17 Counterintuitive Things Successful People Do

Success

Success

1) They pick fights to test others resolve in their own beliefs.

in business you can’t turn over the reins to someone who doesn’t know how to defend their own ideas and plans.

2) Isolate yourself to re-energize

if you charge when you are by yourself you need to seek out isolation from time to time.

3)Purposefully offend

Sometimes the only way to get someones attention is to call him or her out

4)Hyper self critical

of your own standards and choices

5)Peacock

Don’t give others the option not to see you or hear your message.

6)Repeat mistakes enough times until we really learn the lesson

We hardly learn anything truly worthwhile one try.

7)Seek out rejection to get dis-sensitized to the fear of it

Once we lose the fear of rejection, we more easily go after what we want, and thus get more of it.

8)Ignore consensus

when your own data and foresight is convincingly contrary to the wisdom of the crowd

9)Expect nothing in return for helping your peers

10)Quit those en devours you will never win at and take a new swing at the plate

don’t double down on a losing effort by not knowing when to walk away.

11)Play possum with your competitors

Don’t be so eager to show off your strengths until it’s the perfect time to strike

12)Get C’s instead of A’s

If you excel in non-traditional environments (like Entrepreneurs) & can justify the opportunity cost of your time.

13)Become indifferent to slights

Because time and energy are too valuable to waste on petty matters

14)Self Sabotage yourself when you find yourself mired in complacency

Don’t ever get too comfortable  with the status quo, always be willing to blow it up and start all over again to truly create something better

15)Abstain from work which others can do for you

Delegate every task that others can do 80% as well as you, and focus on those items that only you can achieve that have big payoffs.

16)Plot and scheme your next couple moves ahead

know where you are going far in advance of making your first move.

17)Underestimate demand for your products and services

Don’t ever assume people want what you got, and you will always have the appropriate amount of urgency and hustle to validate what you are trying to achieve.

Valentines Quotes

Panganay!

Panganay!

 

Broken Hearts and Loss

  • ‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. – Alfred Lord Tennyson
  • Hearts will be practical only when they are made unbreakable. – The Wizard of Oz
  • How come we don’t always know when love begins, but we always know when it ends? – L.A. Story
  • If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on, is to remember them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever. – The Crow
  • If you love something, set it free; if it comes back it’s yours, if it doesn’t, it never was. – Richard Bach
  • Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop. – Unknown
  • That’s why they call them crushes. If they were easy, they’d call them something else. – Sixteen Candles
  • The hottest love has the coldest end. – Socrates
  • The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned. – William Somerset Maugham
  • To fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful. – Bess Myerson
  • Who do you turn to when the only person in the world that can stop you from crying, is exactly the one making you cry? – Unknown

Falling in Love

  • A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears. – Woodrow Wyatt
  • Do you ever put your arms out and just spin and spin and spin? Well, that’s what love is like. Everything inside of you tells you to stop before you fall, but you just keep going. – Practical Magic
  • Do you want to know the easiest way to fall in love? Just associate with all your pleasant experiences with someone, and disassociate from all the unpleasant ones. — Richard Bandler
  • Fate exists but it can only take you so far, because once you’re there, it’s up to you to make it happen. – Can’t Hardly Wait
  • Love is like a butterfly, it settles upon you when you least expect it. – Unknown
  • To be loved, be lovable. – Unknown
  • Wise men say, only fools rush in. But I can’t help falling in love with you. – Elvis Presley

Fear

  • If you love someone you say it, you say it right then, out loud. Otherwise the moment just … passes you by. – My Best friend’s Wedding
  • I would rather have eyes that cannot see; ears that cannot hear; lips that cannot speak, than a heart that cannot love. – Robert Tizon
  • Tell her that you love her. You’ve got nothing to lose, and you’ll always regret it if you don’t. – Love Actually
  • You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.- Barbara De Angelis
  • What is love … Oh baby, don’t hurt me … Don’t hurt me no more. – Haddaway

Fun

  • If love is the answer, can you please repeat the question? – Unknown
  • Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience. – Samuel Johnson
  • My husband and I fell in love at first sight… maybe I should have taken a second look. – Crimes and Misdemeanors
  • Nothing spoils the taste of peanut butter like unrequited love. – Charlie Brown
  • Swoon. I’ll catch you. – The English Patient
  • You are what I never knew I always wanted. – Fools Rush In
  • You can’t put a price tag on love, but you can on all its accessories. – Melanie Clark
  • Your heart is my piñata. – Chuck Palahniuk

