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My Best Motivational Quotes!

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”

“What lies behind us and what lies in front of us pales in comparison to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Whether you need to defeat procrastination or inspire your inner fire, motivational quotes can help you get your inner mojo going again.

Motivational quotes move us.  

As a son who has just recently buried my father, I’ve had to master motivation.  Mastering motivation is a journey.  I’ve learned that motivational quotes are your best friends for the journey.   This is my collection of the best motivational quotes ever.

Use these quotes to inspire your lifefire you up right now, and inspire you every day.  And use these quotes to build a better mindset, skillset, and toolset so you can motivate yourself and others with skill.

Motivation is a skill you can practice.

To change your motivation, change your language, and to change your language learn the best motivational quotes of all time.  I’ve included motivational quotes by some of the world’s best motivational masters including Brian Tracy, Bruce Lee, Tony Robbins, Zig Zigglar and more.

Top 10 Motivational Quotes

Let’s start this list off right, with the 10 best motivational quotes:

  1. “Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.” – William B. Sprague
  2. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
  3. “I get knocked down. But I get up again. You’re never going to keep me down.” – Chumbawamba
  4. “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill
  5. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  8. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” — Henry David Thoreau

Short Motivational Quotes

  1. “Begin anywhere.” — John Cage
  2. “Dreams don’t work unless you do.” — John Maxwell
  3. “Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded there.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer
  4. “H.O.P.E. = Hold On. Pain Ends.” — Anonymous
  5. “Make each day your masterpiece.” — John Wooden
  6. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine? And shadows will fall behind you.” — Walt Whitman
  7. “Turn your wounds into wisdom.” – Oprah Winfrey
  8. “Wherever you go, go with all your heart.” — Confucius
  9. “We can do anything we want to if we stick to it long enough.” — Helen Keller
  10. “What defines us is how well we rise after falling.” — Lionel Bloch, Maid in Manhattan

Deep Motivational Quotes

  1. “As long as you live, keep learning how to live.” — Seneca
  2. “At any given moment you have the power to say: this is not how the story is going to end.” — Unknown
  3. “Be a voice, not an echo.” — Albert Einstein
  4. “Death comes to all, but great achievements build a monument which shall endure until the sun grows cold.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  5. “Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” — Robert Louis Stevenson
  6. “Don’t wish it were easier. Wish you were better.” — Jim Rohn
  7. “I want to be all used up when I die.” — George Bernard Shaw
  8. “I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy- I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it.” — Art Williams
  9. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.” – Walt Whitman
  10. “Let him who would move the world, first move himself.” – Socrates
  11. “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” — Maya Angelou
  12. “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” — Stephen R. Covey
  13. “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.” — Earl Nightingale
  14. “Remember that failure is an event, not a person.” — Zig Ziglar
  15. “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
  16. “Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” — Saint Francis
  17. “The big lesson in life is never be scared of anyone or anything.” — Frank Sinatra
  18. “The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.” — Dorothy Parker
  19. “What we believe will always be more powerful than what’s real.” – Sean Aeon
  20. “When someone says you can’t do it, do it twice and take pictures.” — Unknown
  21. “When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” — Paulo Coelho
  22. “Wherever you go, go with all your heart.” — Confucius
  23. “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.” — Albert Einstein
  24. “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” — Jim Rohn

Best Motivational Quotes for Getting Started

  1. “Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” — John R. Wooden
  2. “Just do it.” — Nike
  3. “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” — Arthur Ashe
  4. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” — Mark Twain
  5. “The wise does at once what the fool does at last.” — Baltasar Gracian
  6. “What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.” — Ralph Marston
  7. “You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.” — Henry Ford

Monday Motivational Quotes

  1. “All Motivation Mondays need are a little more coffee and a lot more mascara.” — Unknown
  2. “Goodbye, blue Monday.” — Kurt Vonnegut
  3. “I’m alive, motivated and ready to slay the day #MONSLAY.” — Unknown
  4. “It was a Monday and they walked on a tightrope to the sun.” — Marcus Zusak
  5. “It’s Monday … time to motivate and make dreams and goals happen. Let’s go!” — Heather Stillufsen
  6. “Monday c’est Mon Day.” — Unknown
  7. “One day or day one. You decide.” — Unknown
  8. “So. Monday. We meet again. We will never be friends—but maybe we can move past our mutual enmity toward a more positive partnership.” — Julio-Alexi Genao
  9. “When life gives you Monday, dip it in glitter and sparkle all day.” — Ella Woodword

Friday Motivational Quotes

  1. “Don’t worry about letting the dogs out. It’s Friday! Let them have a great weekend, too.” — Anthony Hincks
  2. “Every Friday, I like to high five myself for getting through another week on little more than caffeine, willpower, and inappropriate humor.” — Nanea Hoffman
  3. “Fridays are the hardest in some ways: you’re so close to freedom.” — Lauren Oliver
  4. “Friday sees more smiles than any other day of the workweek!” — Kate Summers
  5. “I challenge you to let every day be a Friday. Permit yourself to be happy every day.” — Joel Osteen
  6. “It’s Friday morning, mankind! Good vibe, don’t frown and let the monster see you smile!” — Napz Cherub Pellazo
  7. “Make Friday a day to celebrate work well done that you can be proud of knowing that you just didn’t put in time to the next paycheck.” — Byron Pulsifer
  8. “Oh! It’s Friday again. Share the love that was missing during the week. In a worthy moment of peace and bliss.” — S. O’Sade
  9. “This Friday, finish your work and be done. Look forward to the weekend and have some fun!” — Kate Summers
  10. “When you leave work on Friday, leave work. Don’t let technology follow you throughout your weekend (answering text messages and emails). Take a break. You will be more refreshed to begin the workweek if you have had a break.” — Catherine Pulsifer

Best Motivational Quotes for Entrepreneurship

  1. “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” — Walt Disney
  2. “Chase the vision, not the money, the money will end up following you.” — Tony Hsieh
  3. “Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” — Mary Kay Ash
  4. “Embrace what you don’t know, especially in the beginning, because what you don’t know can become your greatest asset. It ensures that you will absolutely be doing things different from everybody else.” — Sara Blakely
  5. “Everyone has an idea, but it’s really about executing the idea and attracting other people to help you with the idea.” — Jack Dorsey
  6. “I wake up every morning and think to myself, ‘How far can I push this company in the next 24 hours.’” — Leah Busque
  7. “If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can’t hear them anymore.” — Michele Ruiz
  8. “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” — Tony Robbins
  9. “If you think that you are going to love something, give it a try. You’re going to kick yourself in the butt for the rest of your life if you don’t.” — Joe Penna
  10. “In the middle of difficulty, lies opportunities.” — Albert Einstein
  11. “It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.” — Babe Ruth
  12. “It’s not about ideas. It’s about making ideas happen.” — Scott Belsky
  13. “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan
  14. “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.” — Napoleon Hill
  15. “Only the paranoid survive.” — Andy Grove
  16. “Openly share and talk to people about your idea. Use their lack of interest or doubt to fuel your motivation to make it happen.” — Todd Garland
  17. “Risk more than others think is safe. Dream more than others think is practical.” — Howard Schultz
  18. “The art of leadership is saying no, not yes. It is very easy to say yes.” — Tony Blair
  19. “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.” — Chinese Proverb
  20. “The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” — Mark Zuckerberg
  21. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”  — Mark Twain
  22. “The way to get started is to quit talking and start doing.” — Walt Disney
  23. “There’s lots of bad reasons to start a company. But there’s only one good, legitimate reason, and I think you know what it is: it’s to change the world.” — Phil Libin
  24. “Waiting for perfect is never as smart as making progress.” — Seth Godin
  25. “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes?understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” — Arianna Huffington
  26. “When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” — Henry Ford
  27. “When I’m old and dying, I plan to look back on my life and say ‘wow, that was an adventure,’ not ‘wow, I sure felt safe.” — Tom Preston-Werner
  28. “Write it. Shoot it. Publish it. Crochet it. Sauté it. Whatever. MAKE.” — Joss Whedon
  29. “Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.” – Bill Gates
  30. “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” — Steve Jobs

Best Motivational Quotes for Students

  1. “Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t.” — Bill Nye
  2. “Learning is like rowing upstream: not to advance is to drop back.” — Chinese proverb
  3. “Learning is never done without errors and defeat.” — Vladimir Lenin
  4. “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi
  5. “Life itself is your teacher, and you are in a state of constant learning.” — Bruce Lee
  6. “Success is a poor teacher.” — Robert Kiyosaki
  7. “Study without desire spoils the memory, and it retains nothing that it takes in.” — Leonardo da Vinci
  8. “That is never too often repeated, which is never sufficiently learned.” — Seneca
  9. “The highest activity a human being can attain is learning for understanding, because to understand is to be free.” — Baruch Spinoza
  10. “The learned man knows that he is ignorant.” –– Victor Hugo
  11. “They cannot stop me. I will get my education, if it is in the home, school, or anyplace.” — Malala Yousafzai
  12. “To accuse others for one’s own misfortunes is a sign of want of education. To accuse oneself shows that one’s education has begun. To accuse neither oneself nor others shows that one’s education is complete.” – Epictetus
  13. “We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.” – Lloyd Alexander
  14. “Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it.” — Albert Einstein
  15. “Who questions much, shall learn much, and retain much.” – Francis Bacon
  16. “You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backward into safety.” – Abraham Maslow

