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My Best Motivational Quotes!

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”

“What lies behind us and what lies in front of us pales in comparison to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Whether you need to defeat procrastination or inspire your inner fire, motivational quotes can help you get your inner mojo going again.

Motivational quotes move us.  

As a son who has just recently buried my father, I’ve had to master motivation.  Mastering motivation is a journey.  I’ve learned that motivational quotes are your best friends for the journey.   This is my collection of the best motivational quotes ever.

Use these quotes to inspire your lifefire you up right now, and inspire you every day.  And use these quotes to build a better mindset, skillset, and toolset so you can motivate yourself and others with skill.

Motivation is a skill you can practice.

To change your motivation, change your language, and to change your language learn the best motivational quotes of all time.  I’ve included motivational quotes by some of the world’s best motivational masters including Brian Tracy, Bruce Lee, Tony Robbins, Zig Zigglar and more.

Top 10 Motivational Quotes

Let’s start this list off right, with the 10 best motivational quotes:

  1. “Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.” – William B. Sprague
  2. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
  3. “I get knocked down. But I get up again. You’re never going to keep me down.” – Chumbawamba
  4. “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” — Winston Churchill
  5. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  8. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” — Henry David Thoreau

Short Motivational Quotes

  1. “Begin anywhere.” — John Cage
  2. “Dreams don’t work unless you do.” — John Maxwell
  3. “Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded there.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer
  4. “H.O.P.E. = Hold On. Pain Ends.” — Anonymous
  5. “Make each day your masterpiece.” — John Wooden
  6. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine? And shadows will fall behind you.” — Walt Whitman
  7. “Turn your wounds into wisdom.” – Oprah Winfrey
  8. “Wherever you go, go with all your heart.” — Confucius
  9. “We can do anything we want to if we stick to it long enough.” — Helen Keller
  10. “What defines us is how well we rise after falling.” — Lionel Bloch, Maid in Manhattan

Deep Motivational Quotes

  1. “As long as you live, keep learning how to live.” — Seneca
  2. “At any given moment you have the power to say: this is not how the story is going to end.” — Unknown
  3. “Be a voice, not an echo.” — Albert Einstein
  4. “Death comes to all, but great achievements build a monument which shall endure until the sun grows cold.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  5. “Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” — Robert Louis Stevenson
  6. “Don’t wish it were easier. Wish you were better.” — Jim Rohn
  7. “I want to be all used up when I die.” — George Bernard Shaw
  8. “I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy- I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it.” — Art Williams
  9. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.” – Walt Whitman
  10. “Let him who would move the world, first move himself.” – Socrates
  11. “Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” — Maya Angelou
  12. “Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” — Stephen R. Covey
  13. “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.” — Earl Nightingale
  14. “Remember that failure is an event, not a person.” — Zig Ziglar
  15. “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
  16. “Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” — Saint Francis
  17. “The big lesson in life is never be scared of anyone or anything.” — Frank Sinatra
  18. “The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.” — Dorothy Parker
  19. “What we believe will always be more powerful than what’s real.” – Sean Aeon
  20. “When someone says you can’t do it, do it twice and take pictures.” — Unknown
  21. “When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” — Paulo Coelho
  22. “Wherever you go, go with all your heart.” — Confucius
  23. “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.” — Albert Einstein
  24. “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” — Jim Rohn

Best Motivational Quotes for Getting Started

  1. “Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” — John R. Wooden
  2. “Just do it.” — Nike
  3. “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” — Arthur Ashe
  4. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” — Mark Twain
  5. “The wise does at once what the fool does at last.” — Baltasar Gracian
  6. “What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.” — Ralph Marston
  7. “You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.” — Henry Ford

Monday Motivational Quotes

  1. “All Motivation Mondays need are a little more coffee and a lot more mascara.” — Unknown
  2. “Goodbye, blue Monday.” — Kurt Vonnegut
  3. “I’m alive, motivated and ready to slay the day #MONSLAY.” — Unknown
  4. “It was a Monday and they walked on a tightrope to the sun.” — Marcus Zusak
  5. “It’s Monday … time to motivate and make dreams and goals happen. Let’s go!” — Heather Stillufsen
  6. “Monday c’est Mon Day.” — Unknown
  7. “One day or day one. You decide.” — Unknown
  8. “So. Monday. We meet again. We will never be friends—but maybe we can move past our mutual enmity toward a more positive partnership.” — Julio-Alexi Genao
  9. “When life gives you Monday, dip it in glitter and sparkle all day.” — Ella Woodword

Friday Motivational Quotes

  1. “Don’t worry about letting the dogs out. It’s Friday! Let them have a great weekend, too.” — Anthony Hincks
  2. “Every Friday, I like to high five myself for getting through another week on little more than caffeine, willpower, and inappropriate humor.” — Nanea Hoffman
  3. “Fridays are the hardest in some ways: you’re so close to freedom.” — Lauren Oliver
  4. “Friday sees more smiles than any other day of the workweek!” — Kate Summers
  5. “I challenge you to let every day be a Friday. Permit yourself to be happy every day.” — Joel Osteen
  6. “It’s Friday morning, mankind! Good vibe, don’t frown and let the monster see you smile!” — Napz Cherub Pellazo
  7. “Make Friday a day to celebrate work well done that you can be proud of knowing that you just didn’t put in time to the next paycheck.” — Byron Pulsifer
  8. “Oh! It’s Friday again. Share the love that was missing during the week. In a worthy moment of peace and bliss.” — S. O’Sade
  9. “This Friday, finish your work and be done. Look forward to the weekend and have some fun!” — Kate Summers
  10. “When you leave work on Friday, leave work. Don’t let technology follow you throughout your weekend (answering text messages and emails). Take a break. You will be more refreshed to begin the workweek if you have had a break.” — Catherine Pulsifer

Best Motivational Quotes for Entrepreneurship

  1. “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” — Walt Disney
  2. “Chase the vision, not the money, the money will end up following you.” — Tony Hsieh
  3. “Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” — Mary Kay Ash
  4. “Embrace what you don’t know, especially in the beginning, because what you don’t know can become your greatest asset. It ensures that you will absolutely be doing things different from everybody else.” — Sara Blakely
  5. “Everyone has an idea, but it’s really about executing the idea and attracting other people to help you with the idea.” — Jack Dorsey
  6. “I wake up every morning and think to myself, ‘How far can I push this company in the next 24 hours.’” — Leah Busque
  7. “If people are doubting how far you can go, go so far that you can’t hear them anymore.” — Michele Ruiz
  8. “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” — Tony Robbins
  9. “If you think that you are going to love something, give it a try. You’re going to kick yourself in the butt for the rest of your life if you don’t.” — Joe Penna
  10. “In the middle of difficulty, lies opportunities.” — Albert Einstein
  11. “It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.” — Babe Ruth
  12. “It’s not about ideas. It’s about making ideas happen.” — Scott Belsky
  13. “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan
  14. “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.” — Napoleon Hill
  15. “Only the paranoid survive.” — Andy Grove
  16. “Openly share and talk to people about your idea. Use their lack of interest or doubt to fuel your motivation to make it happen.” — Todd Garland
  17. “Risk more than others think is safe. Dream more than others think is practical.” — Howard Schultz
  18. “The art of leadership is saying no, not yes. It is very easy to say yes.” — Tony Blair
  19. “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.” — Chinese Proverb
  20. “The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” — Mark Zuckerberg
  21. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”  — Mark Twain
  22. “The way to get started is to quit talking and start doing.” — Walt Disney
  23. “There’s lots of bad reasons to start a company. But there’s only one good, legitimate reason, and I think you know what it is: it’s to change the world.” — Phil Libin
  24. “Waiting for perfect is never as smart as making progress.” — Seth Godin
  25. “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes?understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” — Arianna Huffington
  26. “When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” — Henry Ford
  27. “When I’m old and dying, I plan to look back on my life and say ‘wow, that was an adventure,’ not ‘wow, I sure felt safe.” — Tom Preston-Werner
  28. “Write it. Shoot it. Publish it. Crochet it. Sauté it. Whatever. MAKE.” — Joss Whedon
  29. “Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.” – Bill Gates
  30. “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” — Steve Jobs

