Lee
  12. “Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.” — Bruce Lee
  13. “Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.” — Bruce Lee
  14. “Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.” — Bruce Lee
  15. “Real living is living for others.” — Bruce Lee
  16. “Take things as they are. Punch when you have to punch. Kick when you have to kick.” — Bruce Lee
  17. “The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.” — Bruce Lee

Jim Rohn Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.” — Jim Rohn
  2. “Humans have the remarkable ability to get exactly what they must have. But there is a difference between a ‘must’ and ‘want.’” — Jim Rohn
  3. “Motivation alone is not enough. If you have an idiot and you motivate him, now you have a motivated idiot.” — Jim Rohn
  4. “My suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don’t and join the 10% who do.” — Jim Rohn
  5. “The best motivating is self-motivating. The guy says, “I wish someone would come by and turn me on. “What if they don’t show up? You’ve got to have a better plan for your life.” — Jim Rohn
  6. “When you know what you want, and you want it badly enough, you’ll find a way to get it.” — Jim Rohn
  7. “Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value.” — Jim Rohn

Ralph Waldo Emerson Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  2. “A chief event of life is the day in which we have encountered a mind that startled us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  3. “We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  4. “A good indignation brings out all one’s powers.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  5. “A great part of courage is the courage of having done the thing before.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  6. “A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  7. “A man is what he thinks about all day long.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  8. “A man’s growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  10. “All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  11. “Always do what you are afraid to do.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  12. “As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  13. “As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  14. “An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  15. “As soon as there is life there is danger.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  16. “Beauty without expression is boring.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  17. “Before we acquire great power, we must acquire wisdom to use it well.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  18. “Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  19. “Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  20. “Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  21. “Each age, it is found, must write its own books; or rather, each generation for the next succeeding.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  22. “Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great ever achieved.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  23. “Ever artist was first an amateur.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  24. “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tony Robbins Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Live with passion.” — Tony Robbins
  2. “Stay committed to your decisions but stay flexible in your approach.” — Tony Robbins
  3. “It not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.” — Tony Robbins
  4. “Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” — Tony Robbins
  5. “Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” — Tony Robbins
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” — Tony Robbins

Zig Ziglar Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Of all the ‘attitudes’ we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.” — Zig Ziglar
  2. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” — Zig Ziglar
  3. “Positive thinking won’t let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.” — Zig Ziglar
  4. “To respond is positive, to react is negative.” — Zig Ziglar
  5. “When you choose to be pleasant and positive in the way you treat others, you have also chosen, in most cases, how you are going to be treated by others.” — Zig Ziglar
  6. “You can disagree without being disagreeable.” — Zig Ziglar
  7. “I’ve got to say ‘no’ to the good to say, ‘yes’ to the best.” — Zig Ziglar
  8. “You cannot tailor make the situations in life, but you can tailor make the attitudes to fit those situations before they arise.” — Zig Ziglar

“Smile Because It Happened”– Best Motivational Quote Ever

I’ve found I can use this quote to reflect on the past– or to inspire myself to give my all for the future.

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”
— Dr. Seuss

Sometimes, the best thing you can do to find your greatest motivation, is to dig deep, practice your attitude of gratitude, and appreciate all you can:

“Dare to Be”–Best Motivational Quote for Greatness

Dare to Be is one of the greatest motivational quotes of all time that reminds you to dare to do what’s hard:

“Dare to Be
When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.
When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.
When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.
When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.
When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.
When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.
Dare to be the best you can –
At all times, Dare to be!”

“Live Without the Fear of Death in Your Heart”–Best Motivational Quote for Living and Loving Life

“So, live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart.

Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours.
Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life.

Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people.
Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide.

Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, even a stranger, when in a lonely place.
Show respect to all people and grovel to none.

When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living.
If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself.

Abuse no one and no thing, for abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision.

When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes, they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way.

Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”
— Chief Tecumseh

“It’s Not the Critic Who Counts”–Best Motivational Quote for Standing Strong When Tested

Here is one of the most inspiring motivational quotes of all time to help you back up when you get knocked down:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

When critics try to knock you down, remember you are the one in the arena.

THE THREE THINGS IN LIFE

Three things in life that once gone, never come back;
-Time
-Words
-Opportunity
Three things in life that can destroy a person;
-Anger
-Pride
Unforgiveness
Three things in life that are never certain;
-Fortune
-Success
-Dreams
Three things that make a person;
-Commitment
-Sincerity
-Hard work
Three things in life that are most valuable
-Love
-Family and Friends
-Kindness
Three things in life that you should never lose;
-Hope
-Peace
-Honesty

YOU’LL GET THROUGH IT!

Have you heard of the story of the old farmer whose mule fell into a well? Since there was no way to get him out the farmer decided to bury him there. But the mule had a different idea. Initially when shovels of dirt began landing on him, he became hysterical. Then this thought struck him; “Just shake it off and step on it,” So he did. Hour after hour as the dirt fell on him, he kept telling himself, “Just shake it off and step on it,” No matter how much dirt they threw on him, he just kept shaking it off and stepping on it – until finally he stepped triumphantly out of the well.
Life will either bless you or bury you; the difference lies in having the right attitude. When they throw dirt on you, and they will, just shake it off and step on it. Use it as fertilizer and grow stronger. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. What’s important is not what others say about you – it’s what you say to yourself after they get through talking! Offenses will come, so expect them. People will take from you without giving back. They’ll criticize you for simply rising above your beginnings. When you decide to seize the moment and move ahead, you’ll leave others behind and some of them won’t be too happy about it. But then again that is why life is unfair. The solution is to ignore the negative people and focus all your energy on positive vibes and how to use that positive energy to attain your dream goals.

Transmuting Adversity Into A Benefit

Every adversity, every unpleasant experience, every failure, carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit. Search for this seed when you meet with any form of defeat. Examine every adversity carefully. You will discover that it has a potential benefit for you far in excess of that which you lost through the experience. Explore this benefit, make the most of it, and you will discover one of the most profound of all the success principles. You will have learned how to convert stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

Dear You!

You’ve been through a thousand things in your life don’t even know about.

You’ve experienced things that have shook you, changed you, broke you, built you and taught you to be stronger than you ever thought you had the ability to be.

And you are who you are for all of it.

So the next time someone judges you based on a small part of what they see and how they interpret that, remember who you are, remember how much you’ve overcome and smile and keep walking because you don’t have a single thing to prove to anyone else.