Kissing

  • A kiss isn’t worth anything until you give it to somebody else. – Unknown
  • For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul. – Judy Garland
  • Kiss me. Kiss me as if it were the last time. – Casablanca
  • There have been five great kisses since 1642 B.C. (before then couples hooked thumbs) … and the precise rating of kisses is a terribly difficult thing, often leading to great controversy.  Well, this one left them all behind. – The Princess Bride
  • What do you want to marry me for anyhow? … So I can kiss you anytime I want. – Sweet Home Alabama
  • You know, that moment when you kiss someone and everything around you becomes hazy. And the only thing in focus is you and that person. And you realize that that person is the only person that you’re supposed to kiss for the rest of your life. And for one moment you get this gift. And you want to laugh and you want to cry because you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared that it will go away all at the same time. – Never Been Kissed

Love and Life

  • A life filled with love must have some thorns, but a life empty of love will have no roses. – Unknown
  • All our young lives we search for someone to love, someone to make us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope, all the while wondering if somewhere, somehow, someone perfect is searching for us. – The Wonder Years
  • Beginnings are usually scary and endings are usually sad, but it’s everything in between that makes it all worth living. – Hope Floats
  • Life is messy. Love is messier. – Catch and Release
  • Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made – like bread, remade all the time, made new. – Ursula K. LeGuin
  • Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away. – Elbert Hubbard
  • Love makes life so confusing, but without love would you really want to live? – Unknown
  • The rules of fair play do not apply in love and war.- John Lyly
  • The secret of love is seeking variety in your life together, and never letting routine chords dull the melody of your romance.- Unknown

Significance and Meaning

  • I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. – Roy Croft
  • No one is perfect until you fall in love with them. – Unknown
  • The greatest possession we have costs nothing, it’s known as love. – Brian Jett
  • There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love. – Don Juan DeMarco
  • To be able to say how much you love is to love but little.- Petrarch
  • To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world. – Unknown
  • We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love. – Mother Teresa
  • What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. – William Shakespeare
  • You will see a lot of things, but they will mean nothing to you, if you lose sight of the thing you love. – At First Sight

The Power of Love

  • All you need is love, love, love is all you need. – The Beatles
  • Faith makes all things possible. Love makes them easy. – Unknown
  • I will find you. No matter how long it will take, no matter how far. – The Last Of The Mohicans
  • Let your heart guide you. It whispers so listen carefully. – The Land Before Time
  • Love has given me wings, so I must fly. – A Knight’s Tale
  • Love is like a knife, it can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that will last a lifetime. – Unknown
  • Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place, suddenly it moves with such a perfect grace, suddenly my life doesn’t seem such a waste, it all revolves around you. – Moulin Rouge
  • Take love, multiply it by infinity and take it to the depths of forever.. and you still have only a glimpse of how I feel for you. – Meet Joe Black
  • The best love is the kind that weakens the soul, that makes us reach for more, that plants fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I hope to give to you forever. – The Notebook
  • When a man loves a woman, he can’t keep his mind on nothing else. – Percy Sledge
  • When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace. – Jimi Hendrix

True Love

  • Don’t say we aren’t right for each other, the way i see it is … we aren’t right for anyone else. – The Cutting Edge
  • Have you never met a woman who inspires you to love? Until your every sense is filled with her? You inhale her. You taste her. You see your unborn children in her eyes and know that your heart has at last found a home. Your life begins with her, and without her it must surely end. – Don Juan DeMarco
  • I am someone else when I’m with you, someone more like myself. – Original Sin
  • I wonder how many people never get the one they want, but end up with the one they’re supposed to have. – Fried Green Tomatoes
  • Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man. – Unknown
  • This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime. – Bridges of Madison County
  • True love cannot be found where it does not truly exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does. – Kissing A Fool
  • True love is like a fine wine, the older the better. – Fred Jacob
  • True love is when your heart and your minds are saying the same thing.- Leanna L. Bartram
  • Trying to make someone fall in love with you is about as pointless as trying to control who you fall in love with. – Unknown
  • You’re not perfect sport, and let me save you the suspense, this girl you met, she isn’t perfect either. But the question is whether or not you’re perfect for each other. – Good Will Hunting
  • We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. – Unknown

