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WORDS TO PONDER

  • Once upon a time I met a man who told me that: telling the truth and making someone cry, is better than telling a lie and making someone smile and happy.
  • He said to me your true friends are those who will never avoid you just because they have met new friends.
  • As he kept on speaking to me, he said if some people do not appreciate and value my presence, I should work hard to make them value and appreciate my absence.
  • He said I must not be angry with anyone who is quiet on me because there must be a reason why they are quiet, and that I will get to know the reason later.
  • He told me it is always better to be a blessing to others at all times than to be a burden at any time.
  • He said I must learn to forgive others not because they deserve it but because I deserve the peace that comes with forgiveness.
  • I must know that everyone deserves a second chance and many more chances if they ask for forgiveness, but I must not lose my guard over their intentions.
  • I must not only talk to people in my free time, but I must free my time to talk to people.
  • I must know that the truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie will hurt for a long time.
  • I must learn to value and respect people who tell me the Truth no matter how painful the truth is.
  • I must make my decisions when I am in the right mood, not when I am angry, likewise I must not make promises when I am excited with high emotions.
  • I must know that some people are like candles that burn themselves to give light to others. I should not have regrets if I happen to be one of such candles.
  • I must learn to be a caring friend because it is a thousand times better than a careless lover.
  • I should value and protect my relationships of many years of investments, because they are like a book that takes years to write but, can get burnt only within few seconds.
  • He specifically said this repeatedly that: If I have a problem with someone, I should go tell the person and not go tell the world.
  • He said to me that I should know that nobody is too busy, it is just a matter of their priorities within a day.
  • He said to me that people can trust you when you are consistent with what you say and what you do.
  • He said with a low voice, only God can be totally trusted. Trust God 100%.
  • He then said: no matter what, I must not forget those who helped and stood by me in my time of trials and during my difficult times.
  • I must always remember those who turned their backs on me in my difficult times of trials. Not for vengeance, but for the lesson of life.
  • I must be careful with those who put me into difficult times but I must never hate them. It is a lesson of life.
  • He said again: I must be grateful at all times to God for this life and for living. It is a privilege, and not a right.
  • As he was leaving me, he said, always remember how temporary this world is, you must always be conscious of the reality of eternity with God in heaven or with Satan in hell fire.

The ant’s rule book of life

Be Brave

Ants teach you that no matter how terrifying things may look up ahead, you should never chicken out. They are a lot braver than your action movie heroes

Prepare Ahead

Ants are constantly preparing for the season which is yet to come. It has a start contrast to human behaviour. Your priorities can sometimes be driven by what you feel like doing.

Mind Your Own Business

We often like to talk about others, our friends, society and how bad the world is. We have lot of time to talk about others and poke into others business. Ants on the other hand mind their business.

Teamwork Helps

Everything an ant does is for the benefit of the colony and they will work until they are done. Almost on autopilot, each ant knows their duties and they do everything they can do to get their duties completed.

Adapt To Surroundings

You can find ants just about everywhere. Ants know where to find resources and you should do the same. Be quick to adapt to your surrounding and don’t wait for a wake-up call.

Hard Work Matters

Ants are noted for carrying objects that are bigger than them. This is only make possible through sheer hard work and determination. They are not scared of heavy tasks.

Sense Of Discipline

Without a mistake they march after one another in a line. Without dispute or accident, they move about in order. But everywhere in life man finds loopholes to divide.

Spirit Of Sharing

The ants share everything they get. They never eat anything alone. But what do we humans do? If we find something immediately, we try our best to hoard it in a secret place.

Ignore Diversions

If you put your finger in an ants path, it just walks around it and soldiers on. It won’t let your fingers hinder it’s work. You should do the same and not let silly problems get in your way.

Your network is your net worth!