You’ve already proved so much to yourself who muddled through storms that people didn’t even see because of how you carried yourself.

How To Use Regrets to Improve Your Future Self

“For of all sad words of tongue or pen, The saddest are these: ‘It might have been!”?John Greenleaf Whittier

You can use your regents to improve your Future Self.

Regrets can really hold you back in life, especially if you keep reliving the past.

Chances are that if you look back on your past 10 years, that if you knew then what you know now, there are things you would have done differently.

Maybe you would have saved more money, taken better care of your health, spent more time with loved ones, etc.

While you can’t change the past, you can change your Future Self.

Your Future Self represents the person you want to become.

By using self-compassion and a framework for regrets, you can stop living your life based on who you’ve been.

Your regrets become a backbone for your personal growth and transformation.

Your regrets set the stage for who you become.

We Spend a Lot of Time Thinking About Regrets

A regret is when you are sorrowful or mournful of a past mistake or decision.

How often do you spend time regretting your past mistakes?

It seems very natural and very human to dwell on the past.  Below are results of a case study carried out.

When asked “How often do you look back on your life and wish you had done things differently?”, here are the results:

“Only 1 percent of our respondents said that they never engage in such behavior—and fewer than 17 percent do it rarely.

Meanwhile, about 43 percent report doing it frequently or all the time.

In all, a whopping 82 percent say that this activity is at least occasionally part of their lives, making Americans far more likely to experience regret than they are to floss their teeth.”

That’s a lot of people walking around wishing they’d done things differently.

The good news is that you can break this pattern and use regret in a more skillful way, as you’ll learn in this article.

Your Future Self Represents Opportunity

Before we go into regrets, let’s first really understand why Future Self is such an important concept.

The science says that when we feel connected to our Future Self, we treat ourselves better, make better choices that affect our relationships, our finances, and our mental well-being.

Even more interesting is that the science says that when it comes to our Future Self, we really underestimate the amount of change that we can make in a 10 year span.

While the rate of change might slow down, it doesn’t slow down nearly as much as we think.

We can change our friends, favorite vacations, and musicians. But the real surprise is that we can change our values and even our personalities.

Nothing is set in stone.

Review Your Regrets with a Growth Mindset

One of the reasons that regrets can really sting, is because we feel like stuck.

That’s a Fixed mindset.

A Fixed mindset is where you believe you believe your intelligence and skills are basically set. It’s a self-imposed limit where you believe you are either good or bad at something based on what you were born with.

A Growth mindset is the opposite and it can be your ticket to a brand new life of possibilities and potential.

The fundamental belief of a Growth mindset is:

“You can learn and you get better.”

Here is the essence of a Growth mindset according to Carol Dweck, Ph.D:

“In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point.

This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.”

If you review your regrets with a Growth mindset, you open the door for continuous improvement.

And when you combine this with your Future Self, you become limitless.

Grow from Your Regrets

Sometimes regret acts like an anchor or a chain that holds you back or holds you down and wears you out.

Other times, regret serves to motivate and inspire you to make big changes in your life.

What’s the difference between these two paths?

According to researchers at UC Berkeley, self-compassion is the difference that makes the difference.

In fact, according to Kristin Neff, self-compassion trumps self-esteem. Self-esteem has several traps including narcissism, self-absorption, self-righteous anger, prejudice, disruption, etc.

Self-compassion has all the benefits of high self-esteem without its drawbacks.

Neff defines self-compassion as 3 core components:

  1. Self-kindness – be gentle and understanding of yourself, rather than critical and judgmental.
  2. Common humanity – feeling connected with others in the experience of life, rather than alone and alienated by our suffering.
  3. Mindfulness – hold our experience in balanced awareness versus ignoring our pain or exaggerating it.

You can’t grow if you can’t acknowledge your own weaknesses.

And you don’t’ grow by beating yourself up or tearing yourself down, either.

According to Neff, a better way to grow is to stop judging and evaluating yourself altogether. Stop trying to label yourself as “good” or “bad”, and accept yourself with an “open heart”, like you would a good friend.

By practicing self-compassion and going easier on yourself, you’ll experience less anxiety, less anxiety, and more peace of mind.

4 Types of Regrets

Regrets can be a wide open topic.  I find it helpful to use a framework to think about regrets in a more deliberate way.

You draw from 4 different types of regrets to identify different types of behavior changes.

In the book, The Power of Regret, Dan Pink identifies the following 4 types of regrets:

  1. Foundation Regrets – “If I’d only done the work.”
  2. Boldness Regrets – “If only I’d taken that risk…”
  3. Moral Regrets – “If I’d only done the right thing…”
  4. Connection Regrets – “If only I’d reached out…”

Foundation Regrets are when you let yourself down because you didn’t do the work.  That could be anything from you didn’t practice your instrument, or you didn’t study the way you knew you should.

It might mean you didn’t make the most of the job you had, or that you didn’t put in the effort to learn something new.

Boldness Regrets are where you didn’t step up to the plate when you could.  You shied away from things either through fear or a lack of courage.

You didn’t feel the fear and do it anyway.

Moral Regrets can be anything where you didn’t do the right thing, when you had a choice.  This is your chance to identify your behaviors and change your ways.

Connection Regrets are where you didn’t stay in touch or you didn’t let somebody know what they really meant to you.

This is why when somebody unexpectedly loses a love one, they might tell people they love them, a little more often, and a little more freely.

The Top 5 Regret of the Dying

You can learn about some of life’s deepest regrets from what people say they regret when they are on their death bed.

In the book, Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing, Bronnie Ware shares  the short-list of what people regret the most when they are on their deathbed.

Here are the top 5 regrets of the dying at a glance:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Notice how #4 on the list is effectively a Connection Regret.

You can use this insight to help inform behaviors and habits that you want to adopt today.

Again, your Future Self will thank you for it.

9 Choices Your Future Self Will Regret

While knowing the top 5 regrets of the dying can be helpful, you ultimately need to figure out the regrets that resonate with you.

In the article, 9 Choices Your Future Self Will Definitely Regret, the author identifies a short list of potential regrets:

  1. Letting other people shape your world
  2. Sticking to your bad old habits
  3. Giving up
  4. Hiding your real self (behind a mask)
  5. Constantly waiting for the right time
  6. Tolerating negative energy
  7. Striving to control every little thing
  8. Not taking care of your health
  9. Being lazy

This is the stuff that New Years Resolutions, vision boards, and every day goal setting are born from.