Best Motivational Quotes for Work

  1. “A hero is born among a hundred, a wise man is found among a thousand, but an accomplished one might not be found even among a hundred thousand men.” — Plato
  2. “Achievement results from work realizing ambition.” — Adam Ant
  3. “Amateurs sit around and wait for inspiration. The rest of us just get up and go to work.” — Stephen King
  4. “Big thinking precedes great achievement.” — Wilferd A. Peterson
  5. “Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work in hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” — Alexander Graham Bell
  6. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’” — Mary Anne Radmacher
  7. “Either you run the day or the day runs you.” — Jim Rohn
  8. “Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded there.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer
  9. “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.” — Tim Notke
  10. “High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.” — Charles Kettering
  11. “I didn’t get there by wishing for it, but by working for it.” — Estee Lauder
  12. “I want to be all used up when I die.” — George Bernard Shaw
  13. “If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.” — Napoleon Hill
  14. “If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.” — Olin Miller
  15. “If you’ll not settle for anything less than your best, you will be amazed at what you can accomplish in your lives.” — Vince Lombardi
  16. “Never stop doing your best just because someone doesn’t give you credit.” — Kamari aka Lyrikal
  17. “Nothing will work unless you do.” — Maya Angelou
  18. “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” — Thomas Edison
  19. “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” — Dale Carnegie
  20. “Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.” — Dwayne Johnson
  21. “The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” — Oscar Wilde
  22. “The miracle is not that we do this work, but that we are happy to do it.” — Mother Teresa
  23. “The only difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.” — Jimmy Johnson
  24. “The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret.” — Nido Qubein
  25. “This is the real secret of life — to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.” — Alan Wilson Watts
  26. “Well done is better than well said.” — Benjamin Franklin
  27. “Winners compare their achievements with their goals, while losers compare their achievements with those of other people.” — Nido Qubein
  28. Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive.” — Leah LaBelle
  29. “You can control two things: your work ethic and your attitude about anything.” — Ali Krieger
  30. “You don’t get paid for the hour. You get paid for the value you bring to the hour.” — Jim Rohn
  31. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”  — Steve Jobs

Best Motivational Quotes on Taking Action

  1. “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” — William James
  2. “Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.” — Albert Schweitzer
  3. “Either you run the day or the day runs you.” — Jim Rohn
  4. “Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.” — Benjamin Disraeli
  5. “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” — Anne Frank
  6. “If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. That is where they should be. Now put the foundation under them.” — Henry David Thoreau
  7. “Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  8. “Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.” — Peter Marshall
  9. “Step by step and the thing is done.” — Charles Atlas
  10. “The more we do the more we can do.” — William Hazlitt
  11. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  12. “To talk goodness is not good… only to do it is.” — Chinese proverb
  13. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” — Will Durant
  14. “Well done is better than well said.” — Benjamin Franklin
  15. “Words are plentiful; deeds are precious.” – – Lech Walesa
  16. “Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.” — Voltaire

Best Motivational Quotes on Attitude

  1. “A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing.” — Oscar Wilde
  2. “A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.” – – Earl Nightingale
  3. “Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” ? Roy Bennett, The Light in the Heart
  4. “Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” — Lou Holtz
  5. “Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.” – – Charles Swindoll
  6. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” — Wayne Dyer
  7. “Character is the result of two things: mental attitude and the way we spend our time.” — Elbert Green Hubbard
  8. “Don’t take yourself too seriously. And don’t be too serious about not taking yourself too seriously.” — Howard Ogden
  9. “Eagles come in all shapes and sizes, but you will recognize them chiefly by their attitudes.” — Charles Prestwich Scott
  10. “Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
  11. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” — Victor E. Frankl
  12. “Funny is an attitude.” — Flip Wilson
  13. “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” — Maya Angelou
  14. “It is not the position, but the disposition.”  J. E. Dinger
  15. “Mental attitude is more important than mental capacity.” — Walter Dill Scott
  16. “Minds are like parachutes – they only function when open.” — Thomas Dewar
  17. “Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.” — Earl Nightingale
  18. “The real voyage of discovery consists not in making new landscapes but in having new eyes.” — Marcel Proust
  19. “You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” — Plato

Best Motivational Quotes on Boldness

  1. “Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.” — W. Clement Stone
  2. “Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.” — William James
  3. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” — Theodore Roosevelt
  4. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” — Mary Anne Radmacher
  5. “Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  6. “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” — George Adair
  7. “Fortune favors the brave.” — Publius Terence
  8. “Fortune sides with him who dares.” — Virgil
  9. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.” — Wayne Dyer
  10. “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” — Albert Einstein
  11. “He who hesitates is lost.”  Proverb
  12. “If you can dream it, you can do it.” — Walt Disney
  13. “Leap, and the net will appear.”  — John Burroughs
  14. “Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.” — Chris Grosser
  15. “Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.” — George S. Patton
  16. “We are still masters of our fate.  We are still captains of our souls.” — Winston Churchill
  17. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” Henry David Thoreau
  18. “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” — Wayne Gretzky

Best Motivational Quotes on Challenges and Changes

  1. “Change is not merely necessary to life – it is life.” — Alvin Toffler
  2. “Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.” — Alfred A. Montapert
  3. “Kites rise highest against the wind; not with it.” — Winston Churchill
  4. “Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.” — Samuel Johnson
  5. “Only I can change my life. No one else can do it for me.” — Carol Burnett
  6. “The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.” — Winston Churchill
  7. “Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” — George Bernard Shaw

Best Motivational Quotes on Determination and Persistence

  1. “Always look at what you have left.  Never look at what you have lost.” — Robert H. Schuller
  2. “Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” — Thomas Jefferson
  3. “Don’t watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going.” — Sam Levenson
  4. “Either I will find a way, or I will make one.” — Philip Sidney
  5. “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” — Samuel Beckett
  6. “Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” — Og Mandino
  7. “I’ve failed over and over and over again. And that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan
  8. “If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.” — H. G. Wells
  9. “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” — Confucius
  10. “Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” — Jim Ryun
  11. “Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” — Harriet Beecher Stowe
  12. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  13. “Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.” — Confucius
  14. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” — Thomas A. Edison
  15. “Pursue one great decisive aim with force and determination.” — Carl von Clausewitz
  16. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” — Robert Collier
  17. “The best way out is always through.” — Robert Frost
  18. “You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.” — Babe Ruth
  19. “Your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.” — Abraham Lincoln

Best Motivational Quotes on Fear

  1. “Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.” — Helen Keller
  2. “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”  — Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
  3. “Don’t let the fear of striking out hold you back.” —Babe Ruth
  4. “Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” — Judy Blume
  5. “Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” — Yoda
  6. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” —Dale Carnegie
  7. “Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
  8. “Have no fear of perfection–you’ll never reach it.” — Salvador Dali
  9. “He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  10. “I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning how to sail my ship.” — Louisa May Alcott
  11. “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” — Marie Curie
  12. “One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.”
    Henry Ford
  13. “The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” — Nelson Mandela
  14. “The key to change… is to let go of fear.” — Roseanne Cash
  15. “We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets.” — Marilyn Monroe
  16. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Best Motivational Quotes on Greatness

  1. “Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.” — Og Mandino
  2. “Don’t put a limit on what can be accomplished.” — Christopher Reeve
  3. “I’d rather attempt to do something great and fail, than to attempt nothing and succeed.” — Robert H. Schuller
  4. “It’s great to be great, but its greater to be human.” — Will Rogers
  5. “Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.” — Theodore Roosevelt
  6. “The first key to greatness is to be in reality what we appear to be.” — Socrates
  7. “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” — William James
  8. “The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.” — Arthur C. Clarke
  9. “The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”— Confucius
  10. “To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.” — Muhammad Ali
  11. “Try not to be a person of success, but rather a person of virtue.”  Albert Einstein
  12. “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”— Albert Einstein

Best Motivational Quotes on Optimism

  1. “A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.” — Herm Albright
  2. “Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.” — Hans Selye
  3. “An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere. The pessimist sees only the red light. But the truly wise person is color blind.” — Dr. Albert Schweitzer
  4. “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.” — Helen Adams Keller
  5. “Optimism means expecting the best, but confidence means knowing how to handle the worst. Never make a move if you are merely optimistic.” — The Zurich Axioms
  6. “The best way to cheer yourself up: Cheer everybody else up.” — Mark Twain
  7. “The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.” — Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
  8. “Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” — John Wooden
  9. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anonymous Motivational Quotes

  1. “Sometimes we are limited more by attitude than by opportunities.” — Anonymous
  2. “A healthy attitude is contagious but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier.” — Anonymous
  3. “Although fate presents the circumstances, how you react depends on your character.” — Anonymous
  4. “Attitude determines altitude.” — Anonymous
  5. “Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.” — Anonymous
  6. “Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?” — Anonymous
  7. “People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.” — Anonymous

Brian Tracy Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Your attitude is an expression of your values, beliefs and expectations.” — Brain Tracy
  2. “Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other.” — Brain Tracy
  3. “If you did not care at all what anyone else thought about you, what would you do differently or change in your life?” — Brain Tracy
  4. “Make a game of finding something positive in every situation. Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.” — Brain Tracy
  5. “Whatever is expressed is impressed. Whatever you say to yourself, with emotion, generates thoughts, ideas and behaviors consistent with those words.”— Brain Tracy

Bruce Lee Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  2. “As you think, so shall you become.” — Bruce Lee
  3. “Ever since I was a child, I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.” — Bruce Lee
  4. “A goal is not always meant to be reached; it often serves simply as something to aim at.” — Bruce Lee
  5. “All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.” — Bruce Lee
  6. “Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” — Bruce Lee
  7. “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” — Bruce Lee
  8. “If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” — Bruce Lee
  9. “If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” — Bruce Lee
  11. “It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.” — Bruce Lee
  12. “Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.” — Bruce Lee
  13. “Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.” — Bruce Lee
  14. “Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.” — Bruce Lee
  15. “Real living is living for others.” — Bruce Lee
  16. “Take things as they are. Punch when you have to punch. Kick when you have to kick.” — Bruce Lee
  17. “The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.” — Bruce Lee

Jim Rohn Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.” — Jim Rohn
  2. “Humans have the remarkable ability to get exactly what they must have. But there is a difference between a ‘must’ and ‘want.’” — Jim Rohn
  3. “Motivation alone is not enough. If you have an idiot and you motivate him, now you have a motivated idiot.” — Jim Rohn
  4. “My suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don’t and join the 10% who do.” — Jim Rohn
  5. “The best motivating is self-motivating. The guy says, “I wish someone would come by and turn me on. “What if they don’t show up? You’ve got to have a better plan for your life.” — Jim Rohn
  6. “When you know what you want, and you want it badly enough, you’ll find a way to get it.” — Jim Rohn
  7. “Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value.” — Jim Rohn

Ralph Waldo Emerson Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  2. “A chief event of life is the day in which we have encountered a mind that startled us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  3. “We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  4. “A good indignation brings out all one’s powers.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  5. “A great part of courage is the courage of having done the thing before.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  6. “A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  7. “A man is what he thinks about all day long.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  8. “A man’s growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  10. “All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  11. “Always do what you are afraid to do.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  12. “As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  13. “As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  14. “An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  15. “As soon as there is life there is danger.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  16. “Beauty without expression is boring.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  17. “Before we acquire great power, we must acquire wisdom to use it well.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  18. “Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  19. “Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  20. “Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  21. “Each age, it is found, must write its own books; or rather, each generation for the next succeeding.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  22. “Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great ever achieved.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  23. “Ever artist was first an amateur.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  24. “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tony Robbins Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Live with passion.” — Tony Robbins
  2. “Stay committed to your decisions but stay flexible in your approach.” — Tony Robbins
  3. “It not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.” — Tony Robbins
  4. “Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” — Tony Robbins
  5. “Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” — Tony Robbins
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” — Tony Robbins

Zig Ziglar Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Of all the ‘attitudes’ we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.” — Zig Ziglar
  2. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” — Zig Ziglar
  3. “Positive thinking won’t let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.” — Zig Ziglar
  4. “To respond is positive, to react is negative.” — Zig Ziglar
  5. “When you choose to be pleasant and positive in the way you treat others, you have also chosen, in most cases, how you are going to be treated by others.” — Zig Ziglar
  6. “You can disagree without being disagreeable.” — Zig Ziglar
  7. “I’ve got to say ‘no’ to the good to say, ‘yes’ to the best.” — Zig Ziglar
  8. “You cannot tailor make the situations in life, but you can tailor make the attitudes to fit those situations before they arise.” — Zig Ziglar

“Smile Because It Happened”– Best Motivational Quote Ever

I’ve found I can use this quote to reflect on the past– or to inspire myself to give my all for the future.