There is something in life called “Social Capital”. The people you know; the people who know you and how they know you. What’s social capital? Listen to this,

Quite unfortunately, people think or behave like social capital is only needed on weddings and burials. That is why you see someone will not have contacted you in ten years but out of the blue they are sending you a message, “Hello so and so, long time, next Sunday is my pre-wedding. Or my uncle is dead please I need your support!”

Social capital is not built overnight; it is reciprocal and does not need money (especially in this virtually connected world) to build. It just needs being sensitive that people have emotions and that you can’t sneak into their lives only when you need help.

Social capital is massively important and when built and used correctly, it can make a very big difference to one’s quality of life. It can save you money, make you money, get you a better job, make things easier and safer, it can save you from prison, or save your life: it can save your time and effort, and make life more enjoyable and productive.

As we progress through the year, please learn to connect with people in your circles and not only Christ. Check on people, send someone a birthday message, check their timelines and comment something positive and inspirational. Pick your phone and call someone, or text them. It could be your relative, your colleague, your former schoolmate, a former or current boss, your CEO, your parents etc.

Creating a connection with people is important for building your social capital. And even if they don’t respond, at least keep in touch and don’t just reach out when you are in need. Even some on whatsapp don’t comment on any issue you put across they just read and keep quiet but that should not deter you. Continue communicating.

Most importantly, respect everyone no matter their status in life and be there when others need you. Be a solution, an encouragement and inspiration. Avoid being a leech, a user or nagger. Just be a nice person who in a calculated way stays in touch with people and brings joy, encouragement and hope.

The most important asset you have in life is not your job, money or title; its people. Your network is your net worth”

Who Are You Walking With?

Its not important how we spend our time,

but with whom we spend it.

The only thing that’s keeping some people from a new level of their destiny is wrong friendships.

You may have to prune off some relationships that are not adding value to your life.

Don’t hang around people who are not going anywhere, who have no goals or dreams, who comprise and take the easy way out.

If you tolerate mediocrity, it will rub off on you.

If you hand out with jealous, critical, unhappy people, you will end up jealous, critical and unhappy.

You cannot become who God created you to be hanging out with them.

Take a look at your friends. If your friends are winners, leaders, givers and successful, if they have integrity and a spirit of excellence and are positive and motivated, those good qualities are going to rub off on you. Invest your time with them.  They’re making you better.

What you do not know is something that you can learn

A young teacher was teaching arithmetic to students in kindergarten. She was to teach them additions on a particular day. She wanted to make it a bit more interesting to the class of five-year-old students. So, she pulled out three apples from her bag. She called Mark from the last row and started telling him, “Mark, If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”

Mark looked serious, counted on his fingers and responded confidently, “Four!”

The teacher was disappointed, and it was evident on her face because she thought she would get an effortless correct answer, which is three obviously. But not wanting to show her disappointment, she wanted to try asking the same question again. In her mind, she thought maybe Mark did not hear the question properly or was confused. So, she went on again, “Mark, listen to me very carefully, make no mistake.” Now this time she paced the question slowly so that Mark could get it right, “If I give you one apple and then one apple and then one more apple, how many apples will you have?” She went so slow, that she had no hesitation that she would get the right answer this time.

Mark very confidently responded, “Four!”

The teacher felt very let down. Now the class was giggling looking at the teacher’s reaction. This angered her but she was determined to get it right. So, she thought to herself, may be Mark does not like apples, let me try oranges. So, without losing her patience, she cajoled Mark and said, “Mark, let’s do it one last time. I suppose you like oranges, more right? So, If I give you one orange and then one orange and then one more orange, how many oranges will you have?”

Mark was not too sure why the teacher was making him do this again, but he saw the disappointment on her face, so he counted again on his fingers with a little lesser confidence responded, “Three!”

The teacher thumped the desk almost celebrating the answer. She was sure that Mark now got the logic right. She still wanted to prove the point so she knelt down to reach Mark and went ahead asking him “Very good Mark, now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?”

Mark saw the glow on her face and so with full confidence answered, “Four!”