The beauty is that all of these are choices you can control.

The Grant Study

When it comes to big regrets in life, we can learn from the Grant Study.

The Grant Study is a study of 268 men for 75 years to learn about happiness and how to live a good life.

Here’s how George Vaillant, the director of the Grant Study, summarized the findings:

“Happiness is love. Full Stop.”

Vaillant says that while Virgil taught us the power of love long ago, now we have the data:

“The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points, at least to me, to a straightforward five-word conclusion:

‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’

Virgil, of course, needed only three words to say the same thing, and he said them a very long time ago— Omnia vincit amor, love conquers all— but unfortunately he had no data to back them up.”

As you can see from the study, in terms of the 4 types of regrets, Connection Regrets are a big deal.

In fact, here is what Dan Pink had to say about the Grant Study in his book The Power of Regret:

“Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives…

Those ties protect people from life’s discontents, help to delay mental and physical decline, and are better predictors of long and happy lives than social class, IQ, or even genes.”

In many ways you might say, the quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.

The Terman Study

We can also learn about big regrets in life from the Terman Study.

The Terman Study is an ongoing study that started in 1921 with 1528 children and it’s another study to figure out what makes us happy and how to live a good life.

Friedman and Martin write:

“The qualities and lifestyles cultivated by people on these life-long paths reflect an active pursuit of goals, deep satisfaction with life, and a strong sense of accomplishment. 

That’s not to say that these people possessed a giddy sense of happiness–we described how cheerfulness doesn’t necessarily lead to a long life. 

But having a large social network, engaging in physical activities that naturally draw you in, giving back to your community, enjoying and thriving in your career, and nurturing a healthy marriage or close friendships can do more than add many years to your life.

Together, they represent the living with purpose that comes from working hard, reaching out to others, and bouncing back from difficult times.

How fascinating to understand that those individuals who became involved with others in a consequential life would be improving their health as an unanticipated bonus.”

Here you can see how Connection Regrets can play a role in how you live your good life.

Look Back 10 Years Through the Lens of Regrets

This is your chance to really identify your transformational changes that will unleash the you that you really want to be.

And it’s these changes that will be your game winning strategies for life.

This is how you win the game of life your way.

This is a pretty easy part of the exercise, you can look back over the last 10 years of your life and identify your most important regrets.

What would you do differently?

This is your chance to use your past for lessons that will help you become the type of person that you want to be.

You can look back through key areas of your life using the Life Hot Spots framework:

  1. Mind
  2. Body
  3. Emotions
  4. Career
  5. Finance
  6. Relationships
  7. Fun

Looking back on your past 10 years, if you knew then, what you know now, what would you do differently?

With the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, what changes would you make in terms of how you think, feel, or act, and what you focus on?

Remember that your thoughts are behaviors, too.

Maybe you spent the last 10 years thinking too much about your regrets!

With regrets in hand, this is your chance to change your future, so you regret less, and live life more fully on your terms.

How Does the Rocking Chair Test and the Dickens Pattern Fit In?

Now that we know the 4 types or classes of regret, we can evaluate how different tools help reduce our future regrets and live more fully.

The first tool that comes to my mind is Tony Robbins’ Rocking Chair Test.

It’s a simple test and it goes like this:

Imagine yourself as 80 years old (or some age in the future), sitting on your rocking chair, and you didn’t do whatever it is where fear is holding you back.

If it doesn’t bother you, then don’t do it.

I think the Rocking Chair test really nails the Boldness Regrets.

Another tool that comes to mind is Tony Robbins’  Dickens Pattern exercise.

The Dickens Pattern exercise is really focused on limiting beliefs, which could overlap with Boldness Regrets, as well as Foundation Regrets.

But the value of it is ultimately creating clarity around your limiting beliefs and the impact they have on your life.

It’s Never Too Late, To Start All Over Again

It’s never too late to start all over again.

Regret can be a good thing if you use it to learn and grow, along with practicing self-compassion.

The whole point of getting good at regret is so that as you live your life forward, let your past go, and become more of who you want to be.

You can change your fate through your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions today.

This is how you help your Future Self think, feel, and act like the person you want to become.

Big Ideas Conceptualised In Great Quotes!

Great quotes encapsulate big ideas in few words.  They inspire, motivate, and encourage in a memorable way.  On this blog I like to cover all aspects of building wealth, including interviewing authors, investors, and business owners who have achieved great success. In that spirit, I’ve assembled the top 100 quotes about money.

  1. Too many people spend money they earned..to buy things they don’t want..to impress people that they don’t like. –Will Rogers
  2. A wise person should have money in their head, but not in their heart. –Jonathan Swift
  3. Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants. –Epictetus
  4. Money often costs too much. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
  5. Everyday is a bank account, and time is our currency. No one is rich, no one is poor, we’ve got 24 hours each. –Christopher Rice
  6. It’s how you deal with failure that determines how you achieve success. –David Feherty
  7. Frugality includes all the other virtues. –Cicero
  8. I love money. I love everything about it. I bought some pretty good stuff. Got me a $300 pair of socks. Got a fur sink. An electric dog polisher. A gasoline powered turtleneck sweater. And, of course, I bought some dumb stuff, too. –Steve Martin
  9. An investment in knowledge pays the best interest. –Benjamin Franklin
  10. I will tell you the secret to getting rich on Wall Street. You try to be greedy when others are fearful. And you try to be fearful when others are greedy. –Warren Buffett

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·  Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pound ought and six, result misery. –Charles Dickens

·  Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. –Thomas Edison

·  What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do. When we do what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors open for us, we feel useful, and the work we do feels like play to us. –Julia Cameron

·  I never attempt to make money on the stock market. I buy on the assumption that they could close the market the next day and not reopen it for ten years. –Warren Buffett

·  A nickel ain’t worth a dime anymore. –Yogi Berra

·  Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of filling a vacuum, it makes one. –Benjamin Franklin

·  Many people take no care of their money till they come nearly to the end of it, and others do just the same with their time. –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

·  Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune. –Jim Rohn

·  Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver. –Ayn Rand

·  Financial peace isn’t the acquisition of stuff. It’s learning to live on less than you make, so you can give money back and have money to invest. You can’t win until you do this. –Dave Ramsey

·  It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor. –Seneca

·  It’s not the employer who pays the wages. Employers only handle the money. It’s the customer who pays the wages. –Henry Ford