General

  • A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. –Mignon McLaughlin
  • An immature love says I love you because I need you, but a mature love says I need you because I love you. – Unknown
  • I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love. – Mother Teresa
  • I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I’ve ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours. – The Notebook
  • In these dreams I’ve loved you so, that by now I think I know what it’s like to be loved by you. I will love being loved by you. – The King and I
  • I’ve been saying it so long to you, you just wouldn’t listen. Every time you said ‘Farm Boy do this’ you thought I was answering ‘As you wish’ but that’s only because you were hearing wrong. ‘I love you’ was what it was, but you never heard. – The Princess Bride
  • Love comforteth like sunshine after rain. – William Shakespeare
  • Summer romances begin for all kinds of reasons, but when all is said and done, they have one thing in common. They’re shooting stars, a spectacular moment of light in the heavens, fleeting glimpse of eternity, and in a flash they’re gone. – The Notebook
  • The heart has its reasons that reason does not know.- Pascal
  • The mark of a true crush, Is that you fall in love first, and grope for reasons afterward. -Shana Alexander
  • What will NY152 say today, I wonder. I turn on my computer, I wait impatiently as it boots up. I go online, and my breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words: You’ve got mail. I hear nothing, not even a sound on the streets of New York, just the beat of my own heart. I have mail. From you. – You’ve Got Mail
  • When they ask me what I liked best, I’ll tell them it was you. – City Of Angels

 

Merry Christmas!!!!!!!!!!!

Merrry Christmas.

Merrry Christmas.

 

Christmas Time is finally here,
It only comes but once a year.
And it’s a  time to spread good cheer,
To those we love and hold so  dear.

Christmas Time is a time of glee,
A time when peace and love run  free.
A time for those like you and me,
To sit beneath the Christmas  Tree.

Christmas Time is a time of joy,
A time to sit back and  enjoy.
The smile on each girl and boy,
As they play with a Christmas  Toy.

Christmas Time is a time to share,
The passing of another  year.
Birth of Jesus, a joyful prayer,
To show loved ones how much we  care.

Christmas Time is a time for song,
A time for us to get  along.
To make us feel Lord Jesus strong,
Forgive all those who did us  wrong.

Christmas Time is a time to pray,
Put love and kindness on  display.
Show compassion along the way,
Christmas Time should be everyday

by Ronald Doe

 

Why 23rd of November should be a national holiday!

Happy birthday Freddie!!!

 

God gave a gift to the world when you were born,

I celebrate your wonderful self!

Your birthday is as much a celebration for me as it is for you,

Maybe more,

A person who loves, who cares,

Someone who touches each life she enters,

And makes a difference in the world,

Because ripples of kindness flow outward,

As each person you have touched, touches others.

Your birthday deserves to be a national holiday,

Because you are special; you are peak,

One of a kind, you are unique,

For all that you’ve done,

May the love you have shown to others

Return to you, multiplied.

I wish you the happiest of birthdays.

And many, many more,

So that others have time to appreciate you

As much as I do!!!

 

Always Joseph.

 

Relationships!!

Make each day count!!

 

 

 
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She s

at down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ♥

Old Flame!

Panganay

Through the months

I have consistently thought of you

My heart longs for your tender love

Sweet beautiful like the evening sun

Warm and unique like who you really are

Time and again

As I constantly reminisced of us

It finally dawned on me that we were meant to be

And though circumstances tried to pull us apart

I know our deep love for each other will pull us through

So criminal to keep lovebirds asunder

As the time away from you was most painful for me

Here I am making amends for letting you go

And fighting for the love of my life, with every fiber in me

Fully acknowledging that my life without you is incomplete…

always and forever

jambu.

Gandhi Quotes

Awesome Leader

Top 10 Gandhi Quotes

  1. “Imitation is the sincerest flattery.”
  2. “In a gentle way, you can shake the world.”
  3. “I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.”
  4. “In matters of conscience, the law of the majority has no place.”
  5. “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
  6. “My life is my message.”
  7. “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
  8. “Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory.”
  9. “There is more to life than increasing its speed.”
  10. “Truth stands, even if there be no public support. It is self-sustained.”