The teacher was aghast. “How Mark, how?” She asked Mark in a very irritated tone

Mark by now was trembling but replied, “Because I already have one apple in my bag.”

Judge others when you are perfect: Very often we judge people for the choices they make or for the decisions they make. Very rarely, do we try and understand the options they had to pick from.

You don’t know what you don’t know until you know it: The foolish and the arrogant ones think they know it all, the smart and the bold ones, pretend they know it all. The experienced and the wise ones accept that they don’t know it all

There are always two sides to every story: When you have to take sides, remember every story has two sides. One side suits one party better and the other side, the other party. Choose the path of the truth before you decide, which side to take.

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Conquering Fear

Nelson Mandela:

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

Bear Grylls:

“Being brave isn’t the absence of fear. Being brave is having that fear but finding a way through it.”

Rosa Parks:

“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain.”

“When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.”

Dale Carnegie:

Do the thing you fear to do and keep on doing it… that is the quickest and surest way ever yet discovered to conquer fear.”

 

 

 

William Congreve:

“Fear comes from uncertainty. When we are absolutely certain, whether of our worth or worthlessness, we are almost impervious to fear.”

 

 

Helen Keller:

“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.”

 

 

Babe Ruth:
“Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.”

 

 

 

Henry Ford:

“One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.”

 

 

 

Sarah Parish:

“Living with fear stops us taking risks, and if you don’t go out on the branch, you’re never going to get the best fruit.”

 

10 THINGS EVERYBODY SHOULD DO IN 2020

1. Pursue something.
Don’t walk in the entire 365 days without having something particular in mind to achieve. Start an income generating project, if you don’t have one already.Just do something!
2. Walk with people wiser or stronger than you.
In 2020, surround yourself with people who will inspire you, who will make you feel you can do better, who will challenge you on.
3. Check your dressing or appearance.
Don’t put on ‘anything’ just because it covers your nakedness. Your appearance tells a lot about you. Iron your clothes neatly. Ladies don’t wear dresses in the name of fashion or trend . Wear more decent but fitting dresses. This is the slogan: Simple but Classy.
4. Check how you talk.
Before you open your mouth, be minded of who you are talking to, where you are talking, when you are talking and also know that your integrity is at stake. In every situation, choose silence over speech unless you don’t have any option.
5. Visitations
Visit old people’s home to appreciate them also orphanage and children in need of special care.  Don’t let them feel unwanted or neglected in the scheme of things.
6. In 2020, be more prayerful.
You can’t live your life thinking things occur merely logically. There’s a Supreme Being who makes things happen, pray to him.🙏
7.Be Resourceful
In 2020, start thinking or planning towards doing more for humanity.
8.Be Positive
In 2020, always think Positive while being Realistic. When you see tigers praying to God, don’t join them. You can be positive that they won’t ‘chop’ you since they are praying but be realistic too that after the prayers, they’ll remain tigers and God will feed them with flesh.
9. Show Gratitude
Buy gifts for your loved ones.    In 2020 try and do something ‘small’ for parents . You have no idea what  goes on in their minds  Let them feel you are not far off
10. Be Thrifty
In 2020, Invest more, save less, spend less. Put your money into investment ventures. Buy T-bills, buy shares, buy fixed deposits, import some goods and sell, be a stock broker, etc. In fact, get more than one stream of income!
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The point is, don’t work your life out. Many known names have gone and life goes on. You won’t take your work with you when you die. You are not as important as you think, calm down. Take time off work, go and do medical check-up, visit your family, visit gardens or the beach and appreciate nature and so on….
               *Happy new year*