·  He who loses money, loses much; He who loses a friend, loses much more; He who loses faith, loses all. –Eleanor Roosevelt

·  Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort. –Franklin D. Roosevelt

·  Empty pockets never held anyone back. Only empty heads and empty hearts can do that. –Norman Vincent Peale

·  It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy. –George Lorimer

·  You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you. –Maya Angelou

·  Buy when everyone else is selling and hold until everyone else is buying. That’s not just a catchy slogan. It’s the very essence of successful investing. –J. Paul Getty

·  If money is your hope for independence you will never have it. The only real security that a man will have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience, and ability. –Henry Ford

·  If all the economists were laid end to end, they’d never reach a conclusion. –George Bernard Shaw

·  How many millionaires do you know who have become wealthy by investing in savings accounts? I rest my case. –Robert G. Allen

·  I made my money the old-fashioned way. I was very nice to a wealthy relative right before he died. –Malcolm Forbes

·  Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower. –Steve Jobs

·  The real measure of your wealth is how much you’d be worth if you lost all your money. –Anonymous

·  Money is a terrible master but an excellent servant. –P.T. Barnum

·  Try to save something while your salary is small; it’s impossible to save after you begin to earn more. –Jack Benny

·  Wealth is the ability to fully experience life. –Henry David Thoreau

·  The individual investor should act consistently as an investor and not as a speculator. –Ben Graham

·  I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it. –Thomas Jefferson

·  You must gain control over your money or the lack of it will forever control you. –Dave Ramsey

·  Investing should be more like watching paint dry or watching grass grow. If you want excitement, take $800 and go to Las Vegas. –Paul Samuelson

·  Every time you borrow money, you’re robbing your future self. –Nathan W. Morris

·  Rich people have small TVs and big libraries, and poor people have small libraries and big TVs. –Zig Ziglar

·  Never spend your money before you have it. –Thomas Jefferson

·  The stock market is filled with individuals who know the price of everything, but the value of nothing. –Phillip Fisher

·  Wealth is not his that has it, but his that enjoys it. –Benjamin Franklin

·  It’s not how much money you make, but how much money you keep, how hard it works for you, and how many generations you keep it for. –Robert Kiyosaki

·  I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. –Thomas A. Edison

·  If you don’t value your time, neither will others. Stop giving away your time and talents. Value what you know & start charging for it. –Kim Garst

·  Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do. –Steve Jobs

·  The habit of saving is itself an education; it fosters every virtue, teaches self-denial, cultivates the sense of order, trains to forethought, and so broadens the mind. –T.T. Munger

·  Don’t tell me what you value, show me your budget, and I’ll tell you what you value.” –Joe Biden

·  If you live for having it all, what you have is never enough. –Vicki Robin

·  Before you speak, listen. Before you write, think. Before you spend, earn. Before you invest, investigate. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try. Before you retire, save. Before you die, give. –William A. Ward

·  We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. –Winston Churchill

·  Wealth after all is a relative thing since he that has little and wants less is richer than he that has much and wants more. –Charles Caleb Colton

·  Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted. –Albert Einstein

·  It is time for us to stand and cheer for the doer, the achiever, the one who recognizes the challenge and does something about it. –Vince Lombardi

·  It’s not the situation, but whether we react (negative) or respond (positive) to the situation that’s important. –Zig Ziglar

·  A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him. –David Brinkley

·  Let him who would enjoy a good future waste none of his present. –Roger Babson

·  Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway. –John Wayne

·  Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. –Mahatma Gandhi

·  Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. –Mark Twain

·  It is our choices, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. –J. K Rowling

·  The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus. –Bruce Lee

·  Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. –Dale Carnegie

·  The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me. –Ayn Rand

·  Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning. –Robert Kiyosaki

·  You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life. –Steve Jobs

·  Let no feeling of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed. –Abraham Lincoln

·  Screw it, Let’s do it! –Richard Branson

·  If your ship doesn’t come in, swim out to meet it! –Jonathan Winters

·  People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily. –Zig Ziglar

·  A real entrepreneur is somebody who has no safety net underneath them. –Henry Kravis

·  As long as you’re going to be thinking anyway, think big. –Donald Trump

·  The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary. –Vidal Sassoon

·  Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. –Winston Churchill

·  Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning. –Benjamin Franklin

·  If plan A fails, remember there are 25 more letters. –Chris Guillebeau

·  Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

·  A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step. –Lao Tzu

·  Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it. –Oprah Winfrey

·  Believe you can and you’re halfway there. –Theodore Roosevelt

·  The Stock Market is designed to transfer money from the Active to the Patient. –Warren Buffett

·  I’m only rich because I know when I’m wrong…I basically have survived by recognizing my mistakes. –George Soros

·  Persist – don’t take no for an answer. If you’re happy to sit at your desk and not take any risk, you’ll be sitting at your desk for the next 20 years. –David Rubenstein

·  If you took our top fifteen decisions out, we’d have a pretty average record. It wasn’t hyperactivity, but a hell of a lot of patience. You stuck to your principles and when opportunities came along, you pounced on them with vigor. –Charlie Munger

·  When buying shares, ask yourself, would you buy the whole company? –Rene Rivkin

·  If you have trouble imagining a 20% loss in the stock market, you shouldn’t be in stocks. –John Bogle

·  My old father used to have a saying:  If you make a bad bargain, hug it all the tighter. –Abraham Lincoln

·  It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan. –Eleanor Roosevelt

·  The four most expensive words in the English language are, ‘This time it’s different.’ –Sir John Templeton

·  I’d like to live as a poor man with lots of money. –Pablo Picasso

·  Fortune sides with him who dares. –Virgil

·  Wealth is like sea-water; the more we drink, the thirstier we become; and the same is true of fame. –Arthur Schopenhauer

·  If we command our wealth, we shall be rich and free. If our wealth commands us, we are poor indeed. –Edmund Burke

·  No wealth can ever make a bad man at peace with himself. –Plato

·  My formula for success is rise early, work late and strike oil. –JP Getty

16 Ways To Calm Yourself When Life Is Getting Tough

  1. Walk: Walking helps clear your mind. It offers you a different perspective.
  2. Indulge: Take a day off to spend a whole day doing exactly what you want.
  3. Be Generous: Give something to a total stranger. Acts of giving make us feel warm and fuzzy inside.
  4. Sit in a coffee shop or a busy street and soak up your surroundings. You don’t have to talk to people.
  5. Educate yourself: research what it is you are experiencing. Arm yourself with knowledge and the resources to tackle the problems head-on.
  6. Preparation:Write the day’s to-do list the evening before.
  7. Strengths: Write down a list of 20 of your strengths.
  8. Keep going forward: Keep taking small steps, no matter what. Being stagnant doesn’t serve you.
  9. Re-visit and old hobby: If you don’t have one, create one.
  10. Prioritise: Decide what’s important right now. Say no to extra obligations.
  11. Sleep. Get enough rest. Sleep 7-9 hours each night.
  12. Be silly: Do something that you did as a child. Don’t take life too seriously.
  13. Cry: Release all that emotion. You will feel better.
  14. Check you self- talk. Negative self-talk does not serve you.
  15. Journal: Develop a habit of journaling. This will help free you mind.
  16. Remind yourself that life is a journey. Remember that what you are going through is temporary, It will pass.