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”
— Dr. Seuss

Sometimes, the best thing you can do to find your greatest motivation, is to dig deep, practice your attitude of gratitude, and appreciate all you can:

“Dare to Be”–Best Motivational Quote for Greatness

Dare to Be is one of the greatest motivational quotes of all time that reminds you to dare to do what’s hard:

“Dare to Be
When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.
When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.
When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.
When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.
When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.
When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.
Dare to be the best you can –
At all times, Dare to be!”

“Live Without the Fear of Death in Your Heart”–Best Motivational Quote for Living and Loving Life

“So, live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart.

Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours.
Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life.

Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people.
Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide.

Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, even a stranger, when in a lonely place.
Show respect to all people and grovel to none.

When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living.
If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself.

Abuse no one and no thing, for abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision.

When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes, they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way.

Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”
— Chief Tecumseh

“It’s Not the Critic Who Counts”–Best Motivational Quote for Standing Strong When Tested

Here is one of the most inspiring motivational quotes of all time to help you back up when you get knocked down:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

When critics try to knock you down, remember you are the one in the arena.

Transmuting Adversity Into A Benefit

Every adversity, every unpleasant experience, every failure, carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit. Search for this seed when you meet with any form of defeat. Examine every adversity carefully. You will discover that it has a potential benefit for you far in excess of that which you lost through the experience. Explore this benefit, make the most of it, and you will discover one of the most profound of all the success principles. You will have learned how to convert stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

Dear You!

You’ve been through a thousand things in your life don’t even know about.

You’ve experienced things that have shook you, changed you, broke you, built you and taught you to be stronger than you ever thought you had the ability to be.

And you are who you are for all of it.

So the next time someone judges you based on a small part of what they see and how they interpret that, remember who you are, remember how much you’ve overcome and smile and keep walking because you don’t have a single thing to prove to anyone else.

You’ve already proved so much to yourself who muddled through storms that people didn’t even see because of how you carried yourself.

How To Use Regrets to Improve Your Future Self

“For of all sad words of tongue or pen, The saddest are these: ‘It might have been!”?John Greenleaf Whittier

You can use your regents to improve your Future Self.

Regrets can really hold you back in life, especially if you keep reliving the past.

Chances are that if you look back on your past 10 years, that if you knew then what you know now, there are things you would have done differently.

Maybe you would have saved more money, taken better care of your health, spent more time with loved ones, etc.

While you can’t change the past, you can change your Future Self.

Your Future Self represents the person you want to become.

By using self-compassion and a framework for regrets, you can stop living your life based on who you’ve been.

Your regrets become a backbone for your personal growth and transformation.

Your regrets set the stage for who you become.

We Spend a Lot of Time Thinking About Regrets

A regret is when you are sorrowful or mournful of a past mistake or decision.

How often do you spend time regretting your past mistakes?

It seems very natural and very human to dwell on the past.  Below are results of a case study carried out.

When asked “How often do you look back on your life and wish you had done things differently?”, here are the results:

“Only 1 percent of our respondents said that they never engage in such behavior—and fewer than 17 percent do it rarely.

Meanwhile, about 43 percent report doing it frequently or all the time.

In all, a whopping 82 percent say that this activity is at least occasionally part of their lives, making Americans far more likely to experience regret than they are to floss their teeth.”

That’s a lot of people walking around wishing they’d done things differently.

The good news is that you can break this pattern and use regret in a more skillful way, as you’ll learn in this article.

Your Future Self Represents Opportunity

Before we go into regrets, let’s first really understand why Future Self is such an important concept.

The science says that when we feel connected to our Future Self, we treat ourselves better, make better choices that affect our relationships, our finances, and our mental well-being.

Even more interesting is that the science says that when it comes to our Future Self, we really underestimate the amount of change that we can make in a 10 year span.

While the rate of change might slow down, it doesn’t slow down nearly as much as we think.

We can change our friends, favorite vacations, and musicians. But the real surprise is that we can change our values and even our personalities.

Nothing is set in stone.

Review Your Regrets with a Growth Mindset

One of the reasons that regrets can really sting, is because we feel like stuck.

That’s a Fixed mindset.

A Fixed mindset is where you believe you believe your intelligence and skills are basically set. It’s a self-imposed limit where you believe you are either good or bad at something based on what you were born with.

A Growth mindset is the opposite and it can be your ticket to a brand new life of possibilities and potential.

The fundamental belief of a Growth mindset is:

“You can learn and you get better.”

Here is the essence of a Growth mindset according to Carol Dweck, Ph.D:

“In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point.

This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.”

If you review your regrets with a Growth mindset, you open the door for continuous improvement.

And when you combine this with your Future Self, you become limitless.

Grow from Your Regrets

Sometimes regret acts like an anchor or a chain that holds you back or holds you down and wears you out.

Other times, regret serves to motivate and inspire you to make big changes in your life.

What’s the difference between these two paths?

According to researchers at UC Berkeley, self-compassion is the difference that makes the difference.

In fact, according to Kristin Neff, self-compassion trumps self-esteem. Self-esteem has several traps including narcissism, self-absorption, self-righteous anger, prejudice, disruption, etc.

Self-compassion has all the benefits of high self-esteem without its drawbacks.

Neff defines self-compassion as 3 core components:

  1. Self-kindness – be gentle and understanding of yourself, rather than critical and judgmental.
  2. Common humanity – feeling connected with others in the experience of life, rather than alone and alienated by our suffering.
  3. Mindfulness – hold our experience in balanced awareness versus ignoring our pain or exaggerating it.

You can’t grow if you can’t acknowledge your own weaknesses.

And you don’t’ grow by beating yourself up or tearing yourself down, either.

According to Neff, a better way to grow is to stop judging and evaluating yourself altogether. Stop trying to label yourself as “good” or “bad”, and accept yourself with an “open heart”, like you would a good friend.

By practicing self-compassion and going easier on yourself, you’ll experience less anxiety, less anxiety, and more peace of mind.

4 Types of Regrets

Regrets can be a wide open topic.  I find it helpful to use a framework to think about regrets in a more deliberate way.

You draw from 4 different types of regrets to identify different types of behavior changes.

In the book, The Power of Regret, Dan Pink identifies the following 4 types of regrets:

  1. Foundation Regrets – “If I’d only done the work.”
  2. Boldness Regrets – “If only I’d taken that risk…”
  3. Moral Regrets – “If I’d only done the right thing…”
  4. Connection Regrets – “If only I’d reached out…”

Foundation Regrets are when you let yourself down because you didn’t do the work.  That could be anything from you didn’t practice your instrument, or you didn’t study the way you knew you should.

It might mean you didn’t make the most of the job you had, or that you didn’t put in the effort to learn something new.

Boldness Regrets are where you didn’t step up to the plate when you could.  You shied away from things either through fear or a lack of courage.

You didn’t feel the fear and do it anyway.

Moral Regrets can be anything where you didn’t do the right thing, when you had a choice.  This is your chance to identify your behaviors and change your ways.

Connection Regrets are where you didn’t stay in touch or you didn’t let somebody know what they really meant to you.

This is why when somebody unexpectedly loses a love one, they might tell people they love them, a little more often, and a little more freely.

The Top 5 Regret of the Dying

You can learn about some of life’s deepest regrets from what people say they regret when they are on their death bed.

In the book, Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing, Bronnie Ware shares  the short-list of what people regret the most when they are on their deathbed.

Here are the top 5 regrets of the dying at a glance:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Notice how #4 on the list is effectively a Connection Regret.

You can use this insight to help inform behaviors and habits that you want to adopt today.

Again, your Future Self will thank you for it.

9 Choices Your Future Self Will Regret

While knowing the top 5 regrets of the dying can be helpful, you ultimately need to figure out the regrets that resonate with you.

In the article, 9 Choices Your Future Self Will Definitely Regret, the author identifies a short list of potential regrets:

  1. Letting other people shape your world
  2. Sticking to your bad old habits
  3. Giving up
  4. Hiding your real self (behind a mask)
  5. Constantly waiting for the right time
  6. Tolerating negative energy
  7. Striving to control every little thing
  8. Not taking care of your health
  9. Being lazy

This is the stuff that New Years Resolutions, vision boards, and every day goal setting are born from.

The beauty is that all of these are choices you can control.

The Grant Study

When it comes to big regrets in life, we can learn from the Grant Study.

The Grant Study is a study of 268 men for 75 years to learn about happiness and how to live a good life.

Here’s how George Vaillant, the director of the Grant Study, summarized the findings:

“Happiness is love. Full Stop.”

Vaillant says that while Virgil taught us the power of love long ago, now we have the data:

“The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points, at least to me, to a straightforward five-word conclusion:

‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’

Virgil, of course, needed only three words to say the same thing, and he said them a very long time ago— Omnia vincit amor, love conquers all— but unfortunately he had no data to back them up.”

As you can see from the study, in terms of the 4 types of regrets, Connection Regrets are a big deal.

In fact, here is what Dan Pink had to say about the Grant Study in his book The Power of Regret:

“Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives…

Those ties protect people from life’s discontents, help to delay mental and physical decline, and are better predictors of long and happy lives than social class, IQ, or even genes.”