Three Stories – Three Lessons

Story number One

An old man lived alone in Minnesota. He wanted to spade his potato garden,
but it was very hard work. His only son, who would have helped him, was in
prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and mentioned his situation:
Dear Son,
I am feeling pretty bad because it looks like I won’t be able to plant my potato
garden this year. I hate to miss doing the garden, because your mother always
loved planting time. I’m just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. If
you were here, all my troubles would be over. I know you would dig the plot for
me, if you weren’t in prison.
Love, Dad
Shortly, the old man received this telegram: “For Heaven’s sake, Dad, don’t dig
up the garden!! That’s where I buried the GUNS!!”
At 4 a.m. the next morning, a dozen FBI agents and local police officers
showed up and dug up the entire garden without finding any guns.
Confused, the old man wrote another note to his son telling him what
happened, and asked him what to do next.
His son’s reply was: “Go ahead and plant your potatoes, Dad…………………. It’s the
best I could do for you from here.”
MORAL:
No matter where you are in the world, if you have decided to do something
deep from your heart, you can do it. It is the thought that matters and not
where you are or where the person is.

Story Number Two

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire.
He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house-building business and live a
more leisurely life with his wife, enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck,
but he needed to retire. They could get by.
The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more
house as a favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not
in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an
unfortunate way to end a dedicated career.
When the carpenter finished his work the employer came to inspect the house. He handed
the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “My gift to you!”
The carpenter was shocked! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own
house, he would have done it all so differently.
So it is with us. We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting less than our best into the
building.
Then with a shock we realize we have to live in the house we have built.
If we could do it over, we would do it much differently. But we cannot go back.
You are the carpenter. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. “Life is a
do-it-yourself project,” someone has said. Your attitudes and the choices you make today,
build the “house” you live in tomorrow.
Build wisely!

Story Number Three

Finish Strong is more than a statement, it’s an attitude.
It’s an attitude of believing you can do something and having the courage and
determination to see it through. And of course, you can apply this “finish
strong attitude” to your business or your life! here’s a personal story about
setting goals from the author, Dan Green……. Enjoy!
Keep Clip’n Along
By embracing the attitude to Finish Strong, I’ve created a personal level of
accountability that goes with me wherever I go. The first time I really
discovered the power of this mindset was early in my selling career. In the
early nineties I sold software systems to commercial banks. A great deal of my
selling efforts involved prospecting for leads over the phone. No matter how
good you are at selling over the phone, it can be challenging to push yourself
to make one more call – and a key to success in selling is “making one more
call”.
As a method of daily goal setting, I would start my day in the office by taking
out twenty five paper clips from my desktop paper clip holder. I would place
the paper clips on a coaster right next to the holder which was next to the
phone. Each time I engaged in a meaningful selling conversation I would take
one of the paper clips from the pile and put it back in the holder. I knew that
if I created twenty five selling conversations each day, that my ultimate sales
goals would be reached. I made a commitment not to leave the office until
every paper clip was put back.
There were many times that the day was over for everyone else and I had one
paperclip sitting on that coaster staring at me. In order to finish strong, I
needed to have one more selling conversation. I dialed until I succeeded. I
never left a paperclip sitting on the coaster and I never put one back that did
not earn it. The level of activity I created during this time stuffed my sales
pipeline with opportunities. My career took off and I tripled my income in
the course of two years – all because I chose to Finish Strong

As we count down to the last days of this year and look forward to the next , my wish for you is that you close the year finishing strong.

Never Back Down

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” — T.S. Elliot

You only get one chance at this life, so live it to the fullest. Don’t wast your time worrying about what anyone might say, or could possibly think about you-these are things you cannot control. If there is one guaranteed way to throw you life away it is to live it based on the potential of someone else’s disapproval. Do what you love, do what makes you happy, and never back down.

My Personal Philosophy

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”

My personal philosophy is a work in progress, but mostly it comes down to I believe that everybody deserves a better chance at life, and that life is better with skill.