The Veblen Effect – Control the context and you control the mind.

At 23, Julius Caesar was a junior politician on the way up. But he had an advantage: confidence and brain.

While sailing across the Aegean Sea, he was captured by Sicilian pirates. They demanded a ransom: 20 talents of silver – That’s about 620kg, worth about $600,000 in today’s value.

Caesar told them they were being ridiculous. He couldn’t possibly allow himself to be ransomed so cheaply. The pirates hesitated, they were confused. Caesar insisted the ransom must be raised to 50 talents of silver – that’s around 1,550kg, worth about $1.5 million.

Now, the pirates didn’t know what to make of this. Normally, their captives tried to escape as cheaply as possible. They didn’t understand what was going on. But if he said he would double the ransom, why argue?

They let Caesar’s men go back to Rome to raise the money. And in Rome, in his absence, Caesar suddenly became very famous and well known. No-one had ever been ransomed for such an enormous sum ever before.

He must be very special, he must be incredibly important. Consequently, the demand for such amount of silver for ransom put Caesar on the political map and made him famous.

He had just invented the Veblen Effect. Although Thorstein Veblen wouldn’t give it that name for another 2,000 years.

Interestingly, the Veblen Effect is an effective psychological strategy that has being in use for thousands of years and generations. The best part is that despite the availability of so much of knowledge, technological advancement and information, The Veblen Effect refuses to let go.

The Veblen Effect is when consumers perceive higher-priced goods to be worth much more, simply because they cost more.

Like Rolex, Cartier, Bentley, Rolls-Royce, Aston Martin, Louis Vuitton, Christian Louboutin, Harrods, Cristal Champagne.

None of them may be actually any better than their cheaper alternatives, but the price alone makes them seem more desirable.

Caesar effectively made himself a Veblen brand. He placed a much higher value on himself than anyone in Rome. But, as far as anyone in Rome knew, it wasn’t him who had done it. It was an independent valuation. So it must be true. And because Caesar was now so highly valued, his men had little trouble raising the ransom. They returned to the island and freed him.

But Caesar wasn’t going to allow the pirates to keep that sort of money at all. As an important and famous man he had become, it was easy to raise a huge force which he used to hunt down the pirates and took back all the money, plus everything else they had pillaged, then executed all of them.

Thus, Caesar became both very rich and very famous.

And in time, with that same combination of confidence and brains, he became ruler of all Rome. And he presided over the golden age of the Roman Empire.

Expanding it from Spain to Germany, from Britain to the Middle East. Because Caesar knew that reality begins in the mind.

So the most important piece of real estate in which to stake a claim is the human mind.

How you stake a claim in the mind is by creating a perception. And how you create that perception is by controlling the context.

Control the context and you control the mind.

Control the mind and you control reality.

A good example of Veblen effect is Johny Walker Double Black!

JW Black is labelled at least 12 years aged scotch. But JW Double Black has no age statement!

JW Double Black is sold at a higher price than JW Black with a perceived notion that ‘double black’ should be much better than just ‘black’, especially since Double Black is pricier than Black! That is how the human mind works.

In reality, no one knows what is so special in Double Black, except that the label claims it to be very smooth, without actually saying it is smoother than Black!

Many believe that this is simply a marketing strategy to pass off un-aged scotch at a much higher price, through the Veblen Effect!

That’s how the Veblen Effect is a highly successful marketing strategy when correctly done.

Be Informed

Be Inspired.

let’s Support The Less Privileged

In the market you find a poor woman with a baby at her back,you lower your car window and with a military rough command voice you asked her:

“How much are you selling those onions and bananas?”

The poor seller politely replies,
“$3 for a bunch of bananas and $2,50 for a pack of onions.”

With pride you demand the bunch of bananas at $2 and the the pack of onions at $1,50 or else you will leave.

The poor seller resigns to fate and replies, “take them at the price you want.I have not made any sale today, at least I have something for supper now.”

She has made a loss but she goes further to buy a plastic bag for you to pack the two items you have just bought.

You order her to hurry up otherwise you may change your mind.She apologises and with a smile, she gives you the items and she blesses you for patronizing her.

You literally throw the money at her and you sped away leaving behind a cloud of smoke and dust which causes a bit of discomfort to her and the baby.She is coughing while securing her little money.Her poverty has left her with no choice.

You have now arrived at the 5-star restaurant where you are to meet friends and you ask them to order food and drinks of their choice.

They order expensive food and the leftovers are more than the food they have eaten.

The total bill is $400 and you pay without bargaining, you gave a tip of $50 appreciating the waiter for a delicious meal….which you didn’t eat even half of.

This incident might seem quite normal to you but it’s inhumane…

THE POINT IS:-👇

Why do we always show that we have the bargaining power when we buy from the poor?

Why do we become arrogant when buying from the poor?

Why do we become stingy when buying from the vulnerable?

Why do we show generosity to those who do not even need our generosity?

Why do we become polite when buying from the rich who view our money as mere change?

Why do we channel money to a sea of money?

Please buy simple goods from the poor people at high prices….do it deliberately.

Sometimes, pay extra for the items you buy from poor women…you are only blessing them in your little way

Please where possible buy items from local markets.

To everyone reading this, please, everytime you see them in traffic, taxi parks, bus stops, on the streets….just buy!

Don’t bargain.They are not looking for money to buy expensive clothes or mansions or cars, but to feed their children back home and pay school fees.

A Wollan Shatta!