Best Motivational Quotes for Students

  1. “Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t.” — Bill Nye
  2. “Learning is like rowing upstream: not to advance is to drop back.” — Chinese proverb
  3. “Learning is never done without errors and defeat.” — Vladimir Lenin
  4. “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi
  5. “Life itself is your teacher, and you are in a state of constant learning.” — Bruce Lee
  6. “Success is a poor teacher.” — Robert Kiyosaki
  7. “Study without desire spoils the memory, and it retains nothing that it takes in.” — Leonardo da Vinci
  8. “That is never too often repeated, which is never sufficiently learned.” — Seneca
  9. “The highest activity a human being can attain is learning for understanding, because to understand is to be free.” — Baruch Spinoza
  10. “The learned man knows that he is ignorant.” –– Victor Hugo
  11. “They cannot stop me. I will get my education, if it is in the home, school, or anyplace.” — Malala Yousafzai
  12. “To accuse others for one’s own misfortunes is a sign of want of education. To accuse oneself shows that one’s education has begun. To accuse neither oneself nor others shows that one’s education is complete.” – Epictetus
  13. “We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.” – Lloyd Alexander
  14. “Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it.” — Albert Einstein
  15. “Who questions much, shall learn much, and retain much.” – Francis Bacon
  16. “You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backward into safety.” – Abraham Maslow

Best Motivational Quotes for Work

  1. “A hero is born among a hundred, a wise man is found among a thousand, but an accomplished one might not be found even among a hundred thousand men.” — Plato
  2. “Achievement results from work realizing ambition.” — Adam Ant
  3. “Amateurs sit around and wait for inspiration. The rest of us just get up and go to work.” — Stephen King
  4. “Big thinking precedes great achievement.” — Wilferd A. Peterson
  5. “Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work in hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” — Alexander Graham Bell
  6. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’” — Mary Anne Radmacher
  7. “Either you run the day or the day runs you.” — Jim Rohn
  8. “Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded there.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer
  9. “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.” — Tim Notke
  10. “High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.” — Charles Kettering
  11. “I didn’t get there by wishing for it, but by working for it.” — Estee Lauder
  12. “I want to be all used up when I die.” — George Bernard Shaw
  13. “If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.” — Napoleon Hill
  14. “If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.” — Olin Miller
  15. “If you’ll not settle for anything less than your best, you will be amazed at what you can accomplish in your lives.” — Vince Lombardi
  16. “Never stop doing your best just because someone doesn’t give you credit.” — Kamari aka Lyrikal
  17. “Nothing will work unless you do.” — Maya Angelou
  18. “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” — Thomas Edison
  19. “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.” — Dale Carnegie
  20. “Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.” — Dwayne Johnson
  21. “The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” — Oscar Wilde
  22. “The miracle is not that we do this work, but that we are happy to do it.” — Mother Teresa
  23. “The only difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.” — Jimmy Johnson
  24. “The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret.” — Nido Qubein
  25. “This is the real secret of life — to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.” — Alan Wilson Watts
  26. “Well done is better than well said.” — Benjamin Franklin
  27. “Winners compare their achievements with their goals, while losers compare their achievements with those of other people.” — Nido Qubein
  28. Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive.” — Leah LaBelle
  29. “You can control two things: your work ethic and your attitude about anything.” — Ali Krieger
  30. “You don’t get paid for the hour. You get paid for the value you bring to the hour.” — Jim Rohn
  31. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”  — Steve Jobs

Best Motivational Quotes on Taking Action

  1. “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” — William James
  2. “Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.” — Albert Schweitzer
  3. “Either you run the day or the day runs you.” — Jim Rohn
  4. “Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.” — Benjamin Disraeli
  5. “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” — Anne Frank
  6. “If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. That is where they should be. Now put the foundation under them.” — Henry David Thoreau
  7. “Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.”  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  8. “Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.” — Peter Marshall
  9. “Step by step and the thing is done.” — Charles Atlas
  10. “The more we do the more we can do.” — William Hazlitt
  11. “Time is the coin of life. Only you can determine how it will be spent.” — Carl Sandburg
  12. “To talk goodness is not good… only to do it is.” — Chinese proverb
  13. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” — Will Durant
  14. “Well done is better than well said.” — Benjamin Franklin
  15. “Words are plentiful; deeds are precious.” – – Lech Walesa
  16. “Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.” — Voltaire

Best Motivational Quotes on Attitude

  1. “A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing.” — Oscar Wilde
  2. “A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.” – – Earl Nightingale
  3. “Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” ? Roy Bennett, The Light in the Heart
  4. “Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” — Lou Holtz
  5. “Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill.” – – Charles Swindoll
  6. “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” — Wayne Dyer
  7. “Character is the result of two things: mental attitude and the way we spend our time.” — Elbert Green Hubbard
  8. “Don’t take yourself too seriously. And don’t be too serious about not taking yourself too seriously.” — Howard Ogden
  9. “Eagles come in all shapes and sizes, but you will recognize them chiefly by their attitudes.” — Charles Prestwich Scott
  10. “Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.” — Martin Luther King Jr.
  11. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” — Victor E. Frankl
  12. “Funny is an attitude.” — Flip Wilson
  13. “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” — Maya Angelou
  14. “It is not the position, but the disposition.”  J. E. Dinger
  15. “Mental attitude is more important than mental capacity.” — Walter Dill Scott
  16. “Minds are like parachutes – they only function when open.” — Thomas Dewar
  17. “Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.” — Earl Nightingale
  18. “The real voyage of discovery consists not in making new landscapes but in having new eyes.” — Marcel Proust
  19. “You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” — Plato

Best Motivational Quotes on Boldness

  1. “Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.” — W. Clement Stone
  2. “Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.” — William James
  3. “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” — Theodore Roosevelt
  4. “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day, saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” — Mary Anne Radmacher
  5. “Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  6. “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” — George Adair
  7. “Fortune favors the brave.” — Publius Terence
  8. “Fortune sides with him who dares.” — Virgil
  9. “Go for it now. The future is promised to no one.” — Wayne Dyer
  10. “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” — Albert Einstein
  11. “He who hesitates is lost.”  Proverb
  12. “If you can dream it, you can do it.” — Walt Disney
  13. “Leap, and the net will appear.”  — John Burroughs
  14. “Opportunities don’t happen, you create them.” — Chris Grosser
  15. “Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.” — George S. Patton
  16. “We are still masters of our fate.  We are still captains of our souls.” — Winston Churchill
  17. “When it’s time to die, let us not discover that we have never lived.” Henry David Thoreau
  18. “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” — Wayne Gretzky

Best Motivational Quotes on Challenges and Changes

  1. “Change is not merely necessary to life – it is life.” — Alvin Toffler
  2. “Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.” — Alfred A. Montapert
  3. “Kites rise highest against the wind; not with it.” — Winston Churchill
  4. “Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.” — Samuel Johnson
  5. “Only I can change my life. No one else can do it for me.” — Carol Burnett
  6. “The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.” — Winston Churchill
  7. “Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” — George Bernard Shaw

Best Motivational Quotes on Determination and Persistence

  1. “Always look at what you have left.  Never look at what you have lost.” — Robert H. Schuller
  2. “Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” — Thomas Jefferson
  3. “Don’t watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going.” — Sam Levenson
  4. “Either I will find a way, or I will make one.” — Philip Sidney
  5. “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” — Samuel Beckett
  6. “Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” — Og Mandino
  7. “I’ve failed over and over and over again. And that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan
  8. “If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.” — H. G. Wells
  9. “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” — Confucius
  10. “Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” — Jim Ryun
  11. “Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” — Harriet Beecher Stowe
  12. “Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” — Mary Shelley
  13. “Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.” — Confucius
  14. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” — Thomas A. Edison
  15. “Pursue one great decisive aim with force and determination.” — Carl von Clausewitz
  16. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” — Robert Collier
  17. “The best way out is always through.” — Robert Frost
  18. “You just can’t beat the person who never gives up.” — Babe Ruth
  19. “Your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.” — Abraham Lincoln