In many ways you might say, the quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.

The Terman Study

We can also learn about big regrets in life from the Terman Study.

The Terman Study is an ongoing study that started in 1921 with 1528 children and it’s another study to figure out what makes us happy and how to live a good life.

Friedman and Martin write:

“The qualities and lifestyles cultivated by people on these life-long paths reflect an active pursuit of goals, deep satisfaction with life, and a strong sense of accomplishment. 

That’s not to say that these people possessed a giddy sense of happiness–we described how cheerfulness doesn’t necessarily lead to a long life. 

But having a large social network, engaging in physical activities that naturally draw you in, giving back to your community, enjoying and thriving in your career, and nurturing a healthy marriage or close friendships can do more than add many years to your life.

Together, they represent the living with purpose that comes from working hard, reaching out to others, and bouncing back from difficult times.

How fascinating to understand that those individuals who became involved with others in a consequential life would be improving their health as an unanticipated bonus.”

Here you can see how Connection Regrets can play a role in how you live your good life.

Look Back 10 Years Through the Lens of Regrets

This is your chance to really identify your transformational changes that will unleash the you that you really want to be.

And it’s these changes that will be your game winning strategies for life.

This is how you win the game of life your way.

This is a pretty easy part of the exercise, you can look back over the last 10 years of your life and identify your most important regrets.

What would you do differently?

This is your chance to use your past for lessons that will help you become the type of person that you want to be.

You can look back through key areas of your life using the Life Hot Spots framework:

  1. Mind
  2. Body
  3. Emotions
  4. Career
  5. Finance
  6. Relationships
  7. Fun

Looking back on your past 10 years, if you knew then, what you know now, what would you do differently?

With the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, what changes would you make in terms of how you think, feel, or act, and what you focus on?

Remember that your thoughts are behaviors, too.

Maybe you spent the last 10 years thinking too much about your regrets!

With regrets in hand, this is your chance to change your future, so you regret less, and live life more fully on your terms.

How Does the Rocking Chair Test and the Dickens Pattern Fit In?

Now that we know the 4 types or classes of regret, we can evaluate how different tools help reduce our future regrets and live more fully.

The first tool that comes to my mind is Tony Robbins’ Rocking Chair Test.

It’s a simple test and it goes like this:

Imagine yourself as 80 years old (or some age in the future), sitting on your rocking chair, and you didn’t do whatever it is where fear is holding you back.

If it doesn’t bother you, then don’t do it.

I think the Rocking Chair test really nails the Boldness Regrets.

Another tool that comes to mind is Tony Robbins’  Dickens Pattern exercise.

The Dickens Pattern exercise is really focused on limiting beliefs, which could overlap with Boldness Regrets, as well as Foundation Regrets.

But the value of it is ultimately creating clarity around your limiting beliefs and the impact they have on your life.

It’s Never Too Late, To Start All Over Again

It’s never too late to start all over again.

Regret can be a good thing if you use it to learn and grow, along with practicing self-compassion.

The whole point of getting good at regret is so that as you live your life forward, let your past go, and become more of who you want to be.

You can change your fate through your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions today.

This is how you help your Future Self think, feel, and act like the person you want to become.

let’s Support The Less Privileged

In the market you find a poor woman with a baby at her back,you lower your car window and with a military rough command voice you asked her:

“How much are you selling those onions and bananas?”

The poor seller politely replies,
“$3 for a bunch of bananas and $2,50 for a pack of onions.”

With pride you demand the bunch of bananas at $2 and the the pack of onions at $1,50 or else you will leave.

The poor seller resigns to fate and replies, “take them at the price you want.I have not made any sale today, at least I have something for supper now.”

She has made a loss but she goes further to buy a plastic bag for you to pack the two items you have just bought.

You order her to hurry up otherwise you may change your mind.She apologises and with a smile, she gives you the items and she blesses you for patronizing her.

You literally throw the money at her and you sped away leaving behind a cloud of smoke and dust which causes a bit of discomfort to her and the baby.She is coughing while securing her little money.Her poverty has left her with no choice.

You have now arrived at the 5-star restaurant where you are to meet friends and you ask them to order food and drinks of their choice.

They order expensive food and the leftovers are more than the food they have eaten.

The total bill is $400 and you pay without bargaining, you gave a tip of $50 appreciating the waiter for a delicious meal….which you didn’t eat even half of.

This incident might seem quite normal to you but it’s inhumane…

THE POINT IS:-👇

Why do we always show that we have the bargaining power when we buy from the poor?

Why do we become arrogant when buying from the poor?

Why do we become stingy when buying from the vulnerable?

Why do we show generosity to those who do not even need our generosity?

Why do we become polite when buying from the rich who view our money as mere change?

Why do we channel money to a sea of money?

Please buy simple goods from the poor people at high prices….do it deliberately.

Sometimes, pay extra for the items you buy from poor women…you are only blessing them in your little way

Please where possible buy items from local markets.

To everyone reading this, please, everytime you see them in traffic, taxi parks, bus stops, on the streets….just buy!

Don’t bargain.They are not looking for money to buy expensive clothes or mansions or cars, but to feed their children back home and pay school fees.

The Sweet Spot: Passion, Profit, and Value!

The Sweet Spot – The Intersection of Passion, Profit, and Value

Passion, profit, and value is the key to sustainable results:

  • Passion.  Your passion is your fuel for making things happen.  In today’s skill-for-hire economy, one of your most important assets is your passion.  It’s you’re staying power, and your get up and go, especially when you get knocked down.  It’s how you get up again.  Passion is also a proxy for your values, strengths, and purpose.  Strengths can be skills, but in this case, I’m also thinking about your natural strengths … the stuff that comes easy for you, but might be tough for others.   We tend to love what we’re awesome at, and, our passion tends to help us get awesome to begin with.
  • Profit.  This is about how much you can make.  Just because you create tons of value, doesn’t mean you can make a profit, especially in an economy where free is the new price, and your competition gives away what you try to sell.  How do you know what’s making a profit?  You ask.  This is where your network comes in.  Also, your friendly neighborhood accountant might be the perfect source for knowing what’s making money, and what’s not.
  • Value.  The idea here is that if you’re creating value, you have a better chance of getting rewarded.  Value is in the eye of the beholder.  This means staying aware of what the market values and knowing that the market doesn’t always drive the right thing.  This also means being aware of intrinsic vs. market value. Intrinsic value is what something is really worth, while market value is what people are willing to pay, which could be wildly inflated.  Personally, I like to optimize around providing value for basic needs, and I’m cautious when market value and intrinsic value are out of whack … market corrections can be painful.

To give you an example of the passion, profit and value intersection, I have a passion for making others great.  There’s a certain market value to that.  I already do it for free, but if I wanted to profit from it, I would take on certain clients.  For example, if the President wanted me for his results coach, I’d give him my special presidential discount, but I would still expect to profit from the value I create.

OK, fine, I’d do it for free, so it’s not a great example.

Cutting Questions to Find Your Path

Here are some cutting questions to help find and test your paths …

  • What would you do for free?
  • What’s the minimum you need to make?
  • What’s your minimum and ideal life style?
  • How much do you need to fund your ideal life style?
  • Who has the job that you want that you can model from?

Guideline for Getting Results

Some guidelines for results …

  • Find the intersections of your passion, profit, and value.
  • Passion, profit and value are sliding scales … this gives you a lot of flexibility as well as trade-offs.
  • If you’re creating all value, and no profit, that’s a charity, and that won’t pay your bills.
  • If you’re playing to your passion, but creating no value, that’s a hobby.
  • If you do what you hate, you’ll suck your life force dry.
  • Find the job you love, or love the job your with.
  • You can love the job you’re with, by by changing your why or changing your how. 
  • Some hobbies can be turned into profit, if they create value.
  • Sometimes the key to unleashing your profit potential, is simply finding the right channel or platform.
  • Be careful what you get paid for, because if you externalize your reward, you can kill your passion.
  • Knowing the market demand and the profit potential can help you follow the money.
  • Money is a means, not an end.   When you’re below the line, it means everything.  Once you’re above the line, happiness is doing what you love and service to others … you know, the stuff Maslow taught us.

One important point here is that life’s not static and neither is the market.

One strategy is to follow the growth.  This includes following the growth in the market (think biotech, green, … etc.) as well as following paths that lead to your own personal growth.

It’s one way to keep the skills that pay the bills.

6 Ways to Exlore Yourself and the World in New Ways

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” — T.S. Elliot

Adding new experiences to your life is the best way to stay fully engaged, energized, and enthusiastic.

Otherwise you burn out from boredom.

Your routines and monotony will eat your soul.

When you shake things up, you active your brain, and you reengage with your life.  And that’s how you live.

Seek Novelty and Challenge to Be Happier in Life

Science says our brains seek change.  Novelty and challenge are the keys to help you break out of routines and ruts, and to create a sense of energy and enthusiasm.

“After peering into thousands of people’s brains with advanced imaging machines such as the MRI, neuroscientists have concluded that the brain is hardwired to seek and enjoy novelty and challenge

Remember those two ingredients:  novelty and challenge.

You can have all the right fixing for an incredible life–love, respect, abundance, and so on–but without those two ingredients your recipe ends up as a bland soup of sadness and disengagement.”

An engaged brain is a happy one.  When you try new things, you give your brain a chance to come alive and get back in the game.

Your brain loves “let’s figure this out” mode when you give it a chance.

Your brain becomes much more activated when something novel or challenging occurs.  Novel things make your mind snap to attention and become sharp, releasing dopamine and energizing your brain to go into ‘let’s figure this out’ mode.  It’s what motivates us to learn.  If that novelty also challenges us then our brains stay engaged for even longer.  And an engaged brain is a happy brain.

1.  The Ninety-Day Getaway

Take a trip, once every three months (once a quarter in corporate warrior terms).

Every ninety days, plan a getaway either by yourself or with our spouse or significant other.  Yes, every ninety days.  This doesn’t have to be a trip around the world–the goal isn’t how far you travel; it’s how far you get away, the difference being measured not in the miles you travel, but in how far mentally you break the monotony of routine in order to relax and rejuvenate.

2.  The Restaurant or Dining Tour

Date night is a great night to try some new places to eat.  If you don’t have a date night, maybe that’s your starting point.