Be strong, be kind, be free

Do things that make you proud of yourself

Surround yourself with people who bring out the best qualities

and distance yourself from people who do the opposite

Be true

True to yourself and true to your morals

Stand up for yourself

Don’t let people take advantage of your kindness and soft heart

Don’t take sh*t from anyone and don’t put yourself down

Believe in yourself and believe in your journey

Be good to yourself

Be unapologetically you

Embrace your imperfections

Accept the fact that when you grow sometimes you loose people and that’s okay

Celebrate your every success and learn from failure

And most importantly, never, ever let anything stand

in the way of the person you are becoming

The Sweet Spot: Passion, Profit, and Value!

The Sweet Spot – The Intersection of Passion, Profit, and Value

Passion, profit, and value is the key to sustainable results:

  • Passion.  Your passion is your fuel for making things happen.  In today’s skill-for-hire economy, one of your most important assets is your passion.  It’s you’re staying power, and your get up and go, especially when you get knocked down.  It’s how you get up again.  Passion is also a proxy for your values, strengths, and purpose.  Strengths can be skills, but in this case, I’m also thinking about your natural strengths … the stuff that comes easy for you, but might be tough for others.   We tend to love what we’re awesome at, and, our passion tends to help us get awesome to begin with.
  • Profit.  This is about how much you can make.  Just because you create tons of value, doesn’t mean you can make a profit, especially in an economy where free is the new price, and your competition gives away what you try to sell.  How do you know what’s making a profit?  You ask.  This is where your network comes in.  Also, your friendly neighborhood accountant might be the perfect source for knowing what’s making money, and what’s not.
  • Value.  The idea here is that if you’re creating value, you have a better chance of getting rewarded.  Value is in the eye of the beholder.  This means staying aware of what the market values and knowing that the market doesn’t always drive the right thing.  This also means being aware of intrinsic vs. market value. Intrinsic value is what something is really worth, while market value is what people are willing to pay, which could be wildly inflated.  Personally, I like to optimize around providing value for basic needs, and I’m cautious when market value and intrinsic value are out of whack … market corrections can be painful.

To give you an example of the passion, profit and value intersection, I have a passion for making others great.  There’s a certain market value to that.  I already do it for free, but if I wanted to profit from it, I would take on certain clients.  For example, if the President wanted me for his results coach, I’d give him my special presidential discount, but I would still expect to profit from the value I create.

OK, fine, I’d do it for free, so it’s not a great example.

Cutting Questions to Find Your Path

Here are some cutting questions to help find and test your paths …

  • What would you do for free?
  • What’s the minimum you need to make?
  • What’s your minimum and ideal life style?
  • How much do you need to fund your ideal life style?
  • Who has the job that you want that you can model from?

Guideline for Getting Results

Some guidelines for results …

  • Find the intersections of your passion, profit, and value.
  • Passion, profit and value are sliding scales … this gives you a lot of flexibility as well as trade-offs.
  • If you’re creating all value, and no profit, that’s a charity, and that won’t pay your bills.
  • If you’re playing to your passion, but creating no value, that’s a hobby.
  • If you do what you hate, you’ll suck your life force dry.
  • Find the job you love, or love the job your with.
  • You can love the job you’re with, by by changing your why or changing your how. 
  • Some hobbies can be turned into profit, if they create value.
  • Sometimes the key to unleashing your profit potential, is simply finding the right channel or platform.
  • Be careful what you get paid for, because if you externalize your reward, you can kill your passion.
  • Knowing the market demand and the profit potential can help you follow the money.
  • Money is a means, not an end.   When you’re below the line, it means everything.  Once you’re above the line, happiness is doing what you love and service to others … you know, the stuff Maslow taught us.

One important point here is that life’s not static and neither is the market.

One strategy is to follow the growth.  This includes following the growth in the market (think biotech, green, … etc.) as well as following paths that lead to your own personal growth.

It’s one way to keep the skills that pay the bills.

6 Ways to Exlore Yourself and the World in New Ways

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” — T.S. Elliot

Adding new experiences to your life is the best way to stay fully engaged, energized, and enthusiastic.

Otherwise you burn out from boredom.

Your routines and monotony will eat your soul.

When you shake things up, you active your brain, and you reengage with your life.  And that’s how you live.

Seek Novelty and Challenge to Be Happier in Life

Science says our brains seek change.  Novelty and challenge are the keys to help you break out of routines and ruts, and to create a sense of energy and enthusiasm.

“After peering into thousands of people’s brains with advanced imaging machines such as the MRI, neuroscientists have concluded that the brain is hardwired to seek and enjoy novelty and challenge

Remember those two ingredients:  novelty and challenge.

You can have all the right fixing for an incredible life–love, respect, abundance, and so on–but without those two ingredients your recipe ends up as a bland soup of sadness and disengagement.”

An engaged brain is a happy one.  When you try new things, you give your brain a chance to come alive and get back in the game.

Your brain loves “let’s figure this out” mode when you give it a chance.

Your brain becomes much more activated when something novel or challenging occurs.  Novel things make your mind snap to attention and become sharp, releasing dopamine and energizing your brain to go into ‘let’s figure this out’ mode.  It’s what motivates us to learn.  If that novelty also challenges us then our brains stay engaged for even longer.  And an engaged brain is a happy brain.

1.  The Ninety-Day Getaway

Take a trip, once every three months (once a quarter in corporate warrior terms).

Every ninety days, plan a getaway either by yourself or with our spouse or significant other.  Yes, every ninety days.  This doesn’t have to be a trip around the world–the goal isn’t how far you travel; it’s how far you get away, the difference being measured not in the miles you travel, but in how far mentally you break the monotony of routine in order to relax and rejuvenate.

2.  The Restaurant or Dining Tour

Date night is a great night to try some new places to eat.  If you don’t have a date night, maybe that’s your starting point.

Make your date nights an excursion to a new restaurant once a week.  If you’re in a small town, get a group of friends to host dinner every few weeks.  The goal is to get about town and experience new dining experiences.

3.  Shows, Sporting Events, Experiences

There is always something going on.  And something amazing might be happening right in your own backyard.

I am constantly surprised when I find out who’s in town, or what shows are playing, or what fun things there are to do, either in the local neighborhood or a hop-skip-and a jump away.

It’s a reminder that I really need to map out and pay attention to local area events.

What’s happening in your city this weekend?  Are there shows or performances you can go see?  Any new exhibits or exhibitions?  Despite the fact that many of us love going to the movies, sporting events, or the theater, most of us rarely do.  Make it a habit to be on the lookout for things you can go see and cheer for.