Best Motivational Quotes on Fear

  1. “Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.” — Helen Keller
  2. “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”  — Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
  3. “Don’t let the fear of striking out hold you back.” —Babe Ruth
  4. “Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” — Judy Blume
  5. “Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” — Yoda
  6. “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” —Dale Carnegie
  7. “Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.” — Thich Nhat Hanh
  8. “Have no fear of perfection–you’ll never reach it.” — Salvador Dali
  9. “He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  10. “I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning how to sail my ship.” — Louisa May Alcott
  11. “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” — Marie Curie
  12. “One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.”
    Henry Ford
  13. “The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” — Nelson Mandela
  14. “The key to change… is to let go of fear.” — Roseanne Cash
  15. “We should all start to live before we get too old. Fear is stupid. So are regrets.” — Marilyn Monroe
  16. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Best Motivational Quotes on Greatness

  1. “Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.” — Og Mandino
  2. “Don’t put a limit on what can be accomplished.” — Christopher Reeve
  3. “I’d rather attempt to do something great and fail, than to attempt nothing and succeed.” — Robert H. Schuller
  4. “It’s great to be great, but its greater to be human.” — Will Rogers
  5. “Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.” — Theodore Roosevelt
  6. “The first key to greatness is to be in reality what we appear to be.” — Socrates
  7. “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” — William James
  8. “The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.” — Arthur C. Clarke
  9. “The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.”— Confucius
  10. “To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.” — Muhammad Ali
  11. “Try not to be a person of success, but rather a person of virtue.”  Albert Einstein
  12. “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”— Albert Einstein

Best Motivational Quotes on Optimism

  1. “A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.” — Herm Albright
  2. “Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.” — Hans Selye
  3. “An optimist is a person who sees a green light everywhere. The pessimist sees only the red light. But the truly wise person is color blind.” — Dr. Albert Schweitzer
  4. “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.” — Helen Adams Keller
  5. “Optimism means expecting the best, but confidence means knowing how to handle the worst. Never make a move if you are merely optimistic.” — The Zurich Axioms
  6. “The best way to cheer yourself up: Cheer everybody else up.” — Mark Twain
  7. “The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind.” — Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
  8. “Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” — John Wooden
  9. “To different minds, the same world is a hell, and a heaven.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anonymous Motivational Quotes

  1. “Sometimes we are limited more by attitude than by opportunities.” — Anonymous
  2. “A healthy attitude is contagious but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier.” — Anonymous
  3. “Although fate presents the circumstances, how you react depends on your character.” — Anonymous
  4. “Attitude determines altitude.” — Anonymous
  5. “Take charge of your attitude. Don’t let someone else choose it for you.” — Anonymous
  6. “Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?” — Anonymous
  7. “People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.” — Anonymous

Brian Tracy Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Your attitude is an expression of your values, beliefs and expectations.” — Brain Tracy
  2. “Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other.” — Brain Tracy
  3. “If you did not care at all what anyone else thought about you, what would you do differently or change in your life?” — Brain Tracy
  4. “Make a game of finding something positive in every situation. Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.” — Brain Tracy
  5. “Whatever is expressed is impressed. Whatever you say to yourself, with emotion, generates thoughts, ideas and behaviors consistent with those words.”— Brain Tracy

Bruce Lee Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” — Bruce Lee
  2. “As you think, so shall you become.” — Bruce Lee
  3. “Ever since I was a child, I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.” — Bruce Lee
  4. “A goal is not always meant to be reached; it often serves simply as something to aim at.” — Bruce Lee
  5. “All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.” — Bruce Lee
  6. “Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” — Bruce Lee
  7. “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” — Bruce Lee
  8. “If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” — Bruce Lee
  9. “If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.” — Bruce Lee
  10. “If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” — Bruce Lee
  11. “It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.” — Bruce Lee
  12. “Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.” — Bruce Lee
  13. “Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.” — Bruce Lee
  14. “Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.” — Bruce Lee
  15. “Real living is living for others.” — Bruce Lee
  16. “Take things as they are. Punch when you have to punch. Kick when you have to kick.” — Bruce Lee
  17. “The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.” — Bruce Lee

Jim Rohn Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.” — Jim Rohn
  2. “Humans have the remarkable ability to get exactly what they must have. But there is a difference between a ‘must’ and ‘want.’” — Jim Rohn
  3. “Motivation alone is not enough. If you have an idiot and you motivate him, now you have a motivated idiot.” — Jim Rohn
  4. “My suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don’t and join the 10% who do.” — Jim Rohn
  5. “The best motivating is self-motivating. The guy says, “I wish someone would come by and turn me on. “What if they don’t show up? You’ve got to have a better plan for your life.” — Jim Rohn
  6. “When you know what you want, and you want it badly enough, you’ll find a way to get it.” — Jim Rohn
  7. “Without a sense of urgency, desire loses its value.” — Jim Rohn

Ralph Waldo Emerson Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  2. “A chief event of life is the day in which we have encountered a mind that startled us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  3. “We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  4. “A good indignation brings out all one’s powers.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  5. “A great part of courage is the courage of having done the thing before.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  6. “A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  7. “A man is what he thinks about all day long.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  8. “A man’s growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  9. “Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  10. “All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  11. “Always do what you are afraid to do.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  12. “As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  13. “As a cure for worrying, work is better than whiskey.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  14. “An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  15. “As soon as there is life there is danger.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  16. “Beauty without expression is boring.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  17. “Before we acquire great power, we must acquire wisdom to use it well.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  18. “Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  19. “Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  20. “Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  21. “Each age, it is found, must write its own books; or rather, each generation for the next succeeding.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  22. “Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great ever achieved.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  23. “Ever artist was first an amateur.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  24. “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tony Robbins Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Live with passion.” — Tony Robbins
  2. “Stay committed to your decisions but stay flexible in your approach.” — Tony Robbins
  3. “It not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.” — Tony Robbins
  4. “Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” — Tony Robbins
  5. “Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” — Tony Robbins
  6. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” — Tony Robbins
  7. “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” — Tony Robbins

Zig Ziglar Best Motivational Quotes

  1. “Of all the ‘attitudes’ we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.” — Zig Ziglar
  2. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” — Zig Ziglar
  3. “Positive thinking won’t let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.” — Zig Ziglar
  4. “To respond is positive, to react is negative.” — Zig Ziglar
  5. “When you choose to be pleasant and positive in the way you treat others, you have also chosen, in most cases, how you are going to be treated by others.” — Zig Ziglar
  6. “You can disagree without being disagreeable.” — Zig Ziglar
  7. “I’ve got to say ‘no’ to the good to say, ‘yes’ to the best.” — Zig Ziglar
  8. “You cannot tailor make the situations in life, but you can tailor make the attitudes to fit those situations before they arise.” — Zig Ziglar

“Smile Because It Happened”– Best Motivational Quote Ever

I’ve found I can use this quote to reflect on the past– or to inspire myself to give my all for the future.

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”
— Dr. Seuss

Sometimes, the best thing you can do to find your greatest motivation, is to dig deep, practice your attitude of gratitude, and appreciate all you can:

“Dare to Be”–Best Motivational Quote for Greatness

Dare to Be is one of the greatest motivational quotes of all time that reminds you to dare to do what’s hard:

“Dare to Be
When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.
When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.
When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.
When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.
When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.
When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.
Dare to be the best you can –
At all times, Dare to be!”

“Live Without the Fear of Death in Your Heart”–Best Motivational Quote for Living and Loving Life

“So, live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart.

Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours.
Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life.

Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people.
Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide.

Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, even a stranger, when in a lonely place.
Show respect to all people and grovel to none.

When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living.
If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself.

Abuse no one and no thing, for abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision.

When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes, they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way.

Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”
— Chief Tecumseh

“It’s Not the Critic Who Counts”–Best Motivational Quote for Standing Strong When Tested

Here is one of the most inspiring motivational quotes of all time to help you back up when you get knocked down:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
— Theodore Roosevelt

When critics try to knock you down, remember you are the one in the arena.

