Confidence Quotes

“As is our confidence, so is our capacity.”

Life

  1. “A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for.” – William Shedd
  2. “Knock the ‘t’ off the ‘can’t.’” — Samuel Johnson
  3. “Life marks us all down, so it’s just as well that we start out by overpricing ourselves.”Mignon McLaughlin
  4. “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” — Anaïs Nin
  5. “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
  6. “The man of genius inspires us with a boundless confidence in our own powers.”Ralph Waldo Emerson
  7. “They can do all because they think they can.” – Vergil

8. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” — Henry S. Haskins

  1. “When you have confidence, you can have a lot of fun. And when you have fun, you can do amazing things.” — Joe Namath
  2. “Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.” — Henry Ford

Action

Here are the best confidence quotes on action:

  • “Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.”Norman Vincent Peale
  • “Attempt easy tasks as if they were difficult, and difficult as if they were easy; in the one case that confidence may not fall asleep, in the other that it may not be dismayed.” — Baltasar Gracian
  • “Crystallize your goals. Make a plan for achieving them and set yourself a deadline. Then, with supreme confidence, determination and disregard for obstacles and other people’s criticisms, carry out your plan.” — Paul J. Meyer
  • “Experience tells you what to do; confidence allows you to do it.” — Stan Smith
  • Gather in your resources, rally all your faculties, marshal all your energies, focus all your capacities upon mastery of at least one field of endeavor.” — John Haggai
  • “I think that feeling that if one believed absolutely in any cause, then one must have the confidence, the self-certainty, to go through with that particular course of action.” — Wole Soyinka
  • “I think that the power is the principle. The principle of moving forward, as though you have the confidence to move forward, eventually gives you confidence when you look back and see what you’ve done.” — Robert Downey, Jr.
  • Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” — Dale Carnegie
  • “It is best to act with confidence, no matter how little right you have to it.” — Lillian Hellman
  • “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” — Helen Keller
  • “To win, all you
    need to do is get up one more time than you fall down.”
    — Anonymous

Boldness

Here are the best confidence quotes on boldness:

  • “A great deal of talent is lost to the world for want of a little courage. Every day sends to their graves obscure men whose timidity prevented them from making a first effort.” — Sydney Smith
  • “All of us have wonders hidden in our breasts, only needing circumstances to evoke them.” — Charles Dickens
  • “As long as I can remember I feel I have had this great creative and spiritual force within me that is greater than faith, greater than ambition, greater than confidence, greater than determination, greater than vision. It is all these combined. My brain becomes magnetized with this dominating force which I hold in my hand.” — Bruce Lee
  • Confidence is that feeling by which the mind embarks in great and honorable courses with a sure hope and trust in itself.” – Cicero
  • “Danger breeds best on too much confidence.”Pierre Corneille
  • “Don’t let anyone steal your dream. It’s your dream, not theirs.” — Dan Zadra
  • “Fortune favors the brave.” – Virgil
  • “If you develop the absolute sense of certainty that powerful beliefs provide, then you can get yourself to accomplish virtually anything, including those things that other people are certain are impossible.” — Tony Robbins
  • “Nothing reduces the odds against you like ignoring them.” — Robert Brault
  • “People are slow to claim confidence in undertakings of magnitude.” – Ovid
  • “The man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled.” — Andrew Carnegie
  • “The usual channels of university studies or secretarial work did not appeal to me. I cherished difficult dreams through confidence in myself.” — Ella Maillart
  • “There can be no great courage where there is no confidence or assurance, and half the battle is in the conviction that we can do what we undertake.” — Orison Swett Marden
  • “To me, there is no greater act of courage than being the one who kisses first.” — Janeane Garofalo

Character

Here are the best confidence quotes on character:

  • “Besides pride, loyalty, discipline, heart, and mind, confidence is the key to all the locks.” — Joe Paterno
  • “Confidence contributes more to conversation than wit.” — Francois de La Rochefoucauld
  • “Confidence is at the root of so many attractive qualities, a sense of humor, a sense of style, a willingness to be who you are no matter what anyone else might think or say …” — Wentworth Miller
  • “Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.” — Vince Lombardi
  • “Confidence is courage at ease.” — Daniel Maher
  • “How often in life we complete a task that was beyond the capability of the person we were when we started it.” — Robert Brault
  • He who has faith has… an inward reservoir of courage, hope, confidence, calmness, and assuring trust that all will come out well – even though to the world it may appear to come out most badly.” — B. C. Forbes
  • “I was thinking of my patients, and how the worst moment for them was when they discovered they were masters of their own fate. It was not a matter of bad or good luck. When they could no longer blame fate, they were in despair.” — Anaïs Nin
  • “I’ve always had confidence. It came because I have lots of initiative. I wanted to make something of myself.” — Eddie Murphy
  • “Ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge: it is those who know little, and not those who know much, who so positively assert that this or that problem will never be solved by science.” — Charles Darwin
  • “Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” — Lao Tzu
  • “Leadership is a matter of having people look at you and gain confidence, seeing how you react. If you’re in control, they’re in control.” — Tom Landry
  • “Men give their confidence at once, but never their money.” — Tristan Bernard
  • “Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.” — Sophia Loren
  • “Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people.” — André Dubus
  • “The mark of a truly civilized man is confidence in the strength and security derived from the inquiring mind.”Felix Frankfurter

Competence

Here are the best confidence quotes on competence:

  • “I don’t believe in team motivation. I believe in getting a team prepared so it knows it will have the necessary confidence when it steps on a field and be prepared to play a good game.” — Tom Landry
  • “My intent is simply to know my material so well that I’m very comfortable with it. Confidence, not perfection, is the goal.” — Scott Berkun
  • “Put your future in good hands – your own.” – Anonymous
  • “Regardless of how you feel inside, always try to look like a winner. Even if you are behind, a sustained look of control and confidence can give you a mental edge that results in victory.” — Diane Arbus
  • “Skill and confidence are an unconquered army.” — George Herbert
  • “The big gap between the ability of actors is confidence.” — Kathleen Turner
  • “There is no worse screen to block out the Spirit than confidence in our own intelligence.” — John Calvin
  • “You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.” — Michael Jordan
  • “You need to play with supreme confidence, or else you’ll lose again, and then losing becomes a habit.” — Joe Paterno

Courage / Fear

Here are the best confidence quotes on fear and courage:

  • “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” — Peter T. Mcintyre
  • “Confidence is key. Sometimes, you need to look like you’re confident even when you’re not.” — Vanessa Hudgens
  • “Courage is a mean with regard to fear and confidence.” – Aristotle
  • “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.” — Mark Twain
  • “I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship.” — Louisa May Alcott
  • “I quit being afraid when my first venture failed and the sky didn’t fall down.” — Allen H. Neuharth
  • “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” — Anaïs Nin
  • “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” — William Shakespeare
  • “Self trust is the essence of heroism.” – Emerson
  • “The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.” – Anonymous
  • “We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Critics / Criticism

Here are the best confidence quotes on critics and criticism:

  • “It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.” — Sally Field
  • “Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves.” — Gene Fowler
  • “Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” — Les Brown
  • “Pay no attention to what the critics say. A statue has never been erected in honor of a critic.” — Jean Sibelius
  • “The more we refuse to buy into our inner critics – and our external ones too – the easier it will get to have confidence in our choices, and to feel comfortable with who we are – as women and as mothers.” — Arianna Huffington
  • “We probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of us if we could know how seldom they do.” — Olin Miller
  • “You’re never as good as everyone tells you when you win, and you’re never as bad as they say when you lose.” — Lou Holtz and John Heisler

Limitations

Here are the best confidence quotes on limitations:

  • “A person can grow only as much as his horizon allows.” — John Powell
  • “Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that so it goes on flying anyway.” — Mary Kay Ash
  • “All that Adam had, all that Caesar could, you have and can do…. Build, therefore, your own world.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • “Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, they’re yours.” — Richard Bach
  • “Chiefly the mold of a man’s fortune is in his own hands.” — Francis Bacon
  • “If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” — Thomas Alva Edison
  • “If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” — Vincent Van Gogh
  • “It is folly for a man to pray to the gods for that which he has the power to obtain by himself.” – Epicurus
  • “It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.” — Edmund Hillary
  • “It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.” – Anonymous
  • Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers.” — Mignon McLaughlin
  • “Never dull your shine for somebody else.” — Tyra Banks
  • “No power in society, no hardship in your condition can depress you, keep you down, in knowledge, power, virtue, influence, but by your own consent.” — William Ellery Channing
  • “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance.” — Bruce Barton
  • “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” — Marianne Williamson
  • “The light of starry dreams can only be seen once we escape the blinding cities of disbelief.” — Shawn Purvis
  • Thousands of geniuses live and die undiscovered – either by themselves or by others.” — Mark Twain
  • “Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy.” — Brian Tracy
  • “Whether you come from a council estate or a country estate, your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude.” — Michelle Obama

Self-Confidence

Here are the best confidence quotes on self-confidence:

  • “Always hold your head up, but be careful to keep your nose at a friendly level.” — Max L. Forman
  • “Anyone who ever gave you confidence, you owe them a lot.” — Truman Capote
  • “As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” — Johann von Goethe
  • Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” — Norman Vincent Peale
  • “Confidence comes from hours and days and weeks and years of constant work and dedication.” — Roger Staubach
  • “Confidence is a very fragile thing.” — Joe Montana
  • Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” — Richard Kline
  • Growing up, I started developing confidence in what I felt. My parents helped me to believe in myself. I wasn’t the best looking guy, I wasn’t the best athlete in the world, but they made me feel good about myself.” — Herschel Walker
  • He who closes his ears to the views of others shows little confidence in the integrity of his own views.” — William Congreve
  • I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it.” — Edgar Allan Poe
  • I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time.” — Anna Freud
  • I wouldn’t describe myself as lacking in confidence, but I would just say that – the ghosts you chase you never catch.” — John Malkovich
  • “If a man has been his mother’s undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it.” — Sigmund Freud
  • If you doubt yourself, then indeed you stand on shaky ground.” — Henrik Ibsen
  • “If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started.” – Cicero
  • Once you become self-conscious, there is no end to it; once you start to doubt, there is no room for anything else.” — Mignon McLaughlin
  • Perhaps a child who is fussed over gets a feeling of destiny; he thinks he is the world for something important, and it gives him drive and confidence.” — Benjamin Spock
  • “Self-assurance is contemptible and fatal unless it is self-knowledge.” — George Santayana
  • To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence.” — Mark Twain

Self-Talk

Here are the best confidence quotes on self-talk:

  • “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” — Mark Twain
  • “Men harm others by their deeds, themselves by their thoughts.” — Augustus William Hare and Julius Charles Hare
  • “We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.” — Roderick Thorp
  • What a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates his fate.” — Henry David Thoreau
  • “When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.” — African Proverb

Self-Worth / Self-Esteem

Here are the best confidence quotes on self-worth:

  • “Always act like you’re wearing an invisible crown.” – Anonymous
  • “Be humble, for the worst thing in the world is of the same stuff as you; be confident, for the stars are of the same stuff as you.” — Nicholai Velimirovic
  • “Be proud to wear you.” – Dodinsky
  • “Everybody wants to be somebody. The thing you have to do is give them confidence they can. You have to give a kid a dream.” — George Foreman
  • I am not a has-been. I am a will be.” — Lauren Bacall
  • If I am not for myself, who will be?” — Pirke Avoth
  • If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • “If you must love your neighbor as yourself, it is at least as fair to love yourself as your neighbor.” — Nicholas de Chamfort
  • “If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.” – Anonymous
  • “It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.” — W.C. Fields
  • “Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself.” — Michel de Montaigne
  • “Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” — Marie Curie
  • “Life marks us all down, so it’s just as well that we start out by overpricing ourselves.” — Mignon McLaughlin
  • “Of all our infirmities, the most savage is to despise our being.” — Michel de Montaigne
  • People are crying up the rich and variegated plumage of the peacock, and he is himself blushing at the sight of his ugly feet.” — Sa’Di
  • Self-love seems so often unrequited.” — Anthony Powell
  • “The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, in spite of being unacceptable.” — Paul Tillich
  • The greater the artist, the greater the doubt. Perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a consolation prize.” — Robert Hughes
  • The things we hate about ourselves aren’t more real than things we like about ourselves.” — Ellen Goodman
  • “The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.” — Sonya Friedman
  • “They are the weakest, however strong, who have no faith in themselves or their own powers.” — Christian Bovee
  • Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” — Norman Vincent Peale
  • “Your problem is you’re… too busy holding onto your unworthiness.” — Ram Dass
  • “Your value is the product of your thoughts. Do not miscalculate your self worth by multiplying your insecurities.” – Dodinsky
  • “Your success depends mainly upon what you think of yourself and whether you believe in yourself.” — William J. H. Boetcker

General

Here are the best confidence quotes that are about confidence in general:

  • “A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her.” — David Brinkley
  • “A timid question will always receive a confident answer.”—Lord Darling
  • “Confidence … thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.” — Franklin D. Roosevelt
  • “Confidence is the most important single factor in this game, and no matter how great your natural talent, there is only one way to obtain and sustain it: work.” – Jack Nicklaus
  • “Discipline is based on pride, on meticulous attention to details, and on mutual respect and confidence. Discipline must be a habit so ingrained that it is stronger than the excitement of the goal or the fear of failure.” — Gary Ryan Blair
  • “He who has lost confidence can lose nothing more.” – Boiste
  • “Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend. Non-being is the greatest joy.” — Lao Tzu
  • Honor bespeaks worth. Confidence begets trust. Service brings satisfaction. Cooperation proves the quality of leadership.” — James Cash Penney
  • “In the kingdom of hope there is no winter.” — Russian proverb
  • “It is not so much our friends’ help that helps us, as the confidence of their help.” – Epicurus
  • “It’s hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head.” — Sally Kempton
  • “Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • “Logic is the art of going wrong with confidence.” — Joseph Wood Krutch
  • “No man has the right to dictate what other men should perceive, create or produce, but all should be encouraged to reveal themselves, their perceptions and emotions, and to build confidence in the creative spirit.” — Ansel Adams
  • “The circulation of confidence is better than the circulation of money.” — James Madison
  • “We are like the little branch that quivers during a storm, doubting our strength and forgetting we are the tree – deeply rooted to withstand all of life’s upheavals.” – Dodinsky
  • “We must keep on trying to solve problems, one by one, stage by stage, if not on the basis of confidence and cooperation, at least on that of mutual toleration and self-interest.” — Lester B. Pearson
  • “When a team outgrows individual performance and learns team confidence, excellence becomes a reality.” — Joe Paterno
  • “Winning breeds confidence and confidence breeds winning.” — Hubert Green

Why 23rd of November should be a national holiday!

Happy birthday Freddie!!!

 

God gave a gift to the world when you were born,

I celebrate your wonderful self!

Your birthday is as much a celebration for me as it is for you,

Maybe more,

A person who loves, who cares,

Someone who touches each life she enters,

And makes a difference in the world,

Because ripples of kindness flow outward,

As each person you have touched, touches others.

Your birthday deserves to be a national holiday,

Because you are special; you are peak,

One of a kind, you are unique,

For all that you’ve done,

May the love you have shown to others

Return to you, multiplied.

I wish you the happiest of birthdays.

And many, many more,

So that others have time to appreciate you

As much as I do!!!

 

Always Joseph.

 

Relationships!!

Make each day count!!

 

 

 
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She s

at down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ♥