4.  Travel Adventures

Traveling is a great way to explore new places and try new things.  The most interesting thing to me is how some places don’t feel like any other places on the planet.

Do you have a list of the top-fifty destinations you want to go in your life?  Are you actively checking them off the list, at least once per year?  If not, get to it.  Traveling is one of the surest ways to introduce novelty, engagement, and excitement in your life.

5.  Expanding Your Peer Circle

Long ago a friend of mine gave me a new metaphor for people.  He said that I had looked at the people in my life in a static way.  More like a lake.  He said I needed to take a river view, and keep in mind that people are constantly flowing into and out of our lives.

A little habit I adopted at work is to challenge myself to regularly meet new people and expand my worlds.  And I find new people bring new energy, and I feed off that.

It’s funny how ‘making friends’ is so important to us when we’re young, but we lay off our efforts the older we get.  But your friendship and peer circles are the most important external influences in determining your happiness (outside of your intimate relationship).  Get serious about expanding your peer circle by going to networking events, fund-raisers, and local events and performances.  Be on the lookout not just for networking purposes, but for friendship-making purposes.

6.  Skill Development

Adding new skills is a great way to keep your brain alive and open the doors to new possibilities.

What ten skills should you develop this year?  How actively are you currently chasing and working toward mastery of something like writing, speaking, singing, cooking, programming, leading, playing soccer, or some other artistic, athletic, or professional skill?

The challenge of seeking new skills is one of the surest ways to test and transcend your own boundaries.  Go find something new to learn, and fall on your face trying to learn it.  Enjoy the process of learning–it’s one of the easiest paths to a more engaged brain (and life).

The quality of your life is really the quality of your experiences.

If you want to raise the bar and feel fully alive, then challenge yourself to find new ways to try new things and to add new experiences to your life.

Otherwise, you may slowly lose your spark that makes everything else worth it.

Keep your spark.

The Greatest Asset In Life

The greatest asset in life is our relationship balance

Go check out a person who has good relationships in life what they can achieve with one phone call, others cannot achieve with a million dollars.

Many studies have been done which says people who have good relationships they live happier and healthier lives. Our relationships friends and relatives, they are our support group.

We are talking about personally, professionally and socially.

Our family, people who are emotionally strong, you see in any crisis they come out stronger and people who are emotionally weak, they fight; they distort and make things fall apart.

People who are emotionally weak can never build lasting relationships with them because they are moody people, whimsical people, they are all sugar and honey to you today and they are out to cut your throat tomorrow. They are imbalanced and imbalanced people you cannot trust. In any relationship the foundation is trust and trust is built on integrity.

Personally, professionally there are many people who join groups like the chamber of commerce, BNI’s the Rotary, the Lions to network and they think they are building relationships and their definition of relationship is make connections with this people because someday they could be useful.

Usefulness goes, friendship also goes, there is no relationship – they are only takers, they are parasites only to suck whatever they can get and relationships are never built on taking, they are always built on giving.

Relationships are built on adding value addition to the relationship or to the other person were you need to give something.

There are four kinds of friendships in life;

  1. The friendship of convenience
  2. The friendship of usefulness
  3. The friendship because of a common enemy
  4. The friendship built on mutual respect

Helping each other is a duty of a friend; it is never the purpose of friendship. Helping always remains incidental to friendship.

To build lasting friendships and lasting relationships we must be willing to give and add value addition to another person’s life and that is what keeps a long-time relationship to be strong.

Go build it and you will live a much healthier, happier life.

50 life changing chess nuggets

THE GAME OF CHESS

After reading “Little Book of Chess Tips” by Peter French i sought my own interpretation of the same and how the rules can apply in our day to day lives. Enjoy………………………….

Things may not be as they seem!

  1. Pay close attention to every move your opponent makes – figure out the reason behind the step in life.
  2. When you see a good move, wait – look for a better one! – try to find the best move you can in every single position.
  3. Always have a plan in mind – what are you trying to achieve in a few years time.
  4. Remember value according to the type of position – strike where it hurts the most by optimising chances.
  5. Avoid repeating mistakes – analyse your games to understand better your opponent’s plans.
  6. Time is a vital element in chess – establish yourself in the strongest possible way using as few moves as possible.
  7. Control of the centre – everything flows from the heart, guard it with all your might.
  8. Never compromise or neglect your king – stick to what is most important and never derail.
  9. Know when to swap – difference between hoarding and spending relies on both timing and wisdom
  10. Weaken your opponents pawn formation – don’t miss an opportunity of tackling your problems and shuttering it’s structure.
  11. Consider the endgame – envision the end from the beginning.
  12. Concentrate all the time – remain frosty till victory is established at the very end of the game.
  13. If you are losing in the endgame, set stalemate traps – restrict your opponent as much as possible so as to increase chances of your victory.
  14. Be much more alert to your own attacking possibilities – be readier to defend against future threats or even to remove them completely.
  15. Relieve the pin/tie as soon as possible – be aware of any issues that may be tying you down as they narrow down your options to succeed.
  16. Moving to discover a threat from another piece – ensure you consider every potential move your opponent can make.
  17. All games are eventually decided by tactics – the most advantageous weapon that you can carry into a fight is tact.
  18. Always be on the lookout – search for indicators/red flags that may reduce your chances of winning or increase your opponents chances of losing.
  19. Reasons for making a sacrifice – be mindful in order to maximise your gains and limit your opponents options.
  20. Defend with the weakest available piece – wherever possible, use pawns to defend as much as possible.
  21. The knight is the weakest defensive piece – your game is as strong as your weakest link.
  22. Exploit overloaded pieces – read into your opponents game and take advantage of any mishaps.
  23. Don’t spend all your practice time learning opening theory – in any case, a thorough grasp of strategy and tactics is a far greater asset in the opening than mere book knowledge.
  24. When you are not sure of the best plan – improve the position of your worst placed piece.
  25. Balance pawn moves – thereby creating your opponents weakness that will be exploited later in the game.
  26. If your king is under attack – sometimes the best defence is to retreat and evaluate yourself, plan, strategize and come back with a better tactic.
  27. Never begin with insufficient material – the intensity of an attack should correlate with the resources available to execute the same.
  28. If your king is castled behind unmoved pawns – don’t put all your eggs in one basket in regards to defence.
  29. Look for the Greek gift sacrifice – sometimes death of a team member is necessary for the sake of the team’s survival.
  30. Look for opportunities – at times it may need you to make a calculated sacrificial tactical move that can win immediately.
  31. Never attack unless and until – only commence aggression when you have a tangible positional advantage.
  32. Do not attack on the flank unless – the centre should be strong, impenetrable and infallible.
  33. Spend time studying endgames – understanding the endgame makes the player more likely to win when the opportunity presents itself.
  34. Do not underestimate the king in the end game – do not hesitate to use your best resources at your disposal at the time when they can be fully optimised.
  35. The knight should stay as close to the king as possible – keep your priorities in life straight.
  36. Aim to exchange so that when the endgame is reached it is your opponent not you, who has the pawn – foresight is key.
  37. If you are defending the king against the king and pawn – strategy and tact is vital to draw the end game.
  38. When defending with a rook against pawns – sometimes you have to lose some to get some.
  39. To build batteries on files or diagonals – working together will yield a stronger result than the sum of its parts.
  40. Consider playing a system – the more things change, they more they stay the same.
  41. If winning beware of exchange into an opposite coloured bishop endgame – stay on your toes until the last victory whistle.
  42. Consider playing your opponent, not the board – assess as far as you can what type of problem you have and seek to frustrate it by all means necessary.
  43. Never neglect your control of the clock – it is essential to invest you time wisely, and conserve it for when you really need it.
  44. Don’t give checks for the sake of it – every resource should be used frugally in a nifty fashion.
  45. Do chess puzzles – always look for ways to expound your critical thinking ability.
  46. Use a good chess computer program – constantly seek to challenge yourself in order to grow.
  47. Do not fall into the habit – seek virtues rather than vices in all your deeds.
  48. Do not forget to look for traps – nothing is for free, always question and be suspicious.
  49. Play your best game all the time – let your lifestyle reflect your *A* game in all your endeavours.
  50. Remember that chess is a game – be generous to your opponent when you win, and never, ever be a bad loser. Play to win, play aggressively by all means, but treat your opponent with respect!