YOU’LL GET THROUGH IT!

Have you heard of the story of the old farmer whose mule fell into a well? Since there was no way to get him out the farmer decided to bury him there. But the mule had a different idea. Initially when shovels of dirt began landing on him, he became hysterical. Then this thought struck him; “Just shake it off and step on it,” So he did. Hour after hour as the dirt fell on him, he kept telling himself, “Just shake it off and step on it,” No matter how much dirt they threw on him, he just kept shaking it off and stepping on it – until finally he stepped triumphantly out of the well.
Life will either bless you or bury you; the difference lies in having the right attitude. When they throw dirt on you, and they will, just shake it off and step on it. Use it as fertilizer and grow stronger. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. What’s important is not what others say about you – it’s what you say to yourself after they get through talking! Offenses will come, so expect them. People will take from you without giving back. They’ll criticize you for simply rising above your beginnings. When you decide to seize the moment and move ahead, you’ll leave others behind and some of them won’t be too happy about it. But then again that is why life is unfair. The solution is to ignore the negative people and focus all your energy on positive vibes and how to use that positive energy to attain your dream goals.

Transmuting Adversity Into A Benefit

Every adversity, every unpleasant experience, every failure, carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit. Search for this seed when you meet with any form of defeat. Examine every adversity carefully. You will discover that it has a potential benefit for you far in excess of that which you lost through the experience. Explore this benefit, make the most of it, and you will discover one of the most profound of all the success principles. You will have learned how to convert stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

THE BEST ADVICE EVER

  • You Need To Start

This is your only life

It’s too short to keep putting off doing what you want to do

Live your life for you, not anyone else.

  • Your Environment Is Crucial

Regardless of how disciplined or motivated you are

If you’re in the wrong environment you’ll never get anything done.

  • Be Ready To Pivot

Things change, plans fall through and life happens.

Be ready and willing to pivot when chasing your goals according to the feedback you’re getting.

  • Be A Book Worm

I love reading, I love learning

But too much reading and not enough doing is just like binge-watching YouTube.

Read, apply, and repeat.

  • You Need To Be Selfish

You can’t pour from an empty cup

So be selfish, fill your cup first and then you can be selfless and pour into others.

  • The Gym Is Preparation

In the gym, your mind is telling you to quit the whole time

By not quitting, you’re building your mental fortitude and resilience in preparation for life.

  • You Can’t Stop Learning

The moment you stop learning, you stop progressing

Acquire new knowledge, learn new skills, apply, progress, and repeat.

  • Not  Everyone Wants You To Win

Learn to recognize those that truly want the best for you and those that don’t.

Cut out the latter.

  • Risk Is A Part Of Life

Whether you’re taking a new job, starting your own business or moving to a new country

Anything that has the potential to improve your life involves risk.

Embrace it.

  • Challenge Your Beliefs

Why do you belief something? Because your parents told you? Because the news told you?

Challenge what you believe, be willing to listen to opposing opinions and always be ready to learn.

  • Money Can Buy Happiness

Money can buy you time freedom,

Location freedom and most importantly/

The opportunity to do what actually makes you happy.

  • You Need Discomfort

Whether it’s physical discomfort in the gym or mental discomfort when chasing your goals.

Embracing discomfort is the key to long- term fulfillment.

  • Failure Isn’t Final

Failure is nothing but a sign telling you which direction not to go.

Stop treating it like a never – ending red light.

  • Consistency Always Wins

Talented but not consistent?

You’ll fail

Hardworking but not consistent?

You’ll fail

So long as you have consistency – You’ll win Eventually.

How To Use Regrets to Improve Your Future Self

“For of all sad words of tongue or pen, The saddest are these: ‘It might have been!”?John Greenleaf Whittier

You can use your regents to improve your Future Self.

Regrets can really hold you back in life, especially if you keep reliving the past.

Chances are that if you look back on your past 10 years, that if you knew then what you know now, there are things you would have done differently.

Maybe you would have saved more money, taken better care of your health, spent more time with loved ones, etc.

While you can’t change the past, you can change your Future Self.

Your Future Self represents the person you want to become.

By using self-compassion and a framework for regrets, you can stop living your life based on who you’ve been.

Your regrets become a backbone for your personal growth and transformation.

Your regrets set the stage for who you become.

We Spend a Lot of Time Thinking About Regrets

A regret is when you are sorrowful or mournful of a past mistake or decision.

How often do you spend time regretting your past mistakes?

It seems very natural and very human to dwell on the past.  Below are results of a case study carried out.

When asked “How often do you look back on your life and wish you had done things differently?”, here are the results:

“Only 1 percent of our respondents said that they never engage in such behavior—and fewer than 17 percent do it rarely.

Meanwhile, about 43 percent report doing it frequently or all the time.

In all, a whopping 82 percent say that this activity is at least occasionally part of their lives, making Americans far more likely to experience regret than they are to floss their teeth.”

That’s a lot of people walking around wishing they’d done things differently.

The good news is that you can break this pattern and use regret in a more skillful way, as you’ll learn in this article.

Your Future Self Represents Opportunity

Before we go into regrets, let’s first really understand why Future Self is such an important concept.

The science says that when we feel connected to our Future Self, we treat ourselves better, make better choices that affect our relationships, our finances, and our mental well-being.

Even more interesting is that the science says that when it comes to our Future Self, we really underestimate the amount of change that we can make in a 10 year span.

While the rate of change might slow down, it doesn’t slow down nearly as much as we think.

We can change our friends, favorite vacations, and musicians. But the real surprise is that we can change our values and even our personalities.

Nothing is set in stone.

Review Your Regrets with a Growth Mindset

One of the reasons that regrets can really sting, is because we feel like stuck.

That’s a Fixed mindset.

A Fixed mindset is where you believe you believe your intelligence and skills are basically set. It’s a self-imposed limit where you believe you are either good or bad at something based on what you were born with.

A Growth mindset is the opposite and it can be your ticket to a brand new life of possibilities and potential.

The fundamental belief of a Growth mindset is:

“You can learn and you get better.”

Here is the essence of a Growth mindset according to Carol Dweck, Ph.D:

“In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point.

This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.”

If you review your regrets with a Growth mindset, you open the door for continuous improvement.

And when you combine this with your Future Self, you become limitless.

Grow from Your Regrets

Sometimes regret acts like an anchor or a chain that holds you back or holds you down and wears you out.

Other times, regret serves to motivate and inspire you to make big changes in your life.

What’s the difference between these two paths?

According to researchers at UC Berkeley, self-compassion is the difference that makes the difference.

In fact, according to Kristin Neff, self-compassion trumps self-esteem. Self-esteem has several traps including narcissism, self-absorption, self-righteous anger, prejudice, disruption, etc.

Self-compassion has all the benefits of high self-esteem without its drawbacks.

Neff defines self-compassion as 3 core components:

  1. Self-kindness – be gentle and understanding of yourself, rather than critical and judgmental.
  2. Common humanity – feeling connected with others in the experience of life, rather than alone and alienated by our suffering.
  3. Mindfulness – hold our experience in balanced awareness versus ignoring our pain or exaggerating it.

You can’t grow if you can’t acknowledge your own weaknesses.

And you don’t’ grow by beating yourself up or tearing yourself down, either.

According to Neff, a better way to grow is to stop judging and evaluating yourself altogether. Stop trying to label yourself as “good” or “bad”, and accept yourself with an “open heart”, like you would a good friend.

By practicing self-compassion and going easier on yourself, you’ll experience less anxiety, less anxiety, and more peace of mind.

4 Types of Regrets

Regrets can be a wide open topic.  I find it helpful to use a framework to think about regrets in a more deliberate way.

You draw from 4 different types of regrets to identify different types of behavior changes.