Action

  • “A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.”
  • “Action expresses priorities.”
  • “Action is no less necessary than thought to the instinctive tendencies of the human frame.”
  • “Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”
  • An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”
  • “Glory lies in the attempt to reach one’s goal and not in reaching it.”
  • “Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory.”
  • “The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.”
  • “The moment there is suspicion about a person’s motives, everything he does becomes tainted.”
  • “To give pleasure to a single heart by a single act is better than a thousand heads bowing in prayer.”
  • “Unwearied ceaseless effort is the price that must be paid for turning faith into a rich infallible experience.”

Anger

  • “Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.”
  • “Anger is the enemy of non-violence and pride is a monster that swallows it up.”
  • “Man should forget his anger before he lies down to sleep.”

Compassion, Love, and Heart

  • “A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave.”
  • “Culture of the mind must be subservient to the heart.”
  • “In prayer it is better to have a heart without words than words without a heart.”
  • “Justice that love gives is a surrender, justice that law gives is a punishment.”
  • “Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.”
  • “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
  • “There is a sufficiency in the world for man’s need but not for man’s greed.”
  • “We may have our private opinions but why should they be a bar to the meeting of hearts?”
  • “Where there is love there is life.“

Conviction and Will

  • “A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.”
  • “Everyone who wills can hear the inner voice. It is within everyone.”
  • “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”
  • “I am prepared to die, but there is no cause for which I am prepared to kill.”
  • “It is any day better to stand erect with a broken and bandaged head then to crawl on one’s belly, in order to be able to save one’s head.”
  • “Nearly everything you do is of no importance, but it is important that you do it.”
  • “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”
  • “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”
  • “The human voice can never reach the distance that is covered by the still small voice of conscience.”
  • “The only tyrant I accept in this world is the still voice within.”
  • “To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”

Flaws, Faults, and Errors

  • “An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it. “
  • “Confession of errors is like a broom which sweeps away the dirt and leaves the surface brighter and clearer. I feel stronger for confession.”
  • “I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”
  • “I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.”

Fear

  • “Fear has its use but cowardice has none.”
  • “Fear of death makes us devoid both of valour and religion. For want of valour is want of religious faith.”

Freedom

  • “Freedom is never dear at any price. It is the breath of life. What would a man not pay for living?”
  • “Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err.”
  • “You can chain me, you can torture me, you can even destroy this body, but you will never imprison my mind.”

Humanity and Goodness

  • “There is no principle worth the name if it is not wholly good.”
  • “To deprive a man of his natural liberty and to deny to him the ordinary amenities of life is worse then starving the body; it is starvation of the soul, the dweller in the body.”
  • “We win justice quickest by rendering justice to the other party.”
  • “You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.”

Living

  • “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
  • “I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”
  • “If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.
    Imitation is the sincerest flattery. “
  • “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.”
  • “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
  • “Man falls from the pursuit of the ideal of plan living and high thinking the moment he wants to multiply his daily wants. Man’s happiness really lies in contentment.”
  • “Nearly everything you do is of no importance, but it is important that you do it.”
  • “Providence has its appointed hour for everything. We cannot command results, we can only strive.”
  • “Purity of personal life is the one indispensable condition for building up a sound education.”
  • “Rights that do not flow from duty well performed are not worth having.”
  • “The main purpose of life is to live rightly, think rightly, act rightly. The soul must languish when we give all our thought to the body.”
  • “Those who know how to think need no teachers.”
  • “We do not need to proselytize either by our speech or by our writing. We can only do so really with our lives. Let our lives be open books for all to study.”

Peace, Gentleness, and Non-Violence

  • “An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.“
  • “Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.”
  • “Gentleness, self-sacrifice and generosity are the exclusive possession of no one race or religion.”
  • “It is better to be violent, if there is violence in our hearts, than to put on the cloak of nonviolence to cover impotence.”
  • “Non-violence and truth are inseparable and presuppose one another.”
  • “Non-violence is not a garment to be put on and off at will. Its seat is in the heart, and it must be an inseparable part of our being.”
  • “Non-violence is the first article of my faith. It is also the last article of my creed.”
  • “Non-violence is the greatest force at the disposal of mankind. It is mightier than the mightiest weapon of destruction devised by the ingenuity of man.”
  • “Non-violence requires a double faith, faith in God and also faith in man.”
  • “Non-violence, which is the quality of the heart, cannot come by an appeal to the brain.”
  • “Peace is its own reward.”
  • “We may never be strong enough to be entirely nonviolent in thought, word and deed. But we must keep nonviolence as our goal and make strong progress towards it.“