Make your date nights an excursion to a new restaurant once a week.  If you’re in a small town, get a group of friends to host dinner every few weeks.  The goal is to get about town and experience new dining experiences.

3.  Shows, Sporting Events, Experiences

There is always something going on.  And something amazing might be happening right in your own backyard.

I am constantly surprised when I find out who’s in town, or what shows are playing, or what fun things there are to do, either in the local neighborhood or a hop-skip-and a jump away.

It’s a reminder that I really need to map out and pay attention to local area events.

What’s happening in your city this weekend?  Are there shows or performances you can go see?  Any new exhibits or exhibitions?  Despite the fact that many of us love going to the movies, sporting events, or the theater, most of us rarely do.  Make it a habit to be on the lookout for things you can go see and cheer for.

4.  Travel Adventures

Traveling is a great way to explore new places and try new things.  The most interesting thing to me is how some places don’t feel like any other places on the planet.

Do you have a list of the top-fifty destinations you want to go in your life?  Are you actively checking them off the list, at least once per year?  If not, get to it.  Traveling is one of the surest ways to introduce novelty, engagement, and excitement in your life.

5.  Expanding Your Peer Circle

Long ago a friend of mine gave me a new metaphor for people.  He said that I had looked at the people in my life in a static way.  More like a lake.  He said I needed to take a river view, and keep in mind that people are constantly flowing into and out of our lives.

A little habit I adopted at work is to challenge myself to regularly meet new people and expand my worlds.  And I find new people bring new energy, and I feed off that.

It’s funny how ‘making friends’ is so important to us when we’re young, but we lay off our efforts the older we get.  But your friendship and peer circles are the most important external influences in determining your happiness (outside of your intimate relationship).  Get serious about expanding your peer circle by going to networking events, fund-raisers, and local events and performances.  Be on the lookout not just for networking purposes, but for friendship-making purposes.

6.  Skill Development

Adding new skills is a great way to keep your brain alive and open the doors to new possibilities.

What ten skills should you develop this year?  How actively are you currently chasing and working toward mastery of something like writing, speaking, singing, cooking, programming, leading, playing soccer, or some other artistic, athletic, or professional skill?

The challenge of seeking new skills is one of the surest ways to test and transcend your own boundaries.  Go find something new to learn, and fall on your face trying to learn it.  Enjoy the process of learning–it’s one of the easiest paths to a more engaged brain (and life).

The quality of your life is really the quality of your experiences.

If you want to raise the bar and feel fully alive, then challenge yourself to find new ways to try new things and to add new experiences to your life.

Otherwise, you may slowly lose your spark that makes everything else worth it.

Keep your spark.

50 life changing chess nuggets

THE GAME OF CHESS

After reading “Little Book of Chess Tips” by Peter French i sought my own interpretation of the same and how the rules can apply in our day to day lives. Enjoy………………………….

Things may not be as they seem!

  1. Pay close attention to every move your opponent makes – figure out the reason behind the step in life.
  2. When you see a good move, wait – look for a better one! – try to find the best move you can in every single position.
  3. Always have a plan in mind – what are you trying to achieve in a few years time.
  4. Remember value according to the type of position – strike where it hurts the most by optimising chances.
  5. Avoid repeating mistakes – analyse your games to understand better your opponent’s plans.
  6. Time is a vital element in chess – establish yourself in the strongest possible way using as few moves as possible.
  7. Control of the centre – everything flows from the heart, guard it with all your might.
  8. Never compromise or neglect your king – stick to what is most important and never derail.
  9. Know when to swap – difference between hoarding and spending relies on both timing and wisdom
  10. Weaken your opponents pawn formation – don’t miss an opportunity of tackling your problems and shuttering it’s structure.
  11. Consider the endgame – envision the end from the beginning.
  12. Concentrate all the time – remain frosty till victory is established at the very end of the game.
  13. If you are losing in the endgame, set stalemate traps – restrict your opponent as much as possible so as to increase chances of your victory.
  14. Be much more alert to your own attacking possibilities – be readier to defend against future threats or even to remove them completely.
  15. Relieve the pin/tie as soon as possible – be aware of any issues that may be tying you down as they narrow down your options to succeed.
  16. Moving to discover a threat from another piece – ensure you consider every potential move your opponent can make.
  17. All games are eventually decided by tactics – the most advantageous weapon that you can carry into a fight is tact.
  18. Always be on the lookout – search for indicators/red flags that may reduce your chances of winning or increase your opponents chances of losing.
  19. Reasons for making a sacrifice – be mindful in order to maximise your gains and limit your opponents options.
  20. Defend with the weakest available piece – wherever possible, use pawns to defend as much as possible.
  21. The knight is the weakest defensive piece – your game is as strong as your weakest link.
  22. Exploit overloaded pieces – read into your opponents game and take advantage of any mishaps.
  23. Don’t spend all your practice time learning opening theory – in any case, a thorough grasp of strategy and tactics is a far greater asset in the opening than mere book knowledge.
  24. When you are not sure of the best plan – improve the position of your worst placed piece.
  25. Balance pawn moves – thereby creating your opponents weakness that will be exploited later in the game.
  26. If your king is under attack – sometimes the best defence is to retreat and evaluate yourself, plan, strategize and come back with a better tactic.
  27. Never begin with insufficient material – the intensity of an attack should correlate with the resources available to execute the same.
  28. If your king is castled behind unmoved pawns – don’t put all your eggs in one basket in regards to defence.
  29. Look for the Greek gift sacrifice – sometimes death of a team member is necessary for the sake of the team’s survival.
  30. Look for opportunities – at times it may need you to make a calculated sacrificial tactical move that can win immediately.
  31. Never attack unless and until – only commence aggression when you have a tangible positional advantage.
  32. Do not attack on the flank unless – the centre should be strong, impenetrable and infallible.
  33. Spend time studying endgames – understanding the endgame makes the player more likely to win when the opportunity presents itself.
  34. Do not underestimate the king in the end game – do not hesitate to use your best resources at your disposal at the time when they can be fully optimised.
  35. The knight should stay as close to the king as possible – keep your priorities in life straight.
  36. Aim to exchange so that when the endgame is reached it is your opponent not you, who has the pawn – foresight is key.
  37. If you are defending the king against the king and pawn – strategy and tact is vital to draw the end game.
  38. When defending with a rook against pawns – sometimes you have to lose some to get some.
  39. To build batteries on files or diagonals – working together will yield a stronger result than the sum of its parts.
  40. Consider playing a system – the more things change, they more they stay the same.
  41. If winning beware of exchange into an opposite coloured bishop endgame – stay on your toes until the last victory whistle.
  42. Consider playing your opponent, not the board – assess as far as you can what type of problem you have and seek to frustrate it by all means necessary.
  43. Never neglect your control of the clock – it is essential to invest you time wisely, and conserve it for when you really need it.
  44. Don’t give checks for the sake of it – every resource should be used frugally in a nifty fashion.
  45. Do chess puzzles – always look for ways to expound your critical thinking ability.
  46. Use a good chess computer program – constantly seek to challenge yourself in order to grow.
  47. Do not fall into the habit – seek virtues rather than vices in all your deeds.
  48. Do not forget to look for traps – nothing is for free, always question and be suspicious.
  49. Play your best game all the time – let your lifestyle reflect your *A* game in all your endeavours.
  50. Remember that chess is a game – be generous to your opponent when you win, and never, ever be a bad loser. Play to win, play aggressively by all means, but treat your opponent with respect!

My favourite take away from this book is “The winner of the game is the player who makes the next – to – last mistake”

Do not be afraid to take risks even though they make your stomach churn – they may just be worth it!

Credit goes to the author of the ‘Little Book of Chess Tips’ by Peter French

The journey is short

An elderly woman got on a bus and sat down. At the next stop, a strong, grumpy young lady climbed up and sat down beside the old woman, hitting her with her numerous bags.

When she saw that the elderly woman remained silent, the young woman asked her why she had not complained when she hit her with her bags?

The elderly woman replied with a Smile: “There is no need to be rude or discuss something so insignificant, as our journey together is so short, because I am going to get off at the next stop.”

This answer deserves to be written in gold letters: “There is no need to discuss something so insignificant, because our journey together is too short.”

Each of us must understand that our time in this world is so short. That darkening it with useless arguments, jealousy, not forgiving others, discontentment and bad attitudes are a ridiculous waste of time and energy.

Did someone break your heart? Stay calm. The trip is too short.

Did someone betray, intimidate, cheat or humiliate you? Relax. Don’t stress. The trip is too short.

Did someone insult you without reason? Shake it off. Ignore it. The trip is too short.

Did a neighbor make a comment that you didn’t like? Take a deep breath. Ignore him/her. Forgive and forget it. The trip is too short.

Whatever problem someone has brought us, remember that our journey together is too short.

No one knows the length of our trip. Nobody knows when it will arrive at its stop. Our trip together is short.

Let us appreciate friends and family.
Let us be respectful, kind and forgiving.
In return, we will be filled with gratitude and joy. After all, our trip together is very short.

living your best life

  1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, SMILE. It is the ultimate antidepressant.
  2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
  3. When you wake up in the morning, Pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.
  4. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
  5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli and almonds.
  6. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
  7. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.
  8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper.
  9. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!
  11. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  12. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  13. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
  14. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, will this matter?’
  17. Help the needy, Be generous! Be a ‘Giver’, not a ‘Taker’.
  18. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  19. Time heals everything.
  20. However good or bad a situation, it will change.
  21. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family will. Stay in touch.
  22. Envy is a waster of time. You already have all you need.
  23. Each night before you go to bed, Pray to God and be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today!
  24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
  25. Make every day count!

What 25 Movies Teach Us About Love

Love comes in all shapes and sizes and to each his own.  In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I put together a sampling of 25 movies and what they can teach us about life and love.  Even if you’re not a fan of Valentine’s Day, enjoy the quotes and perhaps see things in a new light.  Sometimes just the right words, are like an old song, sung new.