In the book, The Power of Regret, Dan Pink identifies the following 4 types of regrets:

  1. Foundation Regrets – “If I’d only done the work.”
  2. Boldness Regrets – “If only I’d taken that risk…”
  3. Moral Regrets – “If I’d only done the right thing…”
  4. Connection Regrets – “If only I’d reached out…”

Foundation Regrets are when you let yourself down because you didn’t do the work.  That could be anything from you didn’t practice your instrument, or you didn’t study the way you knew you should.

It might mean you didn’t make the most of the job you had, or that you didn’t put in the effort to learn something new.

Boldness Regrets are where you didn’t step up to the plate when you could.  You shied away from things either through fear or a lack of courage.

You didn’t feel the fear and do it anyway.

Moral Regrets can be anything where you didn’t do the right thing, when you had a choice.  This is your chance to identify your behaviors and change your ways.

Connection Regrets are where you didn’t stay in touch or you didn’t let somebody know what they really meant to you.

This is why when somebody unexpectedly loses a love one, they might tell people they love them, a little more often, and a little more freely.

The Top 5 Regret of the Dying

You can learn about some of life’s deepest regrets from what people say they regret when they are on their death bed.

In the book, Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing, Bronnie Ware shares  the short-list of what people regret the most when they are on their deathbed.

Here are the top 5 regrets of the dying at a glance:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Notice how #4 on the list is effectively a Connection Regret.

You can use this insight to help inform behaviors and habits that you want to adopt today.

Again, your Future Self will thank you for it.

9 Choices Your Future Self Will Regret

While knowing the top 5 regrets of the dying can be helpful, you ultimately need to figure out the regrets that resonate with you.

In the article, 9 Choices Your Future Self Will Definitely Regret, the author identifies a short list of potential regrets:

  1. Letting other people shape your world
  2. Sticking to your bad old habits
  3. Giving up
  4. Hiding your real self (behind a mask)
  5. Constantly waiting for the right time
  6. Tolerating negative energy
  7. Striving to control every little thing
  8. Not taking care of your health
  9. Being lazy

This is the stuff that New Years Resolutions, vision boards, and every day goal setting are born from.

The beauty is that all of these are choices you can control.

The Grant Study

When it comes to big regrets in life, we can learn from the Grant Study.

The Grant Study is a study of 268 men for 75 years to learn about happiness and how to live a good life.

Here’s how George Vaillant, the director of the Grant Study, summarized the findings:

“Happiness is love. Full Stop.”

Vaillant says that while Virgil taught us the power of love long ago, now we have the data:

“The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points, at least to me, to a straightforward five-word conclusion:

‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’

Virgil, of course, needed only three words to say the same thing, and he said them a very long time ago— Omnia vincit amor, love conquers all— but unfortunately he had no data to back them up.”

As you can see from the study, in terms of the 4 types of regrets, Connection Regrets are a big deal.

In fact, here is what Dan Pink had to say about the Grant Study in his book The Power of Regret:

“Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives…

Those ties protect people from life’s discontents, help to delay mental and physical decline, and are better predictors of long and happy lives than social class, IQ, or even genes.”

In many ways you might say, the quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.

The Terman Study

We can also learn about big regrets in life from the Terman Study.

The Terman Study is an ongoing study that started in 1921 with 1528 children and it’s another study to figure out what makes us happy and how to live a good life.

Friedman and Martin write:

“The qualities and lifestyles cultivated by people on these life-long paths reflect an active pursuit of goals, deep satisfaction with life, and a strong sense of accomplishment. 

That’s not to say that these people possessed a giddy sense of happiness–we described how cheerfulness doesn’t necessarily lead to a long life. 

But having a large social network, engaging in physical activities that naturally draw you in, giving back to your community, enjoying and thriving in your career, and nurturing a healthy marriage or close friendships can do more than add many years to your life.

Together, they represent the living with purpose that comes from working hard, reaching out to others, and bouncing back from difficult times.

How fascinating to understand that those individuals who became involved with others in a consequential life would be improving their health as an unanticipated bonus.”

Here you can see how Connection Regrets can play a role in how you live your good life.

Look Back 10 Years Through the Lens of Regrets

This is your chance to really identify your transformational changes that will unleash the you that you really want to be.

And it’s these changes that will be your game winning strategies for life.

This is how you win the game of life your way.

This is a pretty easy part of the exercise, you can look back over the last 10 years of your life and identify your most important regrets.

What would you do differently?

This is your chance to use your past for lessons that will help you become the type of person that you want to be.

You can look back through key areas of your life using the Life Hot Spots framework:

  1. Mind
  2. Body
  3. Emotions
  4. Career
  5. Finance
  6. Relationships
  7. Fun

Looking back on your past 10 years, if you knew then, what you know now, what would you do differently?

With the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, what changes would you make in terms of how you think, feel, or act, and what you focus on?

Remember that your thoughts are behaviors, too.

Maybe you spent the last 10 years thinking too much about your regrets!

With regrets in hand, this is your chance to change your future, so you regret less, and live life more fully on your terms.

How Does the Rocking Chair Test and the Dickens Pattern Fit In?

Now that we know the 4 types or classes of regret, we can evaluate how different tools help reduce our future regrets and live more fully.

The first tool that comes to my mind is Tony Robbins’ Rocking Chair Test.

It’s a simple test and it goes like this:

Imagine yourself as 80 years old (or some age in the future), sitting on your rocking chair, and you didn’t do whatever it is where fear is holding you back.

If it doesn’t bother you, then don’t do it.

I think the Rocking Chair test really nails the Boldness Regrets.

Another tool that comes to mind is Tony Robbins’  Dickens Pattern exercise.

The Dickens Pattern exercise is really focused on limiting beliefs, which could overlap with Boldness Regrets, as well as Foundation Regrets.

But the value of it is ultimately creating clarity around your limiting beliefs and the impact they have on your life.

It’s Never Too Late, To Start All Over Again

It’s never too late to start all over again.

Regret can be a good thing if you use it to learn and grow, along with practicing self-compassion.

The whole point of getting good at regret is so that as you live your life forward, let your past go, and become more of who you want to be.

You can change your fate through your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions today.

This is how you help your Future Self think, feel, and act like the person you want to become.

THE LESSONS FROM THE PRODIGAL SON


• Failure helps you to realise that most people around you just love what you have and not who you are.

• When you loose your position of influence , riches, marriage, job etc, you will realize that failure is an orphan and success is a child of all. You will experience the trinity of loneliness :- i.e *(you,/yourself/alone).*

• When you hit your lowest point in life, most of your friends and relatives will be glad that you’ve dropped from grace to grass and that you’re no longer competing with them. In this life everyone around you is competing with you except your biological parents.

• Some people will pretend to render you help but their help will never be meaningful to change your situation for the better.

• Don’t stand still and look down at your low point. Failure spawns creativity, motivation and tenacity. Arise and shine, put your head up, shake off the dust and take small steps forward in the direction you know you must head. “For a righteous man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: ….”Proverbs 24:16. “ *_My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure_ .”   Abraham Lincoln.*

• Make the decision to confess and repent of your sins.


• The big brother will always be there to remind you of your past, please just remind him of your future. “For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved”.John 3:17

• Our heavenly father loves you with an everlasting love “… *I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.” — Jeremiah 31:3*

• Failure can also help you to discover yourself, and to know who are your true friends (A friend in need is a friend indeed ).

Finally, always be motivated by some of these best and greatest minds to have ever existed Hakainde Hichilema the current president of Zambia, Winston Churchill, Albert Einstein, Henry Ford, Colonel Harland David Sanders , Thomas Edison, Abraham Lincoln, Strive Masiyiwa, to mention but a few, at some point they all had their share of failure.

*I PRAY FOR YOU :*
The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace. Amen.

There are a lot of adventures out there, waiting for us to live them!