With that in mind, I have a simple set of guiding principles:

  1. Life’s not a spectator’s sport.
  2. Absorb what’s useful; reject the rest.
  3. It’s not what’s on your plate, it’s how you eat it.
  4. Don’t take life too seriously, or you’ll never get out alive.
  5. Success is a journey, not a destination.
  6. Live more, laugh more, learn more, love more.
  7. Roll with the punches.
  8. Whatever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.
  9. If you fall down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, carry the lessons forward.
  10. Don’t seek to be better than others; seek to be better than yourself.

I Believe

I believe in miracles and dreams that will come true.
I believe in tender moments and friendship, through and through.

I believe in stardust and moonbeams all aglow.
I believe there’s surrealness and pure bliss.

I believe in reaching out and touching from the heart
I believe that if we touch a gift we can impart.

I believe that if you cry your tears are not in vain.
And when you’re sad and lonely, others know your pain.

I believe that when we laugh a sparkle starts to shine.
And I just know that spark will spread from more hearts than just mine.

I believe that hidden in the quiet of the night,
there’s magic moths and gypsies a fairy and a sprite.

I believe that if you dance the dances of your heart,
that greater happiness will find a brand new way to start.

I believe the gifts you have are there for you to share.
And when you give them from the heart, the whole world knows you care.

I believe that if you give, even just to one,
that gift will grow in magnitude before the day is done.

I believe that comfort comes from giving part of me.
And if I share with others, there’s more for all to see.

I believe that love is still the greatest gift of all,
and when it’s given from the heart then not one of us will fall.

 

Take a Risk

The world is waiting for you! Behind the masses of those that wish to watch you lead a quiet and sedentary life is an open, unlined canvas. I urge you to take a chance, to push past barriers of negativity and oppression of self fulfillment and paint the picture of who YOU want to be. Never let yourself be beat down for living your life by those too afraid to live their own. There is a difference between risking your life and taking a risk at having one. I know which side I would rather be on, do you?

The Honor Code

Honor is one of the key virtues that everyone should strive to possess.   In simple terms Honor refers to the quality of knowing and doing what is morally right.

Below are the 7 Core Behaviors for Honorable Leadership.

  1. Tell the truth, even when it is difficult – avoid duplicity and deceitful behavior.
  2. Treat others with dignity and respect – take the lead and show value to others.
  3. Keep your word and your commitments – ask for relief sooner than later if necessary.
  4. Be ethical – operate within the laws of the land, the guidelines of your profession and the policies of your employer.
  5. Act responsibly; do your duty and be accountable – own your mistakes and work to do better in the future.
  6. Be courageous – lean into the pain of your fears to do what you know is right even when it feels unnatural or uncomfortable.
  7. Live your values – be faithful to your spiritual core, your conscience and your deepest intuitions.

Valor

 

The following excerpt is from one of my favorite movies “Act of Valor”

at the very end of the movie are the timeless words of wisdom which if we abide  by, would make our world a better place to live in.

But first let’s go back to the ABC’s and get the definition of this symbolic noun.

Valor by definition means: courage, fearlessness, courageousness, braveness, heroism, boldness, gallantry, daring, fortitude.

“Live your life such that the fear of death can never enter your heart

trouble no one about his/her religion

respect others and their views and demand they respect yours

love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life

seek to make you life long and of service to your people

when your turn comes to die,

be not like those whose hearts who are filled with fear of death

so that when the time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way

sing your death song

and die like a hero going home.”

My favorite definition of Valor is Fortitude which in simple terms means Strength of mind that allows one to endure pain or adversity with courage.

May you have that mental toughness to live your life with Valor.

Sioux Indian Story

“My grandfather took me to the fish pond on the farm when I was about seven, and he told me to throw a stone into the water. He told me to watch the circles created by the stone.Then he asked me to think of myself as that stone person. “You may create lots of splashes in your life but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures,” he said. “Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles. You will need to live in a way that allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles. You are responsible for both.” That was the first time I realized each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt, or anger. We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life. – Unknown 

The Secret To Mastering New Skills

1. Start with your goal. What are you trying to achieve: to be the best in the world, or something else? Without knowing where you want to get to, you cannot plan.