Here they are:

  1. As Good as it Gets – Love can bring out your best.  Melvin: “You make me want to be a better man.”
  2. Be My Valentine Charlie Brown – Just because you don’t get a Valentine, doesn’t mean you aren’t lovable.
  3. Casablanca.  Kiss like you mean it.  Ilsa: “Kiss me. Kiss me as if it were the last time.
    It’s the kind of thing you want to hold on to forever.”
  4. Casper: Don’t let go.  Casper: “If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever?”
  5. Cinderella.  It’s what dreams are made of.  Cinderella: “A dream is a wish your heart makes when you’re fast asleep. In dreams you will lose your heartaches. Whatever you wish for, you keep. Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainbow will come smiling through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true.”
  6. Dan in Real Life.  Love is an ability.  Marty: “Love is not a feeling, Mr. Burns. It’s an ability.”
  7. Don Juan DeMarco.  The answer is love.  Don Juan: “There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same: only love.”
  8. Ghost.  Sometimes you need to hear it.  Sam: “Ditto.”
  9. It’s a Wonderful Life.  We’ll do anything to impress the one we love.  George: “What is it you want, Mary? What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and I’ll throw a lasso around it and pull it down. Hey. That’s a pretty good idea. I’ll give you the moon, Mary.”
  10. Memoirs of a Geisha. Love is a bond.  Nobu: “We are tied to each other. I know you feel it too.”
  11. My Girl – Butterflies and fuzzy feelings are what first kisses are about.  Loss hurts.
  12. P.S. I Love You – Cherish the time you have together.  It’s part of the journey.  Gerry: “If you can promise me anything, promise me that whenever you’re sad, or unsure, or you lose complete faith, that you’ll try to see yourself through my eyes. Thank you for the honor of being my wife. I’m a man with no regrets. How lucky am I. You made my life, Holly. But I’m just one chapter in yours. There’ll be more. I promise. So here it comes, the big one. Don’t be afraid to fall in love again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you”
  13. Romeo and Juliet – Puppy love makes you say the darnedest things.  Romeo: “See, how she leans her cheek upon her hand! O that I were a glove upon that hand, that I might touch that cheek!”
  14. Runnaway Bride – Sometimes it’s a bumpy ride.  But it’s worth it.  Maggie: “I guarantee there’ll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is going to want get out. But I also guarantee… that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart… you’re the only one for me.”
  15. Shrek – Love comes in all shapes and sizes.  Stay true to you.
  16. Sleepless in Seattle.  Sometimes, it’s like a snowflake just for you.  Sam: “Well, how long is your program? Well, it was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together… and I knew it. I knew it the very first time I touched her. It was like coming home… only to no home I’d ever known… I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was like… magic.”
  17. The Bridges of Madison County.  You know it when you feel it. Robert Kinkaid: “This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime.”
  18. The Crow.  Remember them.  Sarah: “If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever.”
  19. The Notebook – If you’ve ever really loved, you know what it’s like to really live.  Noah: “I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who’s ever lived: I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.”
  20. The Princess Bride – Nothing beats true love.  Miracle Max says, “Sonny, true love is the greatest thing, in the world-except for a nice MLT – mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich, where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe.”
  21. The Way We Were – Remember how it felt when it wasn’t complicated.  Hold on to that.  Katie: “Wouldn’t it be lovely if we were old? We’d have survived all this. Everything thing would be easy and uncomplicated; the way it was when we were young.”
  22. The Wizard of Oz.  Love isn’t meant to be practical.  Wizard of Oz: “As for you, my galvanized friend, you want a heart. You don’t know how lucky you are not to have one. Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable.”
  23. Titanic. Endings can be bitter sweet.  Jack: “Winning that ticket, Rose, was the best thing that ever happened to me… it brought me to you. And I’m thankful for that, Rose. I’m thankful. You must do me this honor. Promise me you’ll survive. That you won’t give up, no matter what happens, no matter how hopeless. Promise me now, Rose, and never let go of that promise.”
  24. Wedding Crashers – Love more.  You’ve got more capacity than you might think you do.  John: “You know how they say we only use 10 percent of our brains? I think we only use 10 percent of our hearts.”
  25. When Harry Met Sally.  Sometimes love is like a new lease on life.  Harry: “I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

What movies wrinkled your brain when it comes to love?

WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT

I heard that we are in the same boat

But it’s not like that

We are in the same storm

But not in the same boat

Your ship can be shipwrecked

And mine might not be

Or vice versa

For some, quarantine is optimal

Moment of reflection, or re-connection

Easy, in flip flops, with a whiskey or tea.

For others, this is a desperate crisis.

For others it is facing loneliness

For some, a peace, rest time, vacation

Yet for others, torture:

How am I going to pay my bills?

Some were concerned about a brand of chocolates

Others were concerned about the bread for the weekend,

Or if the noodles would last for a few more days.

Some were in their ‘home office’

Others are looking through trash to survive

Some want to go back to work because

They are running out of money

Others want to kill those who break the quarantine

Some need to break the quarantine to stand in line at the banks

Others to escape

Others criticize the government for the lines

Some have experienced the near death of the virus

Some have already lost someone from it

Some are not sure their loved ones are going to make it

And some don’t even believe this is a big deal.

Some of us who are well now

May end up experiencing it,

And some believe they are infallible and will be blown

Away if or when this hits

Someone they know

Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2021

Others say the worst is yet to come

So, friends, we are not in the same boat

We are going through a time when our perceptions and

Needs are completely different

And each one will emerge in

His own way, from that storm

Some with a tan from their pool

Others with scars on the soul

It is very important to see

Beyond what is seen at first glance

Not just looking, more that looking, seeing

See beyond the political party

Beyond the biases

Beyond the nose on your face

Do not underestimate the pain of others

If you do not feel it

Do not judge the good life of the other

Do not condemn the bad life of the other

Don’t be a judge

Let us not judge the one who lacks

As well as the one who exceeds him

We are on different ships looking to survive

Let everyone navigate their route with respect

Empathy and responsibility

African folklore

Long time ago in the Animal Kingdom, a sheep was passing and saw a lion crying inside a cage trap and the Lion begged the Sheep to save him with a promise not to kill and eat it but the Sheep refused*.

After much persuasion and due the Sheep’s gullibility it opened the cage for the Lion.
Now the Lion was very hungry having stayed in the cage for days without food.
It quickly grabbed the Sheep to kill and eat but the Sheep reminded him of his promise.
They were still there arguing when other animals came passing and they sought to know what happened.

*Both the Lion and the Sheep narrated their own side of the story but because of fear and in trying to gain favour with the Lion, all the animals took sides with the Lion except the Tortoise who claimed not to understand the whole scenario*.

Now the Tortoise asked the Lion to show them where he was before the Sheep rescued him, he pointed at the cage.
He asked again, “were you inside or outside when the sheep arrived”? The Lion said he was inside.
The Tortoise again said “ok, enter lets see how difficult it could be inside”.
The Lion entered and the Tortoise locked him back inside.

*In amazement the other animals asked Tortoise “why” and he replied “if we allow him eat the Sheep today, he will still go hungry tomorrow and we don’t know the next amongst us to be eaten tomorrow*.

*Moral*:

Don’t support evil today because it doesn’t affect you directly, tomorrow it could be your turn.

Be reasonable
Stay safe.

Dear Valentine

love blog.jpgLove comes in all shapes and sizes and to each his own. In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I put together a sampling of 25 movies and what they can teach us about life and love. Even if you’re not a fan of Valentine’s Day, enjoy the quotes and perhaps see things in a new light. Sometimes just the right words, are like an old song, sung new.

Here they are:

1. As Good as it Gets – Love can bring out your best. Melvin: “You make me want to be a better man.”

2. Be My Valentine Charlie Brown – Just because you don’t get a Valentine, doesn’t mean you aren’t lovable.

3. Casablanca. Kiss like you mean it. Ilsa: “Kiss me. Kiss me as if it were the last time.
It’s the kind of thing you want to hold on to forever.”

4. Casper: Don’t let go. Casper: “If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever?”

5. Cinderella. It’s what dreams are made of. Cinderella: “A dream is a wish your heart makes when you’re fast asleep. In dreams you will lose your heartaches. Whatever you wish for, you keep. Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainbow will come smiling through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true.”

6. Dan in Real Life. Love is an ability. Marty: “Love is not a feeling, Mr. Burns. It’s an ability.”

7. Don Juan DeMarco. The answer is love. Don Juan: “There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same: only love.”

8. Ghost. Sometimes you need to hear it. Sam: “Ditto.”

9. It’s a Wonderful Life. We’ll do anything to impress the one we love. George: “What is it you want, Mary? What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and I’ll throw a lasso around it and pull it down. Hey. That’s a pretty good idea. I’ll give you the moon, Mary.”

10. Memoirs of a Geisha. Love is a bond. Nobu: “We are tied to each other. I know you feel it too.”

11. My Girl – Butterflies and fuzzy feelings are what first kisses are about. Loss hurts.

12. P.S. I Love You – Cherish the time you have together. It’s part of the journey. Gerry: “If you can promise me anything, promise me that whenever you’re sad, or unsure, or you lose complete faith, that you’ll try to see yourself through my eyes. Thank you for the honor of being my wife. I’m a man with no regrets. How lucky am I. You made my life, Holly. But I’m just one chapter in yours. There’ll be more. I promise. So here it comes, the big one. Don’t be afraid to fall in love again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you”

13. Romeo and Juliet – Puppy love makes you say the darnedest things. Romeo: “See, how she leans her cheek upon her hand! O that I were a glove upon that hand, that I might touch that cheek!”

14. Runnaway Bride – Sometimes it’s a bumpy ride. But it’s worth it. Maggie: “I guarantee there’ll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is going to want get out. But I also guarantee… that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart… you’re the only one for me.”

15. Shrek – Love comes in all shapes and sizes. Stay true to you.

16. Sleepless in Seattle. Sometimes, it’s like a snowflake just for you. Sam: “Well, how long is your program? Well, it was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together… and I knew it. I knew it the very first time I touched her. It was like coming home… only to no home I’d ever known… I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was like… magic.”

17. The Bridges of Madison County. You know it when you feel it. Robert Kinkaid: “This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime.”

18. The Crow. Remember them. Sarah: “If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever.”

19. The Notebook – If you’ve ever really loved, you know what it’s like to really live. Noah: “I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who’s ever lived: I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.”

20. The Princess Bride – Nothing beats true love. Miracle Max says, “Sonny, true love is the greatest thing, in the world-except for a nice MLT – mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich, where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe.”

21. The Way We Were – Remember how it felt when it wasn’t complicated. Hold on to that. Katie: “Wouldn’t it be lovely if we were old? We’d have survived all this. Everything thing would be easy and uncomplicated; the way it was when we were young.”