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” — T.S. Elliot

For those who don’t know – I have a Youtube channel going by the name – jambukizee and other than enjoying visiting different parts of this wonderful continent called Africa on my motorbike, I also provide the following consultational services;

TRAVEL ASSISTANCE:

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GUIDED MOTORBIKE TOURS IN AND AROUND AFRICA:

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2022 RULES FOR SUCCESS

  • Morning Routine
    • Create an early morning routine so that you can build momentum for the day. This includes waking up consistently before sunrise.
  • Concentration
    • Concentrate on your daily goals. We become what we think about
  • Think Positively.
    • Have a positive mental attitude so that you can achieve positive results
  • Trust Yourself
    • Ignore the haters.
  • Friends
    • Associate yourself with successful and like-minded people
  • Learn Daily
    • Go to bed smarter by reading books, watching seminars and listening to audio books.
  • Build One Habit at a Time
    • It takes 66 days to develop a habit.
  • Impatience is Weakness
    • Be patient when working on your goals, you can’t be strong all the time, you will have your ups and downs.

The Greatest Asset In Life

The greatest asset in life is our relationship balance

Go check out a person who has good relationships in life what they can achieve with one phone call, others cannot achieve with a million dollars.

Many studies have been done which says people who have good relationships they live happier and healthier lives. Our relationships friends and relatives, they are our support group.

We are talking about personally, professionally and socially.

Our family, people who are emotionally strong, you see in any crisis they come out stronger and people who are emotionally weak, they fight; they distort and make things fall apart.

People who are emotionally weak can never build lasting relationships with them because they are moody people, whimsical people, they are all sugar and honey to you today and they are out to cut your throat tomorrow. They are imbalanced and imbalanced people you cannot trust. In any relationship the foundation is trust and trust is built on integrity.

Personally, professionally there are many people who join groups like the chamber of commerce, BNI’s the Rotary, the Lions to network and they think they are building relationships and their definition of relationship is make connections with this people because someday they could be useful.

Usefulness goes, friendship also goes, there is no relationship – they are only takers, they are parasites only to suck whatever they can get and relationships are never built on taking, they are always built on giving.

Relationships are built on adding value addition to the relationship or to the other person were you need to give something.

There are four kinds of friendships in life;

  1. The friendship of convenience
  2. The friendship of usefulness
  3. The friendship because of a common enemy
  4. The friendship built on mutual respect

Helping each other is a duty of a friend; it is never the purpose of friendship. Helping always remains incidental to friendship.

To build lasting friendships and lasting relationships we must be willing to give and add value addition to another person’s life and that is what keeps a long-time relationship to be strong.

Go build it and you will live a much healthier, happier life.

nifty nuggets

  1. Life isn’t fair but it’s still good.
  2. When in doubt, just take the next time.
  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
  6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
  8. Save for retirement, starting with your first payslip.
  9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
  11. It’s okay to let your children see you cry.
  12. Don’t compare your life to other’s. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  14. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
  15. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
  16. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
  17. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
  18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
  19. Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
  20. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
  21. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
  22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
  23. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
  25. Forgive everyone everything.
  26. What other people think of your is none of your business.
  27. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
  28. However good or bag a situation is, it will change.
  29. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family will. Stay in touch.
  30. Believe in miracles.
  31. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
  32. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
  33. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
  34. Get outside everyday. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
  35. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s we’d grab ours back.
  36. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
  37. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful, or joyful.
  38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
  39. Envy is a waster of time. You already have all you need.
  40. The best is yet to come.
  41. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
  42. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
  43. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
  44. Yield.
  45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Three types of people

LEAF

Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.

BRANCH

There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you can lose them. Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are are.

ROOT

If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy for you. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you. Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots.

Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people’s lives?

What 25 Movies Teach Us About Love

Love comes in all shapes and sizes and to each his own.  In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I put together a sampling of 25 movies and what they can teach us about life and love.  Even if you’re not a fan of Valentine’s Day, enjoy the quotes and perhaps see things in a new light.  Sometimes just the right words, are like an old song, sung new.

Here they are:

  1. As Good as it Gets – Love can bring out your best.  Melvin: “You make me want to be a better man.”
  2. Be My Valentine Charlie Brown – Just because you don’t get a Valentine, doesn’t mean you aren’t lovable.
  3. Casablanca.  Kiss like you mean it.  Ilsa: “Kiss me. Kiss me as if it were the last time.
    It’s the kind of thing you want to hold on to forever.”
  4. Casper: Don’t let go.  Casper: “If I tell you I love you, can I keep you forever?”
  5. Cinderella.  It’s what dreams are made of.  Cinderella: “A dream is a wish your heart makes when you’re fast asleep. In dreams you will lose your heartaches. Whatever you wish for, you keep. Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainbow will come smiling through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true.”
  6. Dan in Real Life.  Love is an ability.  Marty: “Love is not a feeling, Mr. Burns. It’s an ability.”
  7. Don Juan DeMarco.  The answer is love.  Don Juan: “There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same: only love.”
  8. Ghost.  Sometimes you need to hear it.  Sam: “Ditto.”
  9. It’s a Wonderful Life.  We’ll do anything to impress the one we love.  George: “What is it you want, Mary? What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and I’ll throw a lasso around it and pull it down. Hey. That’s a pretty good idea. I’ll give you the moon, Mary.”
  10. Memoirs of a Geisha. Love is a bond.  Nobu: “We are tied to each other. I know you feel it too.”
  11. My Girl – Butterflies and fuzzy feelings are what first kisses are about.  Loss hurts.
  12. P.S. I Love You – Cherish the time you have together.  It’s part of the journey.  Gerry: “If you can promise me anything, promise me that whenever you’re sad, or unsure, or you lose complete faith, that you’ll try to see yourself through my eyes. Thank you for the honor of being my wife. I’m a man with no regrets. How lucky am I. You made my life, Holly. But I’m just one chapter in yours. There’ll be more. I promise. So here it comes, the big one. Don’t be afraid to fall in love again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you”
  13. Romeo and Juliet – Puppy love makes you say the darnedest things.  Romeo: “See, how she leans her cheek upon her hand! O that I were a glove upon that hand, that I might touch that cheek!”
  14. Runnaway Bride – Sometimes it’s a bumpy ride.  But it’s worth it.  Maggie: “I guarantee there’ll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is going to want get out. But I also guarantee… that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart… you’re the only one for me.”
  15. Shrek – Love comes in all shapes and sizes.  Stay true to you.
  16. Sleepless in Seattle.  Sometimes, it’s like a snowflake just for you.  Sam: “Well, how long is your program? Well, it was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together… and I knew it. I knew it the very first time I touched her. It was like coming home… only to no home I’d ever known… I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was like… magic.”
  17. The Bridges of Madison County.  You know it when you feel it. Robert Kinkaid: “This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime.”
  18. The Crow.  Remember them.  Sarah: “If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever.”
  19. The Notebook – If you’ve ever really loved, you know what it’s like to really live.  Noah: “I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who’s ever lived: I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough.”
  20. The Princess Bride – Nothing beats true love.  Miracle Max says, “Sonny, true love is the greatest thing, in the world-except for a nice MLT – mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich, where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe.”
  21. The Way We Were – Remember how it felt when it wasn’t complicated.  Hold on to that.  Katie: “Wouldn’t it be lovely if we were old? We’d have survived all this. Everything thing would be easy and uncomplicated; the way it was when we were young.”
  22. The Wizard of Oz.  Love isn’t meant to be practical.  Wizard of Oz: “As for you, my galvanized friend, you want a heart. You don’t know how lucky you are not to have one. Hearts will never be practical until they can be made unbreakable.”
  23. Titanic. Endings can be bitter sweet.  Jack: “Winning that ticket, Rose, was the best thing that ever happened to me… it brought me to you. And I’m thankful for that, Rose. I’m thankful. You must do me this honor. Promise me you’ll survive. That you won’t give up, no matter what happens, no matter how hopeless. Promise me now, Rose, and never let go of that promise.”
  24. Wedding Crashers – Love more.  You’ve got more capacity than you might think you do.  John: “You know how they say we only use 10 percent of our brains? I think we only use 10 percent of our hearts.”
  25. When Harry Met Sally.  Sometimes love is like a new lease on life.  Harry: “I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”

What movies wrinkled your brain when it comes to love?

WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT

I heard that we are in the same boat

But it’s not like that

We are in the same storm

But not in the same boat

Your ship can be shipwrecked

And mine might not be

Or vice versa

For some, quarantine is optimal

Moment of reflection, or re-connection

Easy, in flip flops, with a whiskey or tea.

For others, this is a desperate crisis.

For others it is facing loneliness

For some, a peace, rest time, vacation

Yet for others, torture:

How am I going to pay my bills?

Some were concerned about a brand of chocolates

Others were concerned about the bread for the weekend,

Or if the noodles would last for a few more days.

Some were in their ‘home office’

Others are looking through trash to survive

Some want to go back to work because

They are running out of money

Others want to kill those who break the quarantine

Some need to break the quarantine to stand in line at the banks

Others to escape

Others criticize the government for the lines

Some have experienced the near death of the virus

Some have already lost someone from it

Some are not sure their loved ones are going to make it

And some don’t even believe this is a big deal.

Some of us who are well now

May end up experiencing it,

And some believe they are infallible and will be blown

Away if or when this hits

Someone they know

Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2021

Others say the worst is yet to come

So, friends, we are not in the same boat

We are going through a time when our perceptions and

Needs are completely different

And each one will emerge in

His own way, from that storm

Some with a tan from their pool

Others with scars on the soul

It is very important to see

Beyond what is seen at first glance

Not just looking, more that looking, seeing

See beyond the political party

Beyond the biases

Beyond the nose on your face

Do not underestimate the pain of others

If you do not feel it

Do not judge the good life of the other

Do not condemn the bad life of the other

Don’t be a judge

Let us not judge the one who lacks

As well as the one who exceeds him

We are on different ships looking to survive

Let everyone navigate their route with respect

Empathy and responsibility

The ant’s rule book of life

Be Brave

Ants teach you that no matter how terrifying things may look up ahead, you should never chicken out. They are a lot braver than your action movie heroes

Prepare Ahead

Ants are constantly preparing for the season which is yet to come. It has a start contrast to human behaviour. Your priorities can sometimes be driven by what you feel like doing.

Mind Your Own Business

We often like to talk about others, our friends, society and how bad the world is. We have lot of time to talk about others and poke into others business. Ants on the other hand mind their business.

Teamwork Helps

Everything an ant does is for the benefit of the colony and they will work until they are done. Almost on autopilot, each ant knows their duties and they do everything they can do to get their duties completed.

Adapt To Surroundings

You can find ants just about everywhere. Ants know where to find resources and you should do the same. Be quick to adapt to your surrounding and don’t wait for a wake-up call.

Hard Work Matters

Ants are noted for carrying objects that are bigger than them. This is only make possible through sheer hard work and determination. They are not scared of heavy tasks.

Sense Of Discipline

Without a mistake they march after one another in a line. Without dispute or accident, they move about in order. But everywhere in life man finds loopholes to divide.

Spirit Of Sharing

The ants share everything they get. They never eat anything alone. But what do we humans do? If we find something immediately, we try our best to hoard it in a secret place.

Ignore Diversions

If you put your finger in an ants path, it just walks around it and soldiers on. It won’t let your fingers hinder it’s work. You should do the same and not let silly problems get in your way.

It’s Not About Doing Things Perfectly

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.”

Try Stuff, Even If It’s Not Perfect

It reminds me to keep things real and not get caught up in perfection, or the ideal that does not exist.

That’s the essence and foundation for personal growth.

It reminds me just to try…to give my best effort… to get in the arena and go for it… even if it’s not pretty and it’s not perfect.

And  it’s that fundamental mindset that sets the stage to be able to practice the things that lead to doing great things, even if it’s not pretty, and it’s not perfect.

It’s not about perfection.

It’s about progress… and progress is actually one of the secrets to happiness.

When we grow, we light up our life, even if it’s in some small way.

10 Reminders About Not Doing Things Perfectly

Too many people die with their music still in them, or they never realize their potential, because they get caught up in perfection.

Here are a few of my other favorite reminders about not worrying about doing things perfectly:

  1. A friend of mine was good about reminding me: “Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.”  That was his way of saying to me, focus on “good enough for now” so we could move on the next challenge, and not get stuck in analysis paralysis or the perfection trap.
  2. Similarly, Voltaire put it, ““The best is the enemy of the good.”  Voltaire always has a way with words.
  3. I always liked the phrase: “Make it work, then make it right.”   (balanced with the idea that if you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over 😉  … another way to think of this is, don’t get caught up in pre-mature perfection.
  4. Perfection is a journey, not a destination.  Enjoy the journey of learning and mastery.   This is the essence of continuous improvement.   Thinking back, this is really the big idea that helped me avoid a life of worrying about perfection, and instead, focus on progress.
  5. Focus on progress over perfection.  I always liked the idea that to get better at something, you have to do it more than once.  It takes practice.  You can’t practice very much if you are caught up in perfection.  When I think about it like that, it reminds me of Simon Sinek’s phrasing, “Better is better than best.”
  6. One of my best mentors was good at asking, “Is it effective?”   That was a much better focus, than worrying about some arbitrary notion or measure of perfection.  It was a simple reminder that if it wasn’t working, change your approach.   It’s far better to focus on effectiveness, improvement, or progress.   That’s where the growth is.
  7. As Confucius put it, “Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without.”  Talk about trading up.
  8. As Shakespeare put it, “Striving to better, oft we mar what’s well.”  I’ve seen so many good things, come to an end, either for the sake of perfection, or over-doing something that was better in it’s rough and useful form.  I’ve seen some great art, great ideas, and great projects die that way.  Sometimes you just need to leave well enough alone.
  9. As my mechanic always said, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”   He was incredibly pragmatic about where to invest time and energy, and not to throw good money after bad.
  10. As Leo Tolstoy put it, “If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content.”   It’s one thing to have great expectations, but don’t let your expectations drain the juice out of your life. 

Perfectionism Is Fundamentally Flawed

Here’s what Wikipedia says about perfectionism:

“Perfectionism: a personality trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting high performance standards, accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.”

Yuck.

Don’t Fear Perfection

The good news is you don’t ever have to fear perfection.

As Salvador Dali reminds us with his inspiring words:

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”

How perfect is that?

African folklore

Long time ago in the Animal Kingdom, a sheep was passing and saw a lion crying inside a cage trap and the Lion begged the Sheep to save him with a promise not to kill and eat it but the Sheep refused*.

After much persuasion and due the Sheep’s gullibility it opened the cage for the Lion.
Now the Lion was very hungry having stayed in the cage for days without food.
It quickly grabbed the Sheep to kill and eat but the Sheep reminded him of his promise.
They were still there arguing when other animals came passing and they sought to know what happened.

*Both the Lion and the Sheep narrated their own side of the story but because of fear and in trying to gain favour with the Lion, all the animals took sides with the Lion except the Tortoise who claimed not to understand the whole scenario*.

Now the Tortoise asked the Lion to show them where he was before the Sheep rescued him, he pointed at the cage.
He asked again, “were you inside or outside when the sheep arrived”? The Lion said he was inside.
The Tortoise again said “ok, enter lets see how difficult it could be inside”.
The Lion entered and the Tortoise locked him back inside.

*In amazement the other animals asked Tortoise “why” and he replied “if we allow him eat the Sheep today, he will still go hungry tomorrow and we don’t know the next amongst us to be eaten tomorrow*.

*Moral*:

Don’t support evil today because it doesn’t affect you directly, tomorrow it could be your turn.

Be reasonable
Stay safe.

Manhood Is Not Natural

Manhood is not natural, but it is essential. No society can endure if it does not harness male sexual energy and teach men to take care of the children they father and the women who bear them.

Few would disagree that manhood is in crisis today. Men are falling behind women in important measures of personal and social well-being. In deeply consequential ways, they have become the weaker sex.

Some women celebrate this. Most, however, are deeply concerned, especially since the weakness of the men in their lives makes it increasingly difficult for them to become wives and mothers. The equation is really quite simple: if boys don’t become good, dependable men, they can’t become good, dependable husbands and fathers.