Religion and Faith

  • “All the religions of the world, while they may differ in other respects, unitedly proclaim that nothing lives in this world but Truth.“
  • “Each one prays to God according to his own light.”
  • Every formula of every religion has in this age of reason, to submit to the acid test of reason and universal assent.”
  • “Faith is not something to grasp, it is a state to grow into.”
  • “Faith… must be enforced by reason… when faith becomes blind it dies.”
  • “I believe in the fundamental truth of all great religions of the world.”
  • “I reject any religious doctrine that does not appeal to reason and is in conflict with morality.”
  • “In prayer it is better to have a heart without words than words without a heart.”
  • “It is easy enough to be friendly to one’s friends. But to befriend the one who regards himself as your enemy is the quintessence of true religion. The other is mere business.”
  • “One’s own religion is after all a matter between oneself and one’s Maker and no one else’s.”
  • “Spiritual relationship is far more precious than physical. Physical relationship divorced from spiritual is body without soul.”
  • “The essence of all religions is one. Only their approaches are different.”

Service

  • “Man becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the welfare of his fellow-men.”
  • “Service which is rendered without joy helps neither the servant nor the served. But all other pleasures and possessions pale into nothingness before service which is rendered in a spirit of joy.”
  • “That service is the noblest which is rendered for its own sake.”
  • “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”

Truth

  • “Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is the truth.”
  • “I have nothing new to teach the world. Truth and Non-violence are as old as the hills. All I have done is to try experiments in both on as vast a scale as I could.”
  • “In matters of conscience, the law of the majority has no place.”
  • “The pursuit of truth does not permit violence on one’s opponent.”
  • “Truth is by nature self-evident. As soon as you remove the cobwebs of ignorance that surround it, it shines clear.”
  • “Truth never damages a cause that is just.”
  • “What is true of the individual will be tomorrow true of the whole nation if individuals will but refuse to lose heart and hope.”

Finally-     “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” — Mahatma Gandhi

Positive Mantras

 

There is an popular expression in the world of startups “fake it till you make it”.  You might not be there yet, but you have to believe first in order to get there.

One “trick” I learned from the world of personal development is that of having positive “mantras” or “affirmations”.  You see we all live in our own reality, and if your version of reality is positive and productive than you will also be positive and productive in the “real world”.

The Sanskrit word mantra is made up of the root man “to think” and the suffix -tra meaning instruments, so a literal translation would be “instrument of thought”.  Mantras have been used for many centuries to help people develop more positive mindsets in most religions through prayer for instance.

Having positive mantras enables you to live life the way you want and once in a while when you forget, you can repeat your choosen mantras.  You will feel and have a positive impact by having these.

Here is a list of my own “mantra” that I have written out.  I have these stored on my cell phone so that I can repeat them once in a while – ideally everyday and especially when things seem “challenging”:

  • I can achieve anything I put my mind to.
  • I can make anything happen.
  • I am an awesome person that people love to be around.
  • I have a great ability to speak, write and teach.
  • I add value to my friends, family, employees and people that know me.
  • Opportunities, wealth and people come naturally and easily to me.
  • I am a naturally lucky person.
  • I travel the world and have amazing experiences that continously help me grow as a person.
  • I am attractive to all women.
  • I learn things easily.
  • I make friends easily.
  • I eat well naturally and excercise is a natural part of my routine.
  • I am satisfied spirtually.
  • I have a profitable corporation that has a huge impact on the community.
  • My words change the world in a postive way.
  • I am a global leader in terms of education, internet and wealth creation.
  • I motivate people globally and help them find their purpose.
  • I am a positve role model.
  • My life is peaceful and enjoyable.
  • I am with the woman of my dreams and love to be around her.
  • I love my life.
  • Everything happens for a positive reason.
  • I create educational products, software and businesses that people love to use.
  • I live a life of luxury.
  • I am creative and am proactive in getting things done.
  • I am organized and relaxed.
  • I have a company that runs itself and continues to grow in profit and impact.
  • I am in perfect heath.
  • I have positive and healthy habits.
  • I have a positive peer group.
  • I am internally motivated constantly and consistantly.
  • The world is a better place because of me.
  • People in my life are positive and successful.
  • I am surrounded by family/friends/employees/partners that are positive role models for myself and others.
  • I am happy and fulfilled.