22. The Wizard of Oz. Love isn’t meant to be practical. Wizard of Oz: “As for you, my galvanized friend, you want a heart. You don’t know how lucky you are not to have one. Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable.”

23. Titanic. Endings can be bitter sweet. Jack: “Winning that ticket, Rose, was the best thing that ever happened to me… it brought me to you. And I’m thankful for that, Rose. I’m thankful. You must do me this honor. Promise me you’ll survive. That you won’t give up, no matter what happens, no matter how hopeless. Promise me now, Rose, and never let go of that promise.”

24. Wedding Crashers – Love more. You’ve got more capacity than you might think you do. John: “You know how they say we only use 10 percent of our brains? I think we only use 10 percent of our hearts.”

25. When Harry Met Sally. Sometimes love is like a new lease on life. Harry: “I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

My favorite (which does not feature in the above list) is more of a question than a quote. It’s from the Movie Bucket List starring Jack Nickelson and Morgan Freeman.

Excerpts from the pyramid scene;

Morgan: “The ancient Egyptians had a beautiful belief – when their souls got to the entrance to heaven their gods asked them two questions, their answers determined whether they were admitted or not;

Q.1 have you found joy in your life?
Q.2 has your life brought joy to others?”

The above beliefs might have been surpassed by time but i believe their profound meaning is still relevant to this very day.

As we celebrate all matters love this month, ask yourself the above two questions and find out if they resonate with your inner being because joy is the essence of love.

Happy Valentines!!!

Choose Love💖

Love is all we need!

You did it! You survived the passage of time and made it to another year, which means it’s time to bask in the fleeting enthusiasm that comes with new resolutions and fresh planners and a slate wiped clean of 2018’s garbage. Savor that feeling, because before you know it, 2019 will become just as exhausting and weird.

However, as we begin this new year with high hopes and ambitions, I have created a Wishlist for my beloved readers so that you not only survive but thrive in every situation.

“Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy. Where there is self-doubting, I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through it. Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, I wish you understanding, patience, and renewed strength. Where there is fear, I wish you courage.”

Over and above all, I wish you Love, because love sums it all up as illustrated in the anecdote below;

A woman came out of her house and saw three old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said, “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.”   “Is the man of the house home?” they asked. “No,” she said, “he’s out.” “Then we cannot come in,” they replied. In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go tell them I am home and invite them in!” The woman went out and invited the men in. “We do not go into a house together,” they replied. “Why is that?” she wanted to know. One of the old men explained, “His name is Wealth,” said pointing to one of his friends, and said, pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love.” Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.” The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!” he said. “since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come in and fill our home with wealth!” His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?” Their daughter-in-law was listening from another corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!” “Let us heed our daughter-in-law’s advice,” said the husband to his wife.” Go out and invite Love to be our guest.” The woman went out and asked the three old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.” Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other two also got up and followed him. Surprised, the woman asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, why are you coming in?” The old men replied together: ” If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would have stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever he goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is Wealth and Success!!!”

Happy New Year!

Leadership is earned not bestowed

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview; the director did the last interview, made the last decision. The director discovered from the CV, that the youth’s academic result was excellent. The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarship in school?” and the youth answered “no”. The director asked, ” Is it your father who paid for your school fees?” the youth answered, “My father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.” The director asked, “Where did your mother work?” the youth answered, “My mother worked as a cleaner.” The director requested the youth to show him his hands. The youth showed a pair of hand that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, “Did you ever help your mother wash the clothes?” The youth answered, “Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.” The director said, “I have a request, when you go home today, look at your mother’s hand, and then come and see me tomorrow morning.” The youth felt that as the chance of landing the job is high, when he went back, he happily wanted to see his mother’s hand. His mother felt strange, happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid. The youth looked at his mother’s hand slowly, his tears rolled down he cheeks. He never noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and that there are so many bruises in her hand.

This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it was this pair of hand that washed clothes everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother’s hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future. After looking at him Mum’s hands, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office. The director noticed the tear in the youth’s eye, asked: “Can you tell what have you done and learned yesterday?” The youth answered, ” I looked at my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes.”‘ The director asked, “Please tell me your feelings.”

The youth replied:
Number 1 – I now appreciate the fact that without my mother, I would not be successful today.
Number 2 -, I now know how to work together with my mother; I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3 – I know the importance and value of family relationships.

The director said, “This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person that understands the challenges of others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be a Manager. You are hired.”

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the company’s result improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, develops an “entitlement mentality” and always put himself first. He is ignorant of others effort. When he starts work, he assumes every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a Manager, he never understands the challenges facing his employee and always blames others.

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash the dishes together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way and give them an appreciation that everything in life does not come easy.

The most important thing we all need to learn is how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty, and learn the ability to work with others to get things done.

Exceptional Leadership!
by Author Unknown

Lessons Learned from Oprah Winfrey

Whether you’re a fan or not, there is no doubt that Oprah Winfrey changes lives, starting with her own. As a real life rags-to-riches story and a self-made success, she knows the power of choice, living with courage, and following your dreams. She makes things happen.

Success leaves clues. Using Oprah’s words of wisdom and endless resources for information, we can add many patterns and practices for success to our personal knowledge base.

25 Lessons Learned from Oprah Winfrey

While I can’t possibly do justice to Oprah’s lifetime of contribution and service, what I can do is look for themes and patterns. I think the most important theme I noticed is that Oprah is a self-starter and she’s a visionary. Her determination and drive carry her forward, while her reflection and continuous growth help her redefine who she is and carry the best forward. It’s like a fine wine getting better with age. Here are 25 lessons from Oprah we can learn and model from:

1. Keep your dreams right in front of you.
Keep your eye on the prize and follow your dreams. Oprah is a fan of using your dreams as inspiration and guide for your choices in life. She’s recommended creating a vision board to map out what you really want.
2. Anyone can go from rags to riches.
No excuses. It’s not what you were born into; it’s what you do with what you’ve got. Oprah made herself who she is. No matter how bad your past was, it doesn’t need to limit your destiny unless you live in the past.
3. Surround yourself with an A-team.
Learn from the best. Find the mentors and coaches that can help you bring out your best. Oprah has a team of experts on her side. For health, Oprah has Dr. Mehmet Oz, Bob Greene, and Dr. Katz. For spirit, she has Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Elizabeth Lesser, and Martha Beck. For style, she has Val Monroe and Adam Glassman. For relationships, she has Lisa Kogan and Dr. Laura Bergman. For home, she has Nate Berkus, Peter Walsh, and Simran Sethi. For money, she has Suze Orman and Jean Chatzky. She’s worked with best-selling author, Eckhart Tolle and “relationship and life strategy expert,” Dr. Phil. Who’s in your corner? It doesn’t need to be somebody famous. You can learn from people in the past or in the present, from books, or in real life. “Stand on the shoulders of giants” instead of start from scratch.
4. Declutter your life.
Clean up your messes. This could be your house (and Oprah has plenty of resources for organizing and simplifying.) This could be your emotions. This could be your everyday schedule. Declutter to create space for opportunity, creativity, and a sense of well-being. Decluttering can help you get rid of the energy drains and chaos.
5. Live in a more conscious way.
Increase your awareness. Be mindful. Be in the moment. Make thoughtful choices. For example, don’t make emotional food choices. Improve your self-awareness.
6. Practice an attitude of gratitude.
Don’t have a sense of entitlement. Appreciate what you’ve got, what you get, and don’t take things for granted.
7. Make the most of what you’ve got.
Make the most of … your mind … your body … your emotions (including self-esteem and confidence) … your relationships … your home.
8. Embrace the body you’ve got.
Nourish your body. Look your best. Feel your best. Like it or not, your body is yours. Take care of it, so it can take care of you. After all, it needs to last you a life time.
9. Learn for life.
Nourish your mind. Reading is fundamental. Oprah is a firm believer in education and the power of know-how. In the words of Oprah, “Books were my pass to personal freedom. I learned to read at age three, and soon discovered there was a whole world to conquer that went beyond our farm in Mississippi.”
10. Live your best life.
Take responsibility. Be accountable to yourself and to your dreams. Don’t settle. Oprah has extensive resources to help you live your best life. Check out Live Your Best Life and Oprah’s Best Life Video Webcast Archive.
11. Live your own dreams.
Be true to you. Live your truths. At the end of the day, you’re the one that knows your hopes and dreams and can make them happen. Make sure they’re you’re dreams and not somebody else’s.
12. Enjoy your space.
Take care of your surroundings. According to Oprah, one of the best things you can ever give yourself is to have beautiful surroundings.
13. Don’t let fear hold you back.
Take bold action. Don’t let fear make your decisions for you.
14. Think you can.
If you believe, you can achieve. Build your confidence and your self-esteem, one small moment, one choice, or one private victory at a time.
15. Give back.
Oprah consistently demonstrates philanthropy and contribution. She’s effectively dedicated her life to helping other’s live their best life.
16. Keep it real.
She lives larger than life, but she’s human. She’s vulnerable. She has her flaws. She strives for a better life. She lives a life of continuous improvement.
17. Own it.
It’s your life. Don’t point fingers. Don’t play the blame game. Make your dreams happen.
18. Find your inner peace.
Drop the baggage. Forgive and forget. Another key here is self-knowledge and integrity. Be the person you say you are, forgive yourself when you aren’t, and lead the life you want to live.
19. Don’t give up.
Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t give up on you. Persistence pays off.
20. Be present.
Live in the now, with an eye to the future. Know the results you’re getting. If you don’t like what you’re getting, change your approach. The most important thing you can change first is your attitude.
21. Journal it.
Writing your thoughts can help you reflect and get a more objective look at things. There’s a lot to be said for thinking on paper, even if it’s simple as just organizing your thoughts. Your journal can help improve your self-talk and it can help remind you what you think is important. It can also help you declutter your emotions and your mind.
22. Life’s short.
It really is. As 25 years of the Oprah Winfrey Show ends, and a new chapter for Oprah begins, it’s another reminder that time is limited, life it short, and the best you can do is make the most of what you’ve got.
23. Live without ego.
Eckhart Tolle teaches us that our egos get in the way of living our best life, and Oprah reinforces this message. Through self-acceptance, living in the moment, finding our truths, and giving ourselves to a higher purpose, we unleash our best.
24. Savor the moments.
Savor your relationships. Savor your choices. Savor your food. Savor your joys. Take in your moments. Your moments make up your life.
25. Add fresh starts to your life.
Whether it’s a new day, a new week, a new month, a new year … or simply a new attitude, make it a fresh start. Find the ways to renew yourself, whether it’s a make-over for you or your house, and find the inspiration for a new lease on life.