The majority of women want marriage and babies, and usually quite dearly. They don’t need to be talked into them and never really have. Ask women today their biggest obstacle to achieving this goal. It’s not a shortage of males, but of responsible adult males. Men. If they cannot find marriageable men, they often go with other choices. It’s no coincidence that the two fastest growing family formation trends are unmarried cohabitation and out-of-wedlock childbearing among twenty- and thirty-something women.

The causes of these trends can be found in the underappreciated and often-denied distinct natures of manhood and womanhood. It’s rooted in a strange but essential anthropological truth: Womanhood is natural. Manhood is not.

Womanhood Is Natural

Womanhood is a natural phenomenon. A female’s biological make-up usually ensures that she will grow into a healthy woman. Leave her to herself, and it’s likely to happen. It’s why the phrases “woman up,” “be a woman,” or “make a woman out of her” don’t exist.

As her body matures, internally and externally, it sends her and those around her an unmistakable message about what she is and what she’s becoming. It moves her inexorably in that direction with a force as great as it is mysterious. Few girls miss these cues. It’s not just her body that is changing; she is becoming a different person. Her family and community treat her differently because of it. A father shudders at it, as it forever changes the way he interacts with “his little girl.” He must bow to and honor it. I’m the father of a girl. I know it all too well.

Women must be taught, with great political and ideological pressure, to ignore their womanhood and abandon their children, for doing so is contrary to all nature.

Manhood Is Taught

The opposite is true of manhood.  Unlike a woman, a man has no civilized role or agenda inscribed in his body. The boy has no on-board GPS directing him toward his future. His transition into manhood can only come into being with significant, intentional work by other men. As a behavior, manhood must be learned, proven, and earned. As an identity, manhood must be bestowed by a boy’s father and the community’s larger fraternity of men. His mother can only affirm it. She cannot bequeath it.

Maleness just happens, but manhood does not. The first is a biological event, while the second is a developed character quality. When manhood is not formed and cultivated, males fail to mature, resulting in the “perpetual adolescence” or “failure to launch” that plagues our culture. When so many men play beer pong into their forties, live in their parents’ basements, play videogames twelve hours a day, and encounter women only in the form of pixels on a porn site, it seems clear that we have a manhood problem.

The human male nature doesn’t naturally go in the direction civilization requires; it requires the direction of other men. Unlike the female nature, which tends to exist reliably among the median scale of human behavior, the male nature is oriented more toward extremes, for good or bad.

Manhood must be crafted and refined in order to orient males in pro-social, communitarian directions. In fact, this is the first work of every civilization. Anthropologists tell us that the original and most fundamental social problem of any culture is the unattached male. Left to his own, he is not inclined to play well with others. He is not disposed to make himself, or anyone around him, a better person. He is not likely to become other-focused. Either fiercely competitive or indolent, he is more likely to become a social contagion. He will either seek to define himself in the community by power, false confidence, and selfish conquest, or shrink away toward inactivity and reticence.

In every known human society, everywhere in the world, the young male learns that when he grows up, one of the things which he must do in order to be a full member of society is to provide food [and protection] for some female and her young. … every known human society rests firmly on the learned nurturing behaviour of men.

Thus, across virtually all cultures, manhood has largely consisted of three essential qualities: procreation, provision, and protection. If the boy doesn’t learn these things, then he is not likely to become a good, selfless, serving man. Shame and derision from the community will become his lot.

Tragically, manhood is becoming extinct because we are not teaching it.

Male vs. Female Sexuality

Additionally, the most elemental destabilizing force in every culture is not merely unrefined male energy, but his unchecked sexual energy. Full stop. In its fundamental essence, it is deeply anti-social. It has no civilizing, pro-social nature in itself. To become so, it must be acted upon by other forces. By contrast, female sexual energy tends to be inherently pro-social. Female sexuality has the power to create human civilization by moderating the behavior of men, but it can only do this when there is social appreciation for these differences in male and female sexuality, coupled with the strong social morals they require.

Of course, the flip side of unmoderated male energy goes beyond sexuality. A female’s naturally domesticating influence on overall male energy and behavior is easily demonstrated. Who pays substantially lower auto, health, and life insurance premiums, married men or their single peers? Service to the god of equality requires there be no difference here. But we all know better. The wedding-ring-clad man enjoys the financial benefit, and not because insurance companies have a sentimental heart for weddings. Every insurance company knows married men direct their male wanderlust and energy toward safety and responsibility. Single men, not so much.

Without the essential tempering influence of female sexuality, male sexuality is a whole other animal, and not a pretty one.

Sex Makes Babies

This is a problem, because sex makes babies. Every society must give greater attention to this fact than it does to the need for food, shelter, and protection from outside attack. These and all other vital needs are either enhanced or crippled by what a community expects of the relationship between a man, the children he sires, and the woman he does so with. If it doesn’t get this right, few other good things the community needs are likely.

Of course, the male’s attitude and approach toward his procreative act is drastically different from hers. His necessary participation in the act is solely orgasmic, lasting seconds, and is all pleasure. He is not naturally connected to the potential of that act. The mother’s connection, however, is profound, starting shortly after conception and intensifying daily. It costs her dearly in energy, sleep, and overall comfort, starting long before the pain of childbirth. She is inescapably invested. He is not.

The crucial process of civilization is the subordination of male sexual impulses and biology to the long-term horizons of female sexuality . . . It is male behavior that must be changed to create a civilized order. The crucial process of civilization. No society can develop or endure without succeeding at this.

Manhood, Marriage, and Fatherhood

The woman is not only the stabilizing force of male sexuality; she is the authorizing factor in fatherhood. If a particular man desires to be involved in the life of his child, it is the child’s mother, and she alone, who determines whether and how he may do this. She typically desires to make this relationship public by making the father of the child her husband. Anthropologists have called this the legitimization of the child.

Consider the etymology of two key words: matrimony and husband. The first comes from the Latin, matrimonium, meaning literally “obligation to the mother.” Since it is virtually impossible for a mother and her child to thrive by themselves, marriage arose in nearly every civilization throughout time as a way to have the impregnating male take responsibility for his child and the mother. The surrounding community expects the male to fulfill his obligation so it doesn’t have to. It is why marriage is a deeply public act and no society has found a way to function without it.

Thus, the good man steps up, and in doing so, becomes a husband. This stems from the Old Norse, meaning literally house dweller: hús (“house”) bóndi (“dweller” and “bonded serf” or “slave”). The husband settles down and confines himself to a particular household, serving and providing resources for its inhabitants. He becomes a whole other kind of man, taking full responsible for his sexuality and his part in the coming generation.

What Happens When Manhood Isn’t Taught?

It is then certainly no coincidence that the term “feminization of poverty” was coined as the sexual revolution initiated the great divorce between sex, babies, and marriage.  While large opportunities were opening for women due to greater equality, Poverty is rapidly becoming a female problem. She blamed the significant increase in the number of female-headed families.

Ghettos are not created by city planners, crime by the police, or failing health by big pharma. Each of these social ills arises by inattention to the sexual behaviors of males. If he doesn’t have to marry before having sex (and potentially fathering children), the average man won’t. So he hasn’t. The feminization of poverty and the accompanying declines in female happiness and childhood well-being are the tragic results.

Manhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless generosity, even to the point of sacrifice. Again and again, we find that “real” men are those who give more than they take away; they serve others. Real men are generous, even to a fault. Non-men are often those stigmatized as stingy and unproductive.

A good man is the fountain, not the drain. The formation of such men is the first task of human civilization, and its largest threat when ignored.

The question is, how can we recover manhood today? We must find the answer. For it is not only the fate of men that is at stake, but the fate of our women, children, and society as well.

Sioux Indian Story

“My grandfather took me to the fish pond on the farm when I was about seven, and he told me to throw a stone into the water. He told me to watch the circles created by the stone.Then he asked me to think of myself as that stone person. “You may create lots of splashes in your life but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures,” he said. “Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles. You will need to live in a way that allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles. You are responsible for both.” That was the first time I realized each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt, or anger. We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life. – Unknown