Tips for writing mantras

1.  Write out in the positive rather than negative.  So instead of writing “I am not stressed”, I have written out “I am organized and relaxed”.  This is because the mind does not work in negatives.  So if I tell you “don’t think of a pink elephant” chances are that you are thinking of a pink elephant.  So if you write “I am not a smoker”, chances are you are thinking about “smoking”.  Write “I have healthy habits” or something else positive instead.

2.  Write in the present.  Instead of “I will someday be happy and fulfilled.”, I wrote “I am happy and fulfilled.”.  If you are always thinking in the future, than it will always remain in the future.

3.  Do it now.  They say that the longer you wait before learning something and actually doing it, the less likely it is to happen.  So if you take out a pen or use the “notes” of your cell phone to write out your mantras now, it is more likely to happen.

In an ideal world what would be true?

Let me know when this works for you, and if you got any others that I have missed write them in the comment below or let me so I can add them to my own list!

Always Be

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Always,
Be understanding to your enemies.
Be loyal to your friends.
Be strong enough to face the world each day.
Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything alone.
Always,
Be generous to those who need your help.
Be frugal with that you need yourself.
Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.
Be smart enough to continue learning.
Always,
Be willing to share your joys.
Be willing to share the sorrows of others.
Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.
Be a follower when you are shrouded by the mists of uncertainty.
Always,
Be first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.
Be last to criticize a colleague who fails.
Be sure where your next step will fall, so that you will not tumble.
Be sure of your final destination, by setting your goals along the way.
Above all,
always be yourself.

 
Poet Unknown

 

Lifting and Leaning

There are two kinds of people on earth today,
Just two kinds of people, no more, I say.

Not the good and the bad, for ’tis well understood
The good are half bad and the bad are half good.

Not the happy and sad, for the swift-flying years
Brings each man his laughter and each man his tears.

Not the rich and the poor, for to count a man’s wealth
You must first know the state of his conscience and health.

Not the humble and proud, for in life’s busy span
He who puts on vain airs is not counted a man.

No! The two kinds of people on earth I mean
Are the people who lift and the people who lean.

Wherever you go you will find the world’s masses
Are ever divided in just two classes.

And, strangely enough, you will find, too, I ween,
There is only one lifter to twenty who lean.

In which class are you? Are you easing the load
Of overtaxed lifters who toil down the road?

Or are you a leaner who lets others bear
Your portion of worry and labor and care?


Poet: Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Don’t Give It Up

S W E A T

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Today life gave you another slap
but don’t give it up
throwing your towel in the ring
for things gone wrong, for words that sting
‘cos there must be another way
you will see it in the light of another day
When everything seems sour, not in your favour
look around until you find better flavour
so, don’t just give but live it up
pick up the pieces, be tough
grind your teeth and turn another cheek
don’t give it up, that’s exactly what they seek
It’s too easy to walk away
quitter never wins so you should better stay
look challenges straight in the eye
don’t say yet the last good-bye
fight like an animal in a trap
but don’t give it up

 

Poet: Z. Vujcic

What Counts

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It isn’t the money you’re making,
it isn’t the clothes you wear,
And it isn’t the skill of your good right hand which makes folks really care.
It’s the smile on your face and
the light of your eye and the burdens that you bear.


Most any old man can tell you, most any old man at all,
Who has lived through all sorts of weather, winter and summer and fall,
That riches and fame are shadows that dance on the garden wall.


It’s how do you live and neighbor, how do you work and play,
It’s how do you say “good morning” to the people along the way,
And it’s how do you face your troubles whenever your skies are gray.


It’s you, from the dawn to nighttime; you when the day is fair,
You when the storm is raging – how do you face despair?
It is you that the world discovers, whatever the clothes you wear.


You to the end of the journey,
kindly and brave and true,
The best and the worst of you gleaming in all that you say and do,
And the ting that counts isn’t money,
or glory, or power, but YOU!

Poet: Edgar A Guest

 

May You Have

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May you have……

Enough happiness
to keep you sweet,

Enough trials
to keep you strong,
Enough sorrow
to keep you human,

Enough hope
to keep you happy;
Enough failure
to keep you humble,

Enough success
to keep you eager,
Enough friends
to give you comfort,

Enough wealth
to meet your needs;
Enough enthusiasm
to look forward,

Enough faith
to banish depression,
Enough determination
to make each day better than yesterday.

Poet Unknown

Things Work Out

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Because it rains when we wish it wouldn’t,
Because men do what they often shouldn’t,
Because crops fail, and plans go wrong-
Some of us grumble all day long.
But somehow, in spite of the care and doubt,
It seems at last that things work out.