2. Work backwards from your goal, what do you need to do to get there? Eliminate things from your training that are unnecessary for meeting your goal.

3. Break up your plan into smaller steps. Set yourself deadlines. This way you will know if you are starting to fall behind or have plateaued.

4. Ask for feedback from someone experienced, or film yourself at your task. If you want to be a good public speaker, film yourself presenting and compare it to other videos of speakers.

5. If you plateau you might need to work backwards. What do other people do that you do not? Getting worse before you get better is a real possibility.

3 Stories Leaders Need to Tell

Stories are timeless

“A storyteller makes up things to help other people; a liar makes up things to help himself.” — Daniel Wallace

As a leader, you need to tell 3 stories:

  1. your personal story,
  2. a group story, and
  3. the dream story.

Your personal story communicates your beliefs and values.

The group story helps create a shared sense of destiny.

The dream story inspires people to a better future.

Use Stories to Inspire Yourself and Others

Whether you’re a leader of a small team or large group, have these stories under your belt.  If you lead a family, you can use the 3 stories too.

If you just need to lead yourself, then have a personal story and dream story to remind yourself who you are and to inspire yourself to where you want to be.

Story #1 – Your Personal Story

The first story you need to tell is your personal story.

“As a leader there are three types of stories that you have to tell.  The first is your personal story. 

To be credible, you have to express yourself genuinely and communicate your beliefs and values in ways that distinctly represent who you are. 

This is not about wearing your heart on your sleeve, but about describing what makes you tick and what values drive you as a person.  For example, if you value diversity and innovation, then ensure you create an environment where people’s views are respected and taken seriously and where mistakes can be made without retribution.  Likewise, if you value collaboration and teamwork, then ensure you’re a team player by consulting widely among your people.”

Story #2 – The Group Story

The second story you need to tell is about the identity for your group.

“The second story you have to tell is the group or collective story.  This provides some sense of collective identity with which the group can identify. 

Leadership is not about imposing your individual dream, it’s about developing a shared sense of destiny.  It’s about enabling each person to develop a sense of belonging to the group. 

You do this by helping each individual to understand both his or her unique contribution and the distinctive contribution of others.  In other words, adopt a ‘you need me and I need you’ approach.”

Story #3 – The Dream Story

The third story you need to tell is about your dream.

“Once the first two stories are communicated clearly, the real power of your leadership will exist – as it always has – in telling the third story: the destiny or dream story. 

In this story you provide a description of why the group must change, where it is going and how it will get there.  The destiny or dream story provides people with dreams that touch, excite and arouse them — something that ultimately gives them a chance to live out part of their hopes and aspirations.”

Key Take Aways

  • Use stories to help people think, feel and act.   Stories help to share the emotions and context beyond dry facts.  People can connect with stories at a deeper level.  People can also tell and retell stories to spread the message in a simple and effective way.
  • Tell your personal story.   This is the story where you share what you care about and what makes you tick.
  • Tell the group story.  This is the story where you create an identify for the group.
  • Tell the dream story.  This is the story where you paint a picture of the future.

Stories are a great way to share and inspire.

Everybody likes a good story.

The trick is to make the stories relevant and connect at the values, hopes, and dreams.

Choose Love💖

Love is all we need!

You did it! You survived the passage of time and made it to another year, which means it’s time to bask in the fleeting enthusiasm that comes with new resolutions and fresh planners and a slate wiped clean of 2018’s garbage. Savor that feeling, because before you know it, 2019 will become just as exhausting and weird.

However, as we begin this new year with high hopes and ambitions, I have created a Wishlist for my beloved readers so that you not only survive but thrive in every situation.

“Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy. Where there is self-doubting, I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through it. Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, I wish you understanding, patience, and renewed strength. Where there is fear, I wish you courage.”