My favourite take away from this book is “The winner of the game is the player who makes the next – to – last mistake”

Do not be afraid to take risks even though they make your stomach churn – they may just be worth it!

Credit goes to the author of the ‘Little Book of Chess Tips’ by Peter French

The journey is short

An elderly woman got on a bus and sat down. At the next stop, a strong, grumpy young lady climbed up and sat down beside the old woman, hitting her with her numerous bags.

When she saw that the elderly woman remained silent, the young woman asked her why she had not complained when she hit her with her bags?

The elderly woman replied with a Smile: “There is no need to be rude or discuss something so insignificant, as our journey together is so short, because I am going to get off at the next stop.”

This answer deserves to be written in gold letters: “There is no need to discuss something so insignificant, because our journey together is too short.”

Each of us must understand that our time in this world is so short. That darkening it with useless arguments, jealousy, not forgiving others, discontentment and bad attitudes are a ridiculous waste of time and energy.

Did someone break your heart? Stay calm. The trip is too short.

Did someone betray, intimidate, cheat or humiliate you? Relax. Don’t stress. The trip is too short.

Did someone insult you without reason? Shake it off. Ignore it. The trip is too short.

Did a neighbor make a comment that you didn’t like? Take a deep breath. Ignore him/her. Forgive and forget it. The trip is too short.

Whatever problem someone has brought us, remember that our journey together is too short.

No one knows the length of our trip. Nobody knows when it will arrive at its stop. Our trip together is short.

Let us appreciate friends and family.
Let us be respectful, kind and forgiving.
In return, we will be filled with gratitude and joy. After all, our trip together is very short.

COWS DON’T GIVE MILK

A peasant used to say to his children when they were young: —When you all reach the age of 12 I will tell you the secret of life. One day when the oldest turned 12, he anxiously asked his father what was the secret of life. The father replied that he was going to tell him, but that he should not reveal it to his brothers.
—The secret of life is this: The cow does not give milk. “What are you saying?” Asked the boy incredulously. —As you hear it, son: The cow does not give milk, you have to milk it. You have to get up at 4 in the morning, go to the field, walk through the corral full of manure, tie the tail, hobble the legs of the cow, sit on the stool, place the bucket and do the work your self. That is the secret of life, the cow does not give milk. You milk her or you don’t get milk.

There is this generation that thinks that cows GIVE milk. That things are automatic and free: their mentality is that if ” I wish, I ask….. I obtain.”
” They have been accustomed to get what ever they want the easy way… But No, life is not a matter of wishing, asking and obtaining. The things that one receives are the effort of what one does. Happiness is the result of effort. Lack of effort creates frustration.
So, remember to share with your children, from a young age, the secret of life. So they don’t grow up with the mentality that the government, their parents, or their cute little faces is going to give them everything they need in life.
Remember
“Cows don’t give milk. You have to work for it”

nifty nuggets

  1. Life isn’t fair but it’s still good.
  2. When in doubt, just take the next time.
  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
  6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
  8. Save for retirement, starting with your first payslip.
  9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
  11. It’s okay to let your children see you cry.
  12. Don’t compare your life to other’s. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  14. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
  15. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
  16. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
  17. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
  18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
  19. Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
  20. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
  21. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
  22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
  23. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
  25. Forgive everyone everything.
  26. What other people think of your is none of your business.
  27. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
  28. However good or bag a situation is, it will change.
  29. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family will. Stay in touch.
  30. Believe in miracles.
  31. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
  32. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
  33. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
  34. Get outside everyday. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
  35. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s we’d grab ours back.
  36. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
  37. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful, or joyful.
  38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
  39. Envy is a waster of time. You already have all you need.
  40. The best is yet to come.
  41. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
  42. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
  43. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
  44. Yield.
  45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

living your best life

  1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, SMILE. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
  2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
  3. When you wake up in the morning, Pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.
  4. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
  5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli and almonds.
  6. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
  7. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
  8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper.
  9. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!
  11. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  12. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  13. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
  14. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
  17. Help the needy, Be generous! Be a ‘Giver’, not a ‘Taker’.
  18. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  19. Time heals everything.
  20. However good or bad a situation, it will change.
  21. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family will. Stay in touch.
  22. Envy is a waster of time. You already have all you need.
  23. Each night before you go to bed, Pray to God and be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today!
  24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
  25. Make every day count!

Three types of people

LEAF

Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.

BRANCH

There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you can lose them. Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are are.

ROOT

If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy for you. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you. Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots.

Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people’s lives?