Because we lose where we hoped to gain,
Because we suffer a little pain,
Because we must work when we’d like to play-
Some of us whimper along life’s way.
But somehow, as day always follows the night,
Most of our troubles work out all right.


Because we cannot forever smile,
Because we must trudge in the dust awhile,
Because we think that the way is long-
Some of us whimper that life’s all wrong.
But somehow we live and our sky grows bright,
And everything seems to work out all right.


So bend to your trouble and meet your care,
For the clouds must break, and the sky grow fair.
Let the rain come down, as it must and will,
But keep on working and hoping still.
For in spite of the grumblers who stand about,
Somehow, it seems, all things work out.

Poet: Edgar A. Guest

 

Believe In Yourself

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There may be days when you get up in the morning
and things aren’t the way you had hoped they would be,
that’s when you have to tell yourself
that things will get better.

There are times when people disappoint you and let you down,
but those are the times when you must remind yourself
to trust your own judgments and opinions, to keep your
life focused on believing in yourself
and all that you are capable of.

There will be challenges to face and
changes to make in your life,
and it is up to you to accept them.

Constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction for you.

It may not be easy at times,
but in those times of struggle
you will find a stronger sense of who you are,
so when the days come that are filled with
frustration and unexpected responsibilities,
remember to believe in yourself and all you want your life to be,
because the challenges and changes will only help you to
find the goals that you know are meant to come true for you.

Keep believing in yourself.

By Author Unknown

 

Dreamer

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Climbing higher mountains

I will not descend downward

Until after I have conquered that fear

Clasping stars within my hands

They shall not stray from my touch

I am a dreamer

My wings lie in my mind

Where they allow me to divide the clouds

As I ascend through their cotton-like tufts

One cannot pierce my heart with any arrow

It is filled with pure bliss and compassion

No one will ever be able to seize that from me

Although at times my eyes may look wounded

My strength has never fled

 


Poet: Michelle Keesling

 

A – Z of Quotes

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A—”Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” Lou Holtz

B— “Believing in yourself is not for you; it’s for every person who has touched your life in a significant way and for every person your life will touch the same way five minutes from now, or five centuries from now.” Jaye Miller

C—”Change is as inexorable as time, yet nothing meets with more resistance.” Benjamin Disraeli

D—”Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the action stems the dream again; and this interdependence produces the highest form of living.” Anais Nin

E—”Enthusiasm releases the drive to carry you over obstacles and adds significance to all you do.” Norman Vincent Peale

F—”Focused will is incredible. If you have a dream and you don’t give up no matter what obstacles come up, then life’s problems will fall away and you will get what you want. It happens. It works.” Yanni

G—”Goals are like a map. They help us determine where we want to end up, and give us personal direction on which to focus our energy.” Catherine Pulsifer

H—”Happiness depends upon ourselves.” Aristotle

I—”Ideas won’t keep; something must be done about them.” Alfred North Whitehead

J—”Joy is not in things; it is in us.”Richard Wagner

K—“Knowledge is of two kinds. We know a subject ourselves, or we know where we can find information on it.” Samuel Johnson

L—”Laughter is a tranquilizer with no side effects.” Arnold Glasow

M—”Motivation is like food for the brain. You cannot get enough in one sitting. It needs continual and regular top ups.” Peter Davies

N—”Nature does nothing uselessly.” Aristotle

O—”Opportunity dances with those who are ready on the dance floor.” H. Jackson Brown Jr.

P—”Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.” John Quincy Adams

Q—”Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” Anthony Robbins

R—”Results! Why, man I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that won’t work.” Thomas A. Edison

S—”Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Leonardo DaVinci

T—”Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend.” Diogenes Laetius

U—”Use your unique abilities to shake the world.” Wendy Hearn

V—”Victory belongs to the most persevering.” Napoleon Bonaparte

W—”Wisdom is the daughter of experience.” Leonardo da Vinci

X—”X-ray your life, are you where you want to be, if not set your goals, take action.” Catherine Pulsifer

Y—”Youth teaches, age puts what we have learned into practice, teaching us wisdom.” Catherine Pulsifer

Z—”Zone into your comfort zone, and, then zone into where you want to be. Be all that you can be.” Catherine Pulsifer

 

 

Promise Yourself

Promise yourself….

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

By Christian D. Larson