Over and above all, I wish you Love, because love sums it all up as illustrated in the anecdote below;

A woman came out of her house and saw three old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said, “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.”   “Is the man of the house home?” they asked. “No,” she said, “he’s out.” “Then we cannot come in,” they replied. In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go tell them I am home and invite them in!” The woman went out and invited the men in. “We do not go into a house together,” they replied. “Why is that?” she wanted to know. One of the old men explained, “His name is Wealth,” said pointing to one of his friends, and said, pointing to another one, “He is Success, and I am Love.” Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.” The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!” he said. “since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come in and fill our home with wealth!” His wife disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?” Their daughter-in-law was listening from another corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!” “Let us heed our daughter-in-law’s advice,” said the husband to his wife.” Go out and invite Love to be our guest.” The woman went out and asked the three old men, “Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.” Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other two also got up and followed him. Surprised, the woman asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, why are you coming in?” The old men replied together: ” If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would have stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever he goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is Wealth and Success!!!”

Happy New Year!

Dreamer

twirling

Climbing higher mountains

I will not descend downward

Until after I have conquered that fear

Clasping stars within my hands

They shall not stray from my touch

I am a dreamer

My wings lie in my mind

Where they allow me to divide the clouds

As I ascend through their cotton-like tufts

One cannot pierce my heart with any arrow

It is filled with pure bliss and compassion

No one will ever be able to seize that from me

Although at times my eyes may look wounded

My strength has never fled

6 Reasons your personality is important

 

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Good looks are nice and all, but they can’t hold a candle to a great personality. Your personality facilitates all the important moments in your life, and is what you are really remembered for. Remember how much it matters if you ever get too concerned about personal appearance. Here are six things in particular that make personality important.

1)Because personality is what makes you interesting

Your looks can’t make you interesting, at least not for long or not in a good way. Being interesting is how you grab people’s attention, making personality important virtually whenever you’re in a social setting. Think about the most interesting person you know, and the prettiest/most handsome person you know. Who would you rather be stuck in a room with? Being interesting is also not something that you can fake; just ask all the people who try and fail to do exactly that. Being interesting depends almost entirely on your personality, so if your personality is great then you’re all set.

2)Because personality can change

Even if you don’t have a great personality right now, you can acquire a better one by considering what you can do to become more likeble while, of course, always staying true to yourself. To contrast, you can’t acquire good looks, at least not naturally. That makes personality important in ways appearance can never be. Friends and family and partners want to see you grow as a person as you get older far more that they look forward to seeing you age. If you have a lot of anger buried inside you, for example, people close to you will be very pleased to see you change into a calmer person. No one’s going to be proud of you for getting wrinkles and grey hair.

3)Because personality is how we distinguish ourselves

There are probably hundreds of people across the world who look nearly identical to you. What makes personality important is that it’s what makes us one of a kind. Be the one of a kind you want to be by focusing on your inner qualities. There are a lot of people who haven’t done anything to develop their personalities, so they’re similar to hundreds of people in both looks and personality. A surfer dude with great abs can’t compare to someone with real stories to tell, for example.

4)Because personality can get you further romantically

When you’re trying to woo someone, a great personality is a key ingredient in getting their attention. Good looks may help you get into a conversation with a guy or girl you like, but if you have a boring personality the conversation is as far as it will go. Personality is important to continue that relationship beyond that first meet.

5)Because personality can get you further professionally.

A great personality can help you progress in your career as well as your social and love life. Employers will want to hire you if you have a good rapport with them. Once you have the job, the personality is important to getting in your boss good graces. Again, if you have a good personality the’ll want to spend time with you, which gets you through more doors than you could if you personality wasn’t up to par.

6)Because personality doesn’t fade away

Good looks don’t last. Eventually you grow old and gray; nothing can stop that. What makes personality important is the fact that it will stick with you, even when you’re an old, old man or woman. It will even stay with you after you die. No one remembers someone who passed away by thinking about how handsome they were. They reminisce on the good times they had with them, made possible because of their compatible personalities.