Top 10 Oprah Winfrey Quotes
Oprah is a wealth of great quotes and she has many words of wisdom. You can learn a lot about her and her insights through her quotes. Here are my top 10 favorite Oprah quotes:

Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.
Every time you suppress some part of yourself or allow others to play you small, you are in essence ignoring the owner’s manual your creator gave you and destroying your design.
I knew there was a way out. I knew there was another kind of life because I had read about it. I knew there were other places, and there was another way of being.
The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.
The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance – and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.
Turn your wounds into wisdom.
We are each responsible for our own life – no other person is or even can be.
What I know is, is that if you do work that you love, and the work fulfills you, the rest will come.
What I know for sure is that if you want success, you can’t make success your goal. The key is not to worry about being successful, but to instead work toward being significant, and the success will naturally follow.
You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job, and not be paid for it.

Oprah Winfrey Quotes
I’ve included some of my favorite Oprah Winfrey quotes below. I’ve organized them using the following categories: General, Choice, Dreams / Destiny / Purpose, Giving / Gratitude, Growth, Fear / Failure, Identity / Individuality, Opportunity / Possibility, Passion / Energy, Relationships, and Success.

Oprah on General Philosophy
Excellence is the best deterrent to racism or sexism.
I define joy as a sustained sense of well-being and internal peace – a connection to what matters.
I think that when you invite people to your home, you invite them to yourself.
I still have my feet on the ground, I just wear better shoes.
In every aspect of our lives, we are always asking ourselves, How am I of value? What is my worth? Yet I believe that worthiness is our birthright.
It’s much easier for me to make major life, multi-million dollar decisions, than it is to decide on a carpet for my front porch. That’s the truth.
Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.
There’s no easy way out. If there were, I would have bought it. And believe me, it would be one of my favorite things!
Oprah on Choice
Be more splendid, more extraordinary. Use every moment to fill yourself up.
Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.
I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear.
I believe that uncertainty is really my spirit’s way of whispering, “I’m in flux. I can’t decide for you. Something is off-balance here.
I believe the choice to be excellent begins with aligning your thoughts and words with the intention to require more from yourself.
My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility.
With every experience, you alone are painting your own canvas, thought by thought, choice by choice.
Oprah on Dreams / Destiny / Purpose
Before you agree to do anything that might add even the smallest amount of stress to your life, ask yourself: What is my truest intention? Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you. When it’s right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it.
I believe that everyone is the keeper of a dream – and by tuning into one another’s secret hopes, we can become better friends, better partners, better parents, and better lovers.
I knew there was a way out. I knew there was another kind of life because I had read about it. I knew there were other places, and there was another way of being.
I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.
I trust that everything happens for a reason, even when we’re not wise enough to see it.
I’ve come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that’s as unique as a fingerprint – and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you.
It isn’t until you come to a spiritual understanding of who you are – not necessarily a religious feeling, but deep down, the spirit within – that you can begin to take control.
Often we don’t even realize who we’re meant to be because we’re so busy trying to live out someone else’s ideas. But other people and their opinions hold no power in defining our destiny.
The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.
The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance – and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.
Use what you have to run toward your best – that’s how I now live my life.
You can have it all. You just can’t have it all at once.
Oprah on Giving / Gratitude
Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.
I don’t think you ever stop giving. I really don’t. I think it’s an on-going process. And it’s not just about being able to write a check. It’s being able to touch somebody’s life.
I finally realized that being grateful to my body was key to giving more love to myself.
Living in the moment brings you a sense of reverence for all of life’s blessings.
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.
What I know for sure is that what you give comes back to you.
Oprah on Growth
Challenges are gifts that force us to search for a new center of gravity. Don’t fight them. Just find a different way to stand.
I am a woman in process. I’m just trying like everybody else. I try to take every conflict, every experience, and learn from it. Life is never dull.
Getting my lifelong weight struggle under control has come from a process of treating myself as well as I treat others in every way.
The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be.
You are built not to shrink down to less but to blossom into more.
Oprah on Fear / Failure
Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.
Every one of us gets through the tough times because somebody is there, standing in the gap to close it for us.
I believe that one of life’s greatest risks is never daring to risk.
I don’t believe in failure. It is not failure if you enjoyed the process.
I have a lot of things to prove to myself. One is that I can live my life fearlessly.
It is confidence in our bodies, minds and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures, new directions to grow in, and new lessons to learn – which is what life is all about.
So go ahead. Fall down. The world looks different from the ground.
The thing you fear most has no power. Your fear of it is what has the power. Facing the truth really will set you free.
Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.
You can take from every experience what it has to offer you. And you cannot be defeated if you just keep taking one breath followed by another.
Oprah on Identity / Individuality
All these years I’ve been feeling like I was growing into myself. Finally, I feel grown.
As you become more clear about who you really are, you’ll be better able to decide what is best for you … the first time around.
Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.
I always knew I was destined for greatness.
I don’t think of myself as a poor deprived ghetto girl who made good. I think of myself as somebody who from an early age knew I was responsible for myself, and I had to make good.
I’m black, I don’t feel burdened by it and I don’t think it’s a huge responsibility. It’s part of who I am. It does not define me.
If you come to fame not understanding who you are, it will define who you are.
Let your light shine. Shine within you so that it can shine on someone else. Let your light shine.
Partake of some of life’s sweet pleasures. And yes, get comfortable with yourself.
Though I am grateful for the blessings of wealth, it hasn’t changed who I am. My feet are still on the ground. I’m just wearing better shoes.
What we’re all striving for is authenticity, a spirit-to-spirit connection.
Oprah on Opportunity / Possibility
Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.
Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
Every day brings a chance for you to draw in a breath, kick off your shoes, and dance.
Every time you state what you want or believe, you’re the first to hear it. It’s a message to both you and others about what you think is possible. Don’t put a ceiling on yourself.
If you want your life to be more rewarding, you have to change the way you think.
When I look into the future, it’s so bright it burns my eyes.
Oprah on Passion / Energy
Energy is the essence of life. Every day you decide how you’re going to use it by knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus.
If you neglect to recharge a battery, it dies. And if you run full speed ahead without stopping for water, you lose momentum to finish the race.
Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.
Oprah on Relationships
Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.
My idea of heaven is a great big baked potato and someone to share it with.
Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
Oprah on Success
For every one of us that succeeds, it’s because there’s somebody there to show you the way out.
I feel that luck is preparation meeting opportunity.
If you want to accomplish the goals of your life, you have to begin with the spirit.
I’ve learned that you can’t have everything and do everything at the same time.
The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.
Unless you choose to do great things with it, it makes no difference how much you are rewarded, or how much power you have.
What material success does is provide you with the ability to concentrate on other things that really matter. And that is being able to make a difference, not only in your own life, but in other people’s lives.

6 Reasons your personality is important

 

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Good looks are nice and all, but they can’t hold a candle to a great personality. Your personality facilitates all the important moments in your life, and is what you are really remembered for. Remember how much it matters if you ever get too concerned about personal appearance. Here are six things in particular that make personality important.

1)Because personality is what makes you interesting

Your looks can’t make you interesting, at least not for long or not in a good way. Being interesting is how you grab people’s attention, making personality important virtually whenever you’re in a social setting. Think about the most interesting person you know, and the prettiest/most handsome person you know. Who would you rather be stuck in a room with? Being interesting is also not something that you can fake; just ask all the people who try and fail to do exactly that. Being interesting depends almost entirely on your personality, so if your personality is great then you’re all set.

2)Because personality can change

Even if you don’t have a great personality right now, you can acquire a better one by considering what you can do to become more likeble while, of course, always staying true to yourself. To contrast, you can’t acquire good looks, at least not naturally. That makes personality important in ways appearance can never be. Friends and family and partners want to see you grow as a person as you get older far more that they look forward to seeing you age. If you have a lot of anger buried inside you, for example, people close to you will be very pleased to see you change into a calmer person. No one’s going to be proud of you for getting wrinkles and grey hair.

3)Because personality is how we distinguish ourselves

There are probably hundreds of people across the world who look nearly identical to you. What makes personality important is that it’s what makes us one of a kind. Be the one of a kind you want to be by focusing on your inner qualities. There are a lot of people who haven’t done anything to develop their personalities, so they’re similar to hundreds of people in both looks and personality. A surfer dude with great abs can’t compare to someone with real stories to tell, for example.

4)Because personality can get you further romantically

When you’re trying to woo someone, a great personality is a key ingredient in getting their attention. Good looks may help you get into a conversation with a guy or girl you like, but if you have a boring personality the conversation is as far as it will go. Personality is important to continue that relationship beyond that first meet.

5)Because personality can get you further professionally.

A great personality can help you progress in your career as well as your social and love life. Employers will want to hire you if you have a good rapport with them. Once you have the job, the personality is important to getting in your boss good graces. Again, if you have a good personality the’ll want to spend time with you, which gets you through more doors than you could if you personality wasn’t up to par.

6)Because personality doesn’t fade away

Good looks don’t last. Eventually you grow old and gray; nothing can stop that. What makes personality important is the fact that it will stick with you, even when you’re an old, old man or woman. It will even stay with you after you die. No one remembers someone who passed away by thinking about how handsome they were. They reminisce on the good times they had with them, made possible because of their compatible personalities.

 

 

The Wife

“You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are.”

So many times i called her weak for her intense emotional reactions towards different things…Told her to grow up, “be a woman”, “stop being so insecure”….I’m so hard on the wife and oftentimes disconnected, because the strength i thought she needed, i couldn’t  see that she already had it. I confused her love and weakness for me, for lack of strength as a woman…Twice i watched her give birth to nearly 4kg babies, without epidurals and minimum assistance… i watch her come home everyday to a 3yr with absolutely no chill whatsoever , after a 12hr shift, and have to stay up with her despite being tired. Even with all that she rarely complains and deals with my issues. How could i be so stupid, to see “weakness” within all of this?? Today, when i walked into  the living room and saw this i realized just how much of a fool I AM… We miss what’s there in plain sight because we become fixated on the fantasy….Sometimes you just have to remove the spec from your own eye! I thank God for my wife, for the ups and downs, and everyday lessons and the strength she has that i was blind to see. I am grateful for the revelation that